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Zero patience during lockdown

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Anon234 Thu 21-May-20 10:35:57

3 DC aged 5 and under, the youngest is going through teething hell and is CONSTANTLY grizzling/crying. She doesn't stop. DH is working from home but is working really long hours so it's me and the kids from the time they get up until bedtime. I'm losing my mind. I have no patience with them which in turn makes me feel like the worst mother in the world. I'm tired, I'm grumpy, I'm bored and I'm beating myself up over the fact that we are doing no home schooling. Due to my lack of patience, all attempts at home schooling have ended in tears (from all of us).
Just writing this down has made me cry because it confirms my worst fears that I'm being an awful mum. I'm shouting at them a lot which I really hate myself for.
Is anyone else finding that lockdown is making them the worst version of themselves?

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LastTrainEast Thu 21-May-20 10:50:59

Anon234 I don't have little ones at home any more, but everyone I know is struggling so it's not just you. It's making everyone crazy.

While you can keep them safe and fed you should call that a win for now. Don't worry about anything else for the time being.

sleepismysuperpower1 Thu 21-May-20 10:54:01

I feel the same. My oldest 2 can get on with things by themselves but my 5yo twins are wearing me down. Have you tried live videos? captain fantastic kids do a variety of live shows, you can either watch them live on facebook or catch up on youtube. They do things like dance and fitness, but also English and maths. the little gym are offering gymnastics classes for different age ranges (things like forward rolls for older ones and toe touching for younger ones etc). The videos seem to entertain them, I guess because it's almost like the person is speaking to them, so holds their attention.

all the best x

T0tallyFuckedUpFamily Thu 21-May-20 10:55:43

Good grief woman, stop the home schooling, for a start! At five years of age your child is not going to suffer a hit from lack of schooling. Just do fun things with her, like reading, drawing, etc. I know you said your husband is working long hours, but is he actually working as I’ve seen so many stories on here about men opting out by claiming to be too busy to help with the children. He needs to sort out his working hours and support you a lot more.

Teacaketotty Thu 21-May-20 10:58:53

I agree, don’t worry about the schooling at this point. Just keep them safe, occupied, fed and clean and take that as a win!

recycledteenager24 Thu 21-May-20 11:02:57

no 5 year old needs home schooling, just concentrate on getting through what needs to be done, as long as the basics are covered with housework are covered and everyone is fed and clothed that's all that matters.

Porridgeoat Thu 21-May-20 11:03:02

Under fives don’t need homeschooling, they just need to play. Start taking them out for picnics and paddling.

DH needs to have the kids for an hour each day so you have respite. Maybe he puts them to bed while you go for a walk?

StrugglingWithThisNow29 Thu 21-May-20 11:04:51

I thought i was coping fairly well but this past week or so has been really really hard ( 5 & 3 )

I have wrote on my arm today in black pen

Count to 10
No shouting

So far it is helping, I was getting cross at DS earlier and caught myself just before i raised my voice. I've showed my 5 year old how to do a breathing technique if their getting cross.

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