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Areyouhavingapoomum Wed 20-May-20 18:44:15

We have moved cross country, fairly recently, with baby and toddler. DH has declared he is going back to home town. For a few days.
I've mentioned the fact he isn't actually allowed to, plus he's taking risk to shielding parents and bringing back risk to us.
I've said it's not my decision to make, but think it's not responsible.
Am I being horribly controlling and irrational or is he being a twat?

Bananacloud Wed 20-May-20 18:55:03


billy1966 Wed 20-May-20 18:55:53


Makegoodchoices Wed 20-May-20 18:56:26

He’s being a twat. A selfish one.
You don’t get a holiday away from your family during a pandemic. You don’t leave your partner alone with two small ones during a pandemic.

Do you think it’s more about seeing parents (concerned) or seeing mates (wanting fun)?

Windyatthebeach Wed 20-May-20 18:56:47

Tell him he needs to stay there til lockdown is over then.
Selfish git.

Winterwoollies Wed 20-May-20 18:59:27

So he’s just fucking off back to the town you’ve just moved from and leaving you with the kids? Lockdown aside, he’s a twat.

backseatcookers Wed 20-May-20 19:06:33

He's a twat.

Does he realise that when you're parents you are a team and can't unilaterally declare you are going to fuck off for a few days?

I mean let alone fucking off for a few days during a pandemic.

He sounds insufferably selfish.

OhArsebags Wed 20-May-20 19:11:53

Selfish prick.

Tell him to bloody stay there.

JasonPollack Wed 20-May-20 19:13:27

And when do you get to dump him with both kids and go off for a jolly?

Limpetlike Wed 20-May-20 19:14:55

Ask him how he’s going to ensure the baby and toddler get enough rest breaks on the trip and will have fun once they get to their destination.

Butterymuffin Wed 20-May-20 19:16:24

Why does he need to do this right now? What's his reasoning? (he's wrong anyway, but...)

Butterymuffin Wed 20-May-20 19:17:37

Actually, that's a better idea, ask him which of the kids he's taking. Only fair you have one each.

maddiemookins16mum Wed 20-May-20 19:29:50

Why is he going?

user1498647726 Wed 20-May-20 19:32:38

He's being a Selfish twat

tiredanddangerous Wed 20-May-20 19:44:32


Sunnyjac Wed 20-May-20 19:54:27


LellyMcKelly Wed 20-May-20 19:56:34

Ubertwat. What’s so urgent that it can’t wait a few more weeks?

WildfirePonie Wed 20-May-20 20:30:11

He is a twat.

mencken Wed 20-May-20 20:32:18

you aren't allowed in other peoples houses except for very restricted reasons. Hotels only for key workers.

so is he going to camp by the road side and excrete in a bucket, then?

Babymamamama Wed 20-May-20 20:32:23

I'd like to know that the reason. Do his parents need assistance?

1Morewineplease Wed 20-May-20 20:34:25

An utterly selfish bellend.
What if he breaks down? Where is he going to stay?
Oh my days!

FlaskMaster Wed 20-May-20 20:40:17

You're parents, you're a team. One of you doesn't just decide to take themselves off for a fucking mystery tour for a few days, what the fuck?

Igotta Wed 20-May-20 20:41:36

Why's he doing that?

Areyouhavingapoomum Thu 21-May-20 09:14:20

Thanks, I'm glad I'm not being a diva.

His parents are well and early 60's, shielding due to pre-existing conditions. They have plenty of help available,but are absolutely fine.

Reasons are he misses home and his friends and working from home has made him stressed. I mentioned lack of hotels and not being allowed to stay at friends, which he hadn't thought of.

Butterymuffin Thu 21-May-20 09:22:23

But he won't be able to see friends without social distancing, or go for a drink with them, or stay with them. He hasn't really thought this through, has he?

I'm sure he's stressed. Lots of us are. Suggest instead that he takes a proper day off and goes for a drive out somewhere (not to the beach etc like all the idiots) and goes for a countryside walk or something. Then comes back and does a Zoom call with his friends. Oh, most important bit: then you work out what day he's having both kids while YOU do the same.

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