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To not know the name of the guy I'm dating?

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Troubledinparadise1 Wed 20-May-20 07:09:36

This will probably all sound a bit strange!

I've been dating a man for a couple of months but I don't actually know his name and now we're too far in for me to ask him! We met at a mutual friend's party and my friend introduced me to him. She told me his name but it isn't an an English name or one that I've heard before so I only caught the general sound of it, rather than the actual name itself.

We've been going on dates for a couple of months now and it's too late for me to ask him his name. I can't ask my friend his name because she'll also think it's very odd that we've been dating for 2 months and I don't know.

I've been avoiding calling him by his name when together and I'm not sure how I can find this out!

Anyone else been in a situation like this?

AnyFucker Wed 20-May-20 07:10:46

I doubt it

PeppaisaBitch Wed 20-May-20 07:10:55

Ask him to remind you have to pronounce it? Or ask your friend? Don't you have him in social media? Or go out with mutual friends who can say it?

GinDaddyRedux Wed 20-May-20 07:12:45

My word.

PicsInRed Wed 20-May-20 07:13:39

Ask him how he spells it.

mynameiscalypso Wed 20-May-20 07:13:44

Does he have social media? Can you find him in Facebook? If it makes you feel any better, I didn't know how to pronounce my DH's (very English) surname until we got married!

Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese Wed 20-May-20 07:14:32

Ask him how is spelt?

User8563029648123578 Wed 20-May-20 07:15:27

How are you dating in lockdown ?

LunaLula83 Wed 20-May-20 07:15:55


TitianaTitsling Wed 20-May-20 07:16:22

How do you have him in your contacts?!

Soubriquet Wed 20-May-20 07:16:35

Facebook? Twitter? Instagram?


Stampy84 Wed 20-May-20 07:16:49

Fair play to you managing to date the last couple of months, just when lockdown started!

Troubledinparadise1 Wed 20-May-20 07:16:49

We met up before lockdown started and have been doing facetime dates since! He doesn't do social media

GenerateUsername Wed 20-May-20 07:18:37

Get him to email you.

Fanthorpe Wed 20-May-20 07:18:37

How do you have him stored in your phone? When you’re together ask him to update the contact details for you.

Seriously this is a strange situation.

Godzillasonice Wed 20-May-20 07:19:05

Not quite the same thing and back before face book was around I didn’t know my best friends name for 5 months. I was at secondary school so it was called in the register but for some reason I couldn’t seem to remember it. So I just avoided saying it for ages until one day I just admitted to her that I had a mental block when it came to her name. She thought it was hilarious and we are still great friends 25 years later.

okiedokieme Wed 20-May-20 07:19:18

Ask him for his email address, he may use his name?

Strawberrypancakes Wed 20-May-20 07:20:31

What comes up when he FaceTimes you??

fuckinghellthisshit Wed 20-May-20 07:20:49

That is hilarious! You’ll have to go bowling to find it, it is the only way.

FOJN Wed 20-May-20 07:23:21

Does he do the kind of job where the company has a "meet the team" page on their website?
You might possibly need to work on your assertiveness skills, the time to admit you hadn't caught his name was when you arranged the first date.

Ohtherewearethen Wed 20-May-20 07:24:43

I really don't know why you can't just ask your friend. Just laugh about it. If she knows you've been 'dating' how did you tell her who you were dating? If you've been talking to her about him, or her you, how have you been describing him? This doesn't add up.

Ohtherewearethen Wed 20-May-20 07:25:55

*referring to him I should have said, not describing him

Ohtherewearethen Wed 20-May-20 07:27:13

You could ask him if he has any nicknames it goes by a shortened version of his name

Soubriquet Wed 20-May-20 07:27:56’re screwed grin

Is your friend a good enough friend to help you without dobbing you in?

Notredamn Wed 20-May-20 07:28:25

Very strange, sorry.

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