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To feel uncomfortable about my husband taking my daughter against my wishes

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Purplerain14 Tue 19-May-20 21:16:39

My husband and I are separated (living apart) and soon to be going through a divorce. He wants to take our daughter who is little to a family member’s house to stay for the whole weekend, despite that person not properly isolating (they have been visiting people for lunches etc) and I just feel uncomfortable about it. I would prefer if he could wait a few weeks to see how this COVID nightmare is panning out. He said that he will take her against my wishes if needs be as he wants to get out of the city for the weekend. I’m not sure if I’m overly worrying about it, but the gov guidance in the UK is still quite restrictive and you are only allowed to see someone outside of your household outside and if you socially distance (he will not be doing that). It’s doubly hard because he is emotionally abusive and has been shouting at me down the phone. I feel a bit powerless about the whole thing. Can he really just take her against my wishes?

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Needbettername Tue 19-May-20 21:18:51

Well yes he could if he has her anyway. You could refuse to let him take her at all.

ScrewBalls99 Tue 19-May-20 21:19:02

Can you share messages with police? Can he access your home, do you need to change the locks? Sounds scarey

Colom Tue 19-May-20 21:20:29

How old is your DD? If you're really not happy and think he will put her at risk then don't hand her over. Tell him to apply to the court.

Windyatthebeach Tue 19-May-20 21:23:58

Speak to a solicitor. He is intending of breaking the covid 19 current guidelines..
He is a twat. Guessing you already know that..

IncognitoIsMyFavouriteWord Tue 19-May-20 21:26:51

Unfortunately, he is her other parent and you cannot control what he does with her until you get a court order doing so.

You cannot stop him from having her as much as he cannot stop you.

You could phone 101 for advice and see what they advise.

Greenleavesawash Tue 19-May-20 21:30:25

Close the door and tell him to fuck off - if he pushes it call the police

ReincarnatedDodo Tue 19-May-20 21:31:31

How do you know this person has been having lunches? What is etc.?

Purplerain14 Wed 20-May-20 07:49:29

Thanks everyone for your messages. It’s really helpful to get some perspective on it. I don’t think I can stop him from taking her. I just hope that he thinks about it carefully. Everyone is in the same boat at the moment and not able to see loved ones, friends and family. It’s so hard co-parenting with someone like this.

ReincarnatedDodo, he has told me that the person has been over to extended family on different occasions for lunches and they would not have been socially distancing. Sorry, by etc I mean that they would have also been running around doing errands.

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