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AIBU?

To not expect my children to wear masks?

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moita · 19/05/2020 12:15

Upset MIL yesterday (by phone). She offered to make my 4 year old and 2 year old masks. I said there's no where they'd wear them let alone safely.

MIL is now upset and thinks I'm being irresponsible.

Are children really expected to wear them?

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Xenia · 19/05/2020 12:16

I think we need all to take a stand against masks actually for all kinds of reasons (other than where the law insists on it and other than where required by an employer or place into which you go eg covid 19 ward)

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Rainycloudyday · 19/05/2020 12:17

I wouldn’t dream of putting my children of that age into a mask. For many reasons it would be ridiculous to try.

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Dreamersandwishers · 19/05/2020 12:18

Can’t imagine putting a 2 year old in a mask, but bearing in mind the mask is to protect others, not the wearer , I could imagine a 4 year old wearing one, especially if it was cute.
I don’t think it’s necessary, but unless your child is asthmatic, I would let MIL make one if it gives her pleasure to do that.

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MarcelineMissouri · 19/05/2020 12:20

I have no plans to make either of my dc (8&5) wear masks unless it was actually compulsory. My eldest has sensory issues anyway and would probably just refuse to go out, my youngest would put it on and then fiddle with it, pull it off, put it back on wrong, wipe his nose on it, take it off etc etc

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Wheresthebiffer2 · 19/05/2020 12:21

Babies and toddlers MUST NOT wear masks or face coverings, it is DANGEROUS. Little children have smaller airways than adults, and we mustn't restrict their access to air. So definitely it's a no for your two-year old.

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MinkowskisButterfly · 19/05/2020 12:21

As an asthmatic I won't be wearing one (it is advised by asthma uk) and my 5 year old (with SEN) and my 17yr old (again worth SEN) wouldn't be able to wear them safely but we barely leave our property.

I believe 2 and under are recommended not to wear them anyway?

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IncrediblySadToo · 19/05/2020 12:22

I don't think it's sensible for children to be wearing them as they won't do safely, but I would have just said 'oh that's lovely if you' and let her crack on with it! You didn't need to use them, but she would have felt like she was helping to keep them safe 🤷🏻‍♀️

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TheRoyallingStones · 19/05/2020 12:22

I’m sure I’ve seen guidance that they shouldn’t be worn by children under 3 as they should be able to put on, remove and adjust the mask safely themselves. I think this was on the listing to buy masks, so I’m not sure if it’s official guidance but it makes sense. Since this began we’ve seen lots of things about the dangers of wearing and handling masks incorrectly, which can be worse than just not wearing a mask.

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MinesAPintOfTea · 19/05/2020 12:24

YABU. The more people who wear masks, the more "normal" social behaviour can happen whilst keeping the R value down. The four year old should be able to understand is important to stop germs, and the two year old might be able to copy.

I wouldn't force either of them, but I'd definitely encourage it, like a hat on a cold day.

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MinesAPintOfTea · 19/05/2020 12:25

Ok, fair point on safety for the two year old.

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SudokuBook · 19/05/2020 12:25

My son has autism and sensory issues and he won’t be wearing one

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baskininjoe · 19/05/2020 12:26

Absolutely don't make your children wear them. FWIW I won't be wearing one, unless they're made compulsory, for a whole host of reasons. But maybe still let MIL make some cute ones for them. It will give her a little peace of mind, something to do, and there's really no harm in having them just in case. It's in the US (I think) where masks have to be worn by anyone over 2. I really hope this doesn't get brought in here but no harm in having one MIL has made just in case.

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OmgThereAreNoPlanesAboveMeNow · 19/05/2020 12:30

It is same in one EU country. Ages over 2 compulsory face mask. It worked though

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PestymcPestFace · 19/05/2020 12:32

Two year old, absolutely not.
Most countries where face coverings are mandated make it optional of under sixes, so your call on the four year old.
If they are not going to the shops or on public transport, why masks?

Declared interest ~ I'm very pro face coverings, where appropriate.

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SoupDragon · 19/05/2020 12:35

I would have let her make them and then not use them. I do agree that iT is unsafe for the 2 year old and pointless for the 4 year old.

They can use them to play at being doctors later.

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SoupDragon · 19/05/2020 12:37

Personally, I will wear one if I go somewhere indoors like a supermarket. It is to help protect others and I don't have a problem with that.

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CovidicusRex · 19/05/2020 12:37

Ours wore some for a short period of time (it was a requirement). They were both drenched with spit and they kept touching them. I remember reading someone saying that you should treat masks as if they’ve been dipped in coronavirus. On small children they’re going to provide fuck all protection to the children (especially if they’re homemade out of regular material as opposed to certain medical grade types) and little to none to anyone else.

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ToothFairyNemesis · 19/05/2020 12:38

Babies and toddlers MUST NOT wear masks or face coverings, it is DANGEROUS. Little children have smaller airways than adults, and we mustn't restrict their access to air. So definitely it's a no for your two-year old.
In certain US states it’s illegal for anyone ages two or over not to wear a mask. I am sure they are not trying to kill off their young children.

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cstaff · 19/05/2020 12:40

I know on the news in Ireland yesterday they were advising people to wear masks but kids aged under 13 were excluded from that so not even specialists are advising this. A child could do more damage with rather than without.

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Sirzy · 19/05/2020 12:45

Ds is 10 his sensory issues mean he can’t wear a scarf no chance of him wearing a mask

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AdoreTheBeach · 19/05/2020 12:49

My personal opinion is that if everyone wore masks, socially distanced and washed their hands often we’d make serious in roads to stopping the spread

Of course little children and sensory challenged people can be excused. My opinion is that people who think it infringes their rights are, simply, idiots.

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Noworrieshere · 19/05/2020 12:54

I would have just let mil make them, take one photo of them wearing them then leave it up to the kids to wear them again or not. They might want to, as they see more and more people doing it.
There's no harm in mil making them.

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starfro · 19/05/2020 12:54

Masks for children is ridiculous.

Studies have shown that adults without training and outside of hospitals cannot maintain the correct usage and hygiene required to make them effective, so there is no way a young child will use one correctly.

Even if they did work, these mask types are also only for the protection of other people.

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Flipflopflapflip · 19/05/2020 13:00

There’s no way I’ll be putting a mask on dd (3). I wear one all day at work (nhs) and hate them with a passion. I’ll quit my job and we won’t go out before dd wears one.

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Brefugee · 19/05/2020 13:09

In Germany, where we have to wear masks in shops and public transport, children are excluded from this rule.

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