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What do you do with your partner for ‘fun’ (during lockdown).(17 Posts)
Myself and my partner are very different but we got on like a house on fire. We’ve been together for just under two years but this is the first time we’ve lived together with WFH we’ve been able to isolate together and swap between our homes.
We’ve now swapped to my house, a lot bigger with a huge garden and it’s pretty rural (verses his tiny place in the middle of a housing estate). I’ve had a lot more from wfh but i thought it would be okay as he’s got his xbox/Netflix/tv which was exactly what he’s been doing at his but he’s been complaining that he’s bored as he didn’t come to mine to sit around. This weekend I suggested that we do a diy project outside/go for a country walk/take up running/there’s an abandoned house locally that seems cool to walk around/buy a badminton net/buy a home brewing kit/learn a craft/go for a bike ride and nothing seems to take his interest And they’re all things we could do together. He’s got no suggestions but his constant whining of boredom is driving me mad and I feel like I’ve got a six-year-old on my hands. We do watch tv together as I like to watch an episode here and there before bed or happily binge watch a good series or on a rainy day but not all the time.
Well what did you do together before lockdown? E.g. if lovely meals out is your thing, why not do a come dine with me challenge and cook lovely meals at home?
If you like pubs, drink beer and play pub games like dominoes, cards etc.
Bake together? Hire a hot tub (if you can get one) order some jigsaws.
To be honest he sounds a right pain, I'd probably send him home!
They all sound like great ideas to me. I'd add cooking elaborate meals to the list.
I'd send him back to his own house and do things I wanted without a whining infant in a man's body ruining my day.
We are living together for the first time - we go for walks, bike rides, food shopping (as still a novelty), listen to music, watch tv - not a lot else to do though due to lockdown but loving just being together curled up on the sofa. I'm guessing having a small child changes the dynamic, my kids are adults so not a factor.
A grown man who complains of being ‘bored’ .... send him home, there is nothing less attractive than someone who expects you to entertain him.
What does he do in his own home?
My DH & I don’t do everything ‘together’ ( married over 30 years ) but we cook/eat/drink together, go for walks, watch a film, plan a quiz night, play board games, read amicably together (ie; our own books) ... separately DH will do gardening, DIY, go for a bike ride, Zoom calls ... I am involved with charity work so I do whatever I can in the current situation.
In his defence I do think it's very different when you're in someone else's home.
Before DH and I moved in together I often came to stay at his place (now our house) but due to opposing shifts I was often here alone while he worked. I never quite felt that I could fully relax to be honest - it wasn't my house!
Maybe there's an element of that going on?
We did an online escape room the other day, not one of those crappy apps, but one created by our regular escape room. It was OK and Def something different
*@okiedokieme*. The OP didn’t mention children - thankfully! She can send the man child home. Lucky lady!
The idea of a grown man whingeing about being bored during a global pandemic is beyond pathetic and I think I'd struggle to respect him after this tbh.
I'm quite relieved that I didn't move in with my dp at the start of lockdown for this reason. Can't stand laziness and lack of motivation in men, its the biggest turnoff.
It sounds like he just doesn't feel at home in your home yet? Its a stressful time to be thrown together and he might just miss his place. Assuming he is pulling his weight around the house?
There's a game called "keep talking and nobody explodes" where one sits at the computer screen trying to diffuse a (virtual!) bomb and the other sits opposite with the bomb diffusal manual and you have to communicate without being able to see what each other is looking at. Admittedly that one had caused a few arguments ..
We read to each other. He's been reading me the Harry Potter series, and I've been reading him the James Herriot series. That, and playing on the computer and Wii together (i.e: Mario Kart), and walking the dog together. Our hobbies are quite simple, but we have a lot of fun
We're trying to make an effort as we were going through a rocky patch before we were forced to be together 24/7 in lockdown two months ago. It's been a positive for us as it's made us do things rather than meet friends separately and avoid those difficult conversations.
So things we've been doing:
Zoom calls with friends
Play cards & board games
Watch a film
Gardening (he gardens / I laze in the sun!)
Drink far too much and dance around the living room...
In the evenings once DDs are asleep we drink wine/beer, watch box sets and do Lego (grown up Lego, not the children's stuff). I'm currently doing Paris landscape and DH is doing a Caterham.
We have moved in for lockdown as well, it’s my flat and it has taken my boyfriend a while to feel relaxed rather than feeling like a guest in my home. He struggled in the first few weeks and would generally wait for me to make suggestions etc as he felt awkward doing things on his own or deciding on what we were doing that day the phrase “I’ll do whatever you want” drove me fucking crazy for a good four weeks, but I understood why he felt uncomfortable at times.
Now he is more settled we generally do our own things during the day and meet back up for lunch. Today I have been doing ‘school’ with my son, boyfriend has been out to have a chat with his flatmate (from his balcony).
When we do things together it’s stuff like
-one of us reading a book out aloud when we’re in the bath together (straight jacket at the moment)
-bike sprints (we’re very competitive)
-lego (as long as he doesn’t touch mine)
-he gives me hard sums to solve (yes, that is fun)
-watch stupid video’s on youtube
-gamble on random things, yesterday we were guessing what things in the flat weighed, the winner at the end got the last beer
I'd send him back to his own house and do things I wanted without a whining infant in a man's body ruining my day
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