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Husband's irritating habits whilst WFH!

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chocolatesaltyballs22 Mon 18-May-20 14:39:30

Just looking for a MN opinion on this to see if I'm being picky. Semi light-hearted and I know there are far worse things to get irritated about but you know how everything gets magnified times a million when you're in lockdown together for the 67 millionth day!

Husband makes a coffee around 4/5 times a day. Takes coffee out of cupboard, makes coffee, puts it back in cupboard (and this is the key bit) leaving said cupboard door wide open right opposite my line of vision from where I'm working. Buggers off back to his work space where he can't see wide open cupboard door. Would you:-

a) sigh heavily, stomp over and slam said cupboard door shut loud enough so that he can hear you're annoyed
b) get up and calmly close cupboard then ask him nicely the next time he's in the kitchen not to forget to close it
c) just close the damn thing yourself and not say anything
d) LTB

Have tried approaches a and b and he gets pissed off with me for being 'passive aggressive' !!

nectarina Mon 18-May-20 14:41:44

E. Ask him to close it, every time.

timeforawine Mon 18-May-20 14:42:25

He gets pissed at you being passive aggressive but still hasn't learned to close the damned thing himself?! he's a thoughtless bugger. I'd keep slamming it to wind him up

londongirl12 Mon 18-May-20 14:42:24

My dh leaves the teaspoon on the side angryangryangry

Aquamarine1029 Mon 18-May-20 14:44:51

I would ask him to close it because open cabinet doors can be dangerous if run into and because he's a grown man who should be able to remember to close the bloody thing.

Sciurus83 Mon 18-May-20 14:45:18

Tell him to close it because he's being annoying. Then if he carried on go and get him every time and point it out and tell him to close it. He'll start closing it. Or D.

PerditaDreamsofFairHorses Mon 18-May-20 14:46:00

So he is passively agressively continuing to leave the cupboard door open in response? LTB.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius Mon 18-May-20 14:47:50

F - put a note on the coffee jar saying “Shut the fucking cupboard door!”

CandleNoBra Mon 18-May-20 14:48:31

In my house I’d yell “cupboard!” and he’d know to come back and close it. But I live in a house of serial door-left-openers so it’s just any normal day that you hear somebody yelling “door!” or similar.

Bugs the living crap out of me. Leave it like you found it FFS!

Backtoreality1 Mon 18-May-20 14:50:07

If the cupboard is in your eyeline then everytime you see him making coffee, call through to him to close the cupboard door....guaranteed he will get tired of it before you do.

DeeplyMovingExperience Mon 18-May-20 14:50:15

Glue the cabinet door shut. Say nothing. Have popcorn at the ready.

LouiseTrees Mon 18-May-20 14:51:21

Oh I have an option E. go to wherever he is working, open something or move something, hear him tell you to move it back, just leave the room. Or option F pretend you injured yourself on the open door.

chocolatesaltyballs22 Mon 18-May-20 14:51:31

Haha I love the post-it note idea. He just said to me 'I'll do my best to remember but I'll probably still forget sometimes.' IT'S NOT FUCKING DIFFICULT, FFS!

FOJN Mon 18-May-20 14:56:59

If you wanted to show what passive aggressive really meant you could just remove the cupboard door completely and hide it 😁

TwentyViginti Mon 18-May-20 15:02:13

Excellent! grin

Thepilotlightsgoneout Mon 18-May-20 15:03:04

This may be too sensible but why not leave the coffee on the counter next to the kettle at the beginning of the day and put it away in the cupboard at the end of the day after the last cup?

Sparklesocks Mon 18-May-20 15:04:11

Hide the coffee grin

It’s funny how you don’t know much about your OH’s work habits until you end up working from home together for such a long period. My partner is a ‘commenter’, he loudly says comments about emails he’s received or reports he’s reading ‘oh come off it what does that even mean??’ ‘15% reduction? You’d be lucky!!’. He doesn’t do this when he’s reading normal books/papers so I had no idea. He doesn’t even know he’s doing it until I mention it. Drives me mad!!

Chickychickydodah Mon 18-May-20 15:04:29

Hide the coffee👍🏻

DeeplyMovingExperience Mon 18-May-20 15:06:04

Take the coffee out of the jar and put gravy granules in there instead.

YorkshirePud1 Mon 18-May-20 15:06:12

Haha I feel your pain. My husband is the king of leaving cupboard doors open! Also the light switch to the downstairs loo is outside the door and he just cannot ever seem to remember to switch it off. These things drive me crazy and so I mention it every single time in the hope it'll sink in eventually. I don't go in for sighing and stomping myself smile

Disfordarkchocolate Mon 18-May-20 15:07:28

Hide the coffee.

Take the cupboard door off.


GherkinsOnToast Mon 18-May-20 15:08:08

If you can see him - yell 'shut the bloody cupboard door' every time he goes to make coffee.

Mine is currently leaving a trail of crockery around the house whilst offering to help the children with English.

Brefugee Mon 18-May-20 15:08:19

get him to come back every time.

OldEvilOwl Mon 18-May-20 15:12:03

Why can't you leave the coffee jar out on the side so he doesn't need to open the cupboard

Sparklfairy Mon 18-May-20 15:12:17

This is my most annoying habit (and I live alone so the only person it drives up the wall is me!)

I saw a documentary once where a teen in the middle of his A Levels made a cuppa at home, left the cupboard open, bent down and as he stood up smashed his head on the corner of the cupboard door. Had total amnesia and the documentary covered his very slow recovery. Terrified me!

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