So pissed with OH

[Goshby]

His gardening obsession . Along with his parents .

Apparently he has MORE time as working from home and not commuting ....

Guess what ..

Wakes up late ( just before shift ) though to be fair sometimes he lets me lie in while he gets our toddlers (two ) breakfast .

A lie in for me is about 9.30

I do all the night wake ups with our three month old

Breastfeeding

I do most of the cooking and all of the cleaning , plus everything about the kids all day .

He does help When he wants to ... the chores he likes but feels like it’s no different to when he was doing the three hour commute .

Now he just has more time for gardening

I bust a gut cleaning the house while juggling three young kids ... Hoping that it means that we can have a sit down as a family in the evening but no ... it’s garden or work outs .

God I’m sounding like a right moaner

Am I wrong to feel pissed ... feels like it

[Goshby]

I think it’s because he has time for hobbies and I don’t .

I must be being ungrateful

[CoffeeRunner]

Well what time did you have to get up before?

If his new working pattern has changed your lie in from 6.30 to 9.30am that’s good isn’t it?

[Aus84]

I would consider the gardening as housework around here.

[Goshby]

I don’t know if I see it as a lie in as I’m doing all the night feeds etc so I feel like it’s just a catch up I still have to clean up after their breakfast when I’m up !

[Goshby]

Oh I’m just moaning aren’t I

[Goshby]

God I feel like a live in cleaner sometimes .

[ViciousJackdaw]

I’m doing all the night feeds

Thing is, he can't do this can he?

[Goshby]

No he can’t

[Goshby]

But I do feel pressured into breastfeeding

[minielise]

Well then don’t breastfeed

[Goshby]

Lol good idea

[Runkle]

Have you spoken to him about this in a calm rational way? If not, stop being a martyr, why are you busting a gut? Don't feel pressured to bf either, if its not working out then don't.

[MrsTerryPratchett]

I would consider the gardening as housework around here.

Up to a point. Weeding can be done with toddlers, easier than a lot of housework.

[ViciousJackdaw]

What's making you feel pressured OP? Is it OH or just society in general?

[Goshby]

OH really things BF is critical

[Goshby]

But also thinks it’s a good idea for me to go back to work

[Goshby]

On top of that had cordoned off most of the garden so the kids can’t play on it and he can treat it like his bloody gardening project

[Goshby]

It’s not just pulling weeds

[Goshby]

It’s the time

[Goshby]

I rush around like a mad woman getting things done and he finishes work ... sees it all done so heads for the garden

[Goshby]

I’m not going to bother anymore e

[Goshby]

I don’t even have time for a fg hobby

[MrsTerryPratchett]

Have you spoken to him about equal time to do what you want?

[Goshby]

Im obviously placing some sort of pressure to create a family life in the evenings whilst he works from home but it looks like he has other plans .

[Goshby]

I don’t even know what I would do by myself