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So pissed with OH

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Goshby Sun 17-May-20 23:58:44

His gardening obsession . Along with his parents .

Apparently he has MORE time as working from home and not commuting ....

Guess what ..

Wakes up late ( just before shift ) though to be fair sometimes he lets me lie in while he gets our toddlers (two ) breakfast .

A lie in for me is about 9.30

I do all the night wake ups with our three month old

Breastfeeding

I do most of the cooking and all of the cleaning , plus everything about the kids all day .

He does help When he wants to ... the chores he likes but feels like it’s no different to when he was doing the three hour commute .

Now he just has more time for gardening

I bust a gut cleaning the house while juggling three young kids ... Hoping that it means that we can have a sit down as a family in the evening but no ... it’s garden or work outs .

God I’m sounding like a right moaner

Am I wrong to feel pissed ... feels like it

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Goshby Sun 17-May-20 23:59:48

I think it’s because he has time for hobbies and I don’t .

I must be being ungrateful

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CoffeeRunner Mon 18-May-20 00:01:08

Well what time did you have to get up before?

If his new working pattern has changed your lie in from 6.30 to 9.30am that’s good isn’t it?

Aus84 Mon 18-May-20 00:04:21

I would consider the gardening as housework around here.

Goshby Mon 18-May-20 00:04:34

I don’t know if I see it as a lie in as I’m doing all the night feeds etc so I feel like it’s just a catch up I still have to clean up after their breakfast when I’m up !

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Goshby Mon 18-May-20 00:05:41

Oh I’m just moaning aren’t I

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Goshby Mon 18-May-20 00:06:02

God I feel like a live in cleaner sometimes .

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ViciousJackdaw Mon 18-May-20 00:08:34

I’m doing all the night feeds

Thing is, he can't do this can he?

Goshby Mon 18-May-20 00:10:02

No he can’t

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Goshby Mon 18-May-20 00:10:24

But I do feel pressured into breastfeeding

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minielise Mon 18-May-20 00:31:24

Well then don’t breastfeed

Goshby Mon 18-May-20 00:42:28

Lol good idea

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Runkle Mon 18-May-20 00:45:22

Have you spoken to him about this in a calm rational way? If not, stop being a martyr, why are you busting a gut? Don't feel pressured to bf either, if its not working out then don't.

MrsTerryPratchett Mon 18-May-20 00:49:30

I would consider the gardening as housework around here.

Up to a point. Weeding can be done with toddlers, easier than a lot of housework.

ViciousJackdaw Mon 18-May-20 01:09:55

What's making you feel pressured OP? Is it OH or just society in general?

Goshby Mon 18-May-20 01:11:44

OH really things BF is critical

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Goshby Mon 18-May-20 01:12:05

But also thinks it’s a good idea for me to go back to work

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Goshby Mon 18-May-20 01:12:39

On top of that had cordoned off most of the garden so the kids can’t play on it and he can treat it like his bloody gardening project

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Goshby Mon 18-May-20 01:12:58

It’s not just pulling weeds

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Goshby Mon 18-May-20 01:13:14

It’s the time

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Goshby Mon 18-May-20 01:13:49

I rush around like a mad woman getting things done and he finishes work ... sees it all done so heads for the garden

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Goshby Mon 18-May-20 01:14:00

I’m not going to bother anymore e

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Goshby Mon 18-May-20 01:14:47

I don’t even have time for a fg hobby

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MrsTerryPratchett Mon 18-May-20 01:15:11

Have you spoken to him about equal time to do what you want?

Goshby Mon 18-May-20 01:15:29

Im obviously placing some sort of pressure to create a family life in the evenings whilst he works from home but it looks like he has other plans .

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