To walk away from this relationship

[Yayaayay12]

Just a littlest warning I hope this post does not sound bragging only I was asking for a friends advice and she told me I needed to stop bragging about my relationship.

So I live abroad but in Europe (I don't want to say where or give away too many details because I dont want to expose myself) . I have been in a relationship with this man for almost 5 months now . We have spent lockdown together with my son who is only 3 and he has been great . Genuinely he is so great with my son and just seems to be quite perfect (yes I know no-one is perfect but we just seem really great for each other)

Everything is going great except I just can't stop worrying about his job . He is a politician and in the public eye . I've made it very clear from the off that I don't want to be in the public eye and he has acknowledged this and kept me off all sociamedia . However it is a lot of effort . A few weeks ago we had a TV crew come to do an interview at the his home and I had to hide in the bedroom for three hours. Right now he is only the equivalent of an MP so not that much public interest in him , only around 20,000 followers on Instagram and twitter etc yet he already receives so much hate and threats (and he I see actually quite popular in his constituency)

It seems like he could be promoted after this is over to a minister position and I just worry about the hate he will invariably receive as a more important member of government . I don't want to my son to be known as the step son of x ne I don't want to be known as the son of x. I am probably overeacting but he is only late twenties and I do worry that if I stay with him he will be much more in the public eye

AIBU to break up with him and avoid the potential media attention Andy the negative impacts it could have on our lives ?

[Yayaayay12]

I don't want to be known as the girlfriend / wife of x not son of x lol . Sorry for the typos :)

[Pollony]

I cant get past the fact you moved your 3 year old son in with a man you can have only been seeing for 3 months at the most. That is bat shit and anything else seems insignificant.

[Sadie789]

I could not identify a wife or girlfriend of any MP we have here, or half the MPs themselves for that matter.

You’re either overthinking this, or you aren’t really that into him and looking for a way out... or you have something to hide that you are scared will be dug up by the press.

[Majorcollywobble]

Unbelievable.

[SusieOwl4]

What would you say if it was the other way round and he used it as an excuse to dump you?

You either love him or you dont.

[Sparklingbrook]

Do you love him?

[Billyeyelash]

Relationship of 5 months.
Step Dad to your son
😂
Is this a UK MP? Cannot believe they are stuck somewhere in Europe and not here sorting out the crap... Cannot see a promotion if not here.

[VladmirsPoutine]

You do sound like you quite like the dramatics - I mean moving in together after dating for 5 months thus introducing your young son to him. I do think generally on the continent the private lives of MPs aren't as salaciously drooled upon like they are in the UK as long as you aren't arriving on the back of a moped with a baguette

[zscaler]

I think you’ve moved way too quickly in moving him in with your son tbh - it’s probably accelerating your feelings about this as a long term relationship when it’s actually incredibly new and you’re still in the ‘getting to know you’ phase.

I would stop living together and take it a lot more slowly. That way you can make long term decisions about your future when you actually know him and have a better sense of whether you want to be with him forever.

[Obbydoo]

Politicians are famous for one thing - being self serving liars. I can see why you wouldn't want to be recognised, hardly something to be proud of. Your post does indeed sound like you are doing your very best to brag but you're failing massively as you have zero to brag about. Get over yourself.

[MaeDanvers]

Well the fast moving on thing aside I think if you genuinely don’t think you can cope with him being in the public eye then it’s best to leave it now.

[Prawnofthepatriarchy]

You've been in a relationship for less than five months and you've moved in with him when you have a three year old? Are you always this irresponsible? I wouldn't be happy to have that decision publicized if the media do take an interest.

Depending on where you're based you may find the media have no interest in what is a very new (and possibly transient) relationship. Some countries can't stop gossiping about politicians' private lives. Others couldn't care less.

[borntohula]

Good god, people love an opportunity to make a bitchy comment. 😂

[Lifeisconfusing]

Who cares what people say!! If you love him crack on.

[Lifeisconfusing]

As in people might know you as .....::::::::::: wife etc

[snowybean]

I know a few MPs who keep their families totally private, even those that are quite prominent. Can you name a single husband, wife or child of an MP? Most likely no, other than leaders of the parties.

Or Kinnock being married to the former Danish Prime Minister.
Or if you go on I'm a Celebrity (Carol Thatcher).
...Or do a saucy interview for a newspaper (Sally Bercow).

You'll be fine.

[stophuggingme]

What @Pollony wrote

Absolutely madness.

[Ninkanink]

[borntohula]

'Batshit'
Insinuation that OP has something to hide
Mocking
Dramatic
'Get over yourself
Accusing OP of bragging

I guess people are not capable of giving advice without trying to drag people down a little bit at the same time.

Incidentally, a matter of months is too soon to move a child in with a boyfriend but it's been done now. 🤷‍♀️

[Lifeisabeach09]

It's early days but if you don't feel you are compatible in terms of your goals then, yes, end it. But I agree with PP that you can still have a private life whilst being the partner of a politician (at least in the UK, things may differ in the country you reside.)

[hardboiledeggs]

Think it's a bit ridiculous that you moved a man who have been seeing into your home after only 5 months when there is a child there.

[dontdisturbmenow]

You are perfectly entitled to not want to be in a relationship with someone in the public eye but why start a relationship with him in the first place, let alone move with him?

[Hmmmm88]

Be you are glad you posted on here for advice now OP. So much nastiness 🙄

[SerenDippitty]

A few weeks ago we had a TV crew come to do an interview at the his home and I had to hide in the bedroom for three hours.

This must have been before lockdown? So how soon did you actually move yourself and your son in with him?

[pinkyredrose]

You moved your 3yr old in with a man you'd been seeing for 12 weeks and your main worry is your boyfriends future hate mail?

How absolutely immature and pathetic.