There's a few threads about chasing a disinterested/ambivalent person at the moment and I realised I have always fallen into this trap. So I wondered what it will look like when someone who is interested in you seeks to date you. There are a few threads about what a good relationship looks like once you're in it but I wondered, right at the very beginning of things or even beforehand, how does he show interest etc. People have said on here that they too got into that muddle of chasing, but to paraphrase, when they met their now- significant other, 'it was just easy'- I suppose I am wondering what that ease looks like to someone who has always been caught up in that aforementioned chase, and how to recognise it. Like, what sort of things will he do or say. I think I am also worried about how I would or should respond in such a situation- is there ever a need to 'play it a bit cool' if both parties have that genuine mutual interest, or do you not need to plan or censor yourself when 'it is right'.
Also, and this possibly refers to after the initial stages, I think I have experienced strong interest from someone that in retrospect then turned into ambivalence. It confused me a lot, and I wondered how you spot when someone is going off you but still likes to keep you around just for the attention/flattery.
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To wonder how easy and straightforward the very very early stages/pre-dating to dating bit should be when there is mutual interest vs chasing someone disinterested/ambivalent
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Goodberry · 17/05/2020 19:39
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