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AIBU to just be F***ed off with EVERYTHING

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FrustratinglyFrustrated Sun 17-May-20 18:52:16

Im so flipping fed up! I just need to rant. Obviously "The virus that can't be named" is ruining everything. I can't see my family, The nearest family member lives 50 miles away, I am basically in a prison with my very talkative DS, I am trying my best to show an interest in whatever it is he's talking about, which is usually about whatever computer game he is playing or what hes just watched on You tube. I can't even go shopping to cheer myself up! And, to top it off, I have been sacked from work over something I didn't do (I am appealing, but it seems to be taking agggeeesss to get resolved, If it ever will) So this means I have no money to do anything with anyway. My DP and I don't live together so we can't see each other either, He pops down to mine and we have a cuppa on the door step...Social distancing, of course, but it isn't the same. DP still continues to do his hobby, which is fine, I'm glad he can still enjoy himself..(Honest hmm ) but when he is done I have to sit and listen to every detail of what he achieved that day, I try and sound interested but i really just want to scream "I DON'T FLIPPING CARE!!!!". Friends and family are constantly updating FB with their family pics of what they have done that day, which is lovely to see, But It makes me feel so alone. I do talk to my parents most days, and its nice to catch up. I try and talk to them about my work situation which is really getting me down, but it doesn't seem like they want to hear it, most of them just reply..Yeah...and then change the subject so I don't bother saying anything now. I just feel so alone and down, and I can't seem to snap out of it. AIBU to ask how others are coping?

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PoorUnfortunateMoles Sun 17-May-20 18:55:02

Can DP not move in?

ssd Sun 17-May-20 18:57:06

Yep it's shit right now.

buggeroffvirus Sun 17-May-20 18:57:38

I have to go away for an hour but I will be back later and I am sure someone will be here soon. In the meantime keep your chin up chuck x

likeafishneedsabike Sun 17-May-20 19:02:18

Sounds crap. How about combining households with your parents or with DP? Has anyone got enough room? Or a garden to camp in (only half joking grin)

TwoZeroTwoZero Sun 17-May-20 19:09:44

Sounds crap, especially with the work thing. Are you being supported by a union or acas or whatever? Are you able to get something part-time on the side whilst it's being sorted out?

FrustratinglyFrustrated Sun 17-May-20 19:21:52

@PoorUnfortunateMoles DP has his children half the week and my house, or his, just isnt big enough for us all to live together.

@likeafishneedsabike My parents are isolating as they are both over 70, also, they live miles away . Camping in a garden is an idea though.... smile

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CoRhona Sun 17-May-20 19:48:31

I think you need to learn from your parents so you don't have to listen to other people rambling on and on wink

FrustratinglyFrustrated Sun 17-May-20 20:00:02

@CoRhona I think you might be right, I have been going on a lot about it though, so maybe they are just bored of hearing about it.

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StanStreeson Sun 17-May-20 20:06:35

You should join GUACAMOLE

(Global Union of Activists and Campaigners Against More Or Less Everything)

DamnYankee Sun 17-May-20 20:19:33

And, to top it off, I have been sacked from work over something I didn't do

That is awful. And a talkative child when I needed some headspace, would do me in. My older parents don't seem to want to hear anything bad, either. Not sure why...probably because their bodies are falling apart?

Backyard camping is the best!

So sorry!

Rosebel Sun 17-May-20 20:31:29

Oh gosh I love my daughter to bits but she just talks and talks. Usually about one of her two favourite hobbies. It's very draining. It sounds like you've had a run of bad luck. I know your partner can't move in but is he supporting you? Do you get to talk about how you feel or is it about him?
I'm not sure what to suggest except getting some fresh air each day and not being so hard on yourself. Treat yourself in the evening too. Doesn't have to cost a lot, glass of wine, long bath, new magazine but I think in times like this we all need a pick me up especially if you've got other things going on.

buggeroffvirus Sun 17-May-20 20:38:35

Hopefully there will be light at the end of the tunnel eventually but I dont blame you for being fed up.
Once you can get your job problem sorted you might feel a bit better. because thats seems like a hurdle to get over.
Rather than husband sitting on doorstep drinking tea and chatting away can he not stay with your son while you go out and have a break.
Even a walk alone with your thoughts might ease your stress.

JKD1982 Sun 17-May-20 20:41:55

I feel your pain. I am well and truly over this shit now. 36 weeks pregnant. Locked up at home. Driving my poor husband crazy cause I get worried and fed up with it all. I am doing my own head in so can’t imagine how he feels.

Currently arguing about when we can have family visit the newborn. But his mum is in and out of hospital so I’ve said not at all till that stops. Maybe I’m being melodramatic but who knows what the true risk is???

Opoly54 Sun 17-May-20 21:01:48

It is shit. I know how you feel. I have DS who’s 11, DH is a key worker so it’s just the 2 of us for 8 hours a day, 6 days a week. I try, god knows I try, to take an interest in his conversations but at times it’s honestly like he’s talking a different language. I have to really really focus on what he’s saying or my mind quickly drifts. I’m sure he’s just as bored of me! The guilts awful too cause you just feel like a shit mum for not being interested in what they’re saying.

Things have got to pick up soon, they’ve just GOT to!!

FrustratinglyFrustrated Sun 17-May-20 21:53:43

@Rosebel DS is constanty talking, he must be so bored too, I suggest doing stuff together but he is "too cool" for that stuff. We have been on walks when the weather was nice, he talked constantly about You tube and games then too, I feel so guilty, I try and rack my brain to change the subject and talk about other stuff, buts that's when I realise, I have absolutely no clue what to talk to him about that we can both talk about.
DP doesn't know what to say when I talk about my work problems, Thinking about it, I suppose it is all about him, he gets so excited about what he has done with his hobby that he tells me every detail puts me on video chat so I can actually see what he has done, I appreciate he enjoys and is passionate about doing what he does, I, however, am not, and it is tiring and draining trying to look interested all-the-time . I just feel so bad because I must come across as being a miserable cow, I am trying, believe me I am trying.

@buggeroffvirus DP inst my husband and we don't live together so he can't come in to my house to look after DS.

@JKD1982 Congratulations on your imminent arrival. Im sure your DH understands how frustrated you are feeling, and you have a right to be cautious about you MIL, You do what you think is right.

@Opoly54 - Yes, Exactly that...I am trying my hardest to focus on what he is saying, but i just end up going..Oh right, Then I feel bad, so I ask him a question about whatever it is, then I get a full in-depth answer that I only heard the first 3 words of because I switched off so then he gets the generic response of Oh...right again, and so the cycle continues. Things do HAVE to pick up soon or I feel we are all going to turn into guilt ridden zombies

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FrustratinglyFrustrated Sun 17-May-20 21:56:56

@StanStreeson Is that an actual thing? blush

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PineappleSmoothie Sun 17-May-20 22:23:24

I am not sure whether to say it or not but here goes nothing.

It sounds like you have two children bouncing up and down going "mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, moooom. Mom, mom, mom, look what I done, go on look, look, look, momomomomomom"

Would drive anybody freaking insane.

Don't know what the answer is (I tell DH to shut it if he's boring for England but we've been together long enough that I can get away with it) but I feel your pain.

FrustratinglyFrustrated Sun 17-May-20 22:33:48

@Pineapplesmoothie I don't think it is an attention thing, he is just really passionate about what he does, he is the same about his work, He goes in to great detail about who he spoke to and what was said, I mean every detail, not just a recap, word for word about what the email said that he wrote, what the response was and so on, I have no understanding on what he is saying either because its all about agreements and contracts blah blah blah

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StanStreeson Sun 17-May-20 22:34:40

@FrustratinglyFrustrated

Well, let me put it like this: You can be member number two! 🤣

FrustratinglyFrustrated Sun 17-May-20 22:43:43

@StanStreeson grin grin grin

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FrustratinglyFrustrated Tue 19-May-20 10:38:12

How can I move on from feeling like this? It's so draining trying to pretend I'm "OK" when I'm not

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