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AIBU?

To be “peopled out”

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Sexnotgender · 17/05/2020 16:32

Having a down day and I think I’ve realised it’s because there’s someone here ALL THE BLOODY TIME.

I love my family but dear lord what I wouldn’t give for a few hours solitude.

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TokenGinger · 17/05/2020 16:32

Have my first Biscuit and 🙄

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TokenGinger · 17/05/2020 16:33

Unless you're talking about immediate family, but I read your post as always having visitors...

If I'm wrong, then please may I have my biscuit back because I'm due a snack.

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Sexnotgender · 17/05/2020 16:34

Oh no visitors. My daughter is in the shielding category so no one in or out.

I’m keeping your biscuit.

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CarterBeatsTheDevil · 17/05/2020 16:34

She obviously means that she's stuck in the house with her immediate family

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Sexnotgender · 17/05/2020 16:37

Thank you Carter, I probably wasn’t very clear.

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Cosyblanky · 17/05/2020 16:37

Can you not create a bit of space, me time for yourself each day?

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Gibbonsgibbonsgibbons · 17/05/2020 16:37

YANBU
I’m hiding at my sewing machine while DH watches a film with the kids - I lose my mind if I can’t be in a room alone for a few hours.

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Willowcat77 · 17/05/2020 16:37

I sometimes hide in my car just to escape 🙁

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FourTeaFallOut · 17/05/2020 16:38

It's full on, isn't it? I'm hiding in my room like a teenager at the moment and DH is fielding the chaos. I'm shielding, so we're all shielding - five of us stuck under the same roof for every hour of ever day for - how many weeks now? - eight weeks? Fuuuck

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ParkheadParadise · 17/05/2020 16:38

I cant wait to be in a pub with my friends and family. Drink flowing, ordering everything off the menu to share and everyone chatting at the same time.
DH can stay at home with dd.

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BruceAndNosh · 17/05/2020 16:38

please may I have my biscuit back because I'm due a snack
Grin

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Eminybob · 17/05/2020 16:38

I get you. Going to Tesco on my own feels like an all inclusive holiday in the Maldives at the moment.

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Ronia · 17/05/2020 16:38

I get up at 6.15 just to do yoga and sit, alone, for a little while. Loo breaks don't work as one or other child is usually hammering on the door to tell me something.

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MrsTerryPratchett · 17/05/2020 16:39

Go to bed with Netflix for a 'nap' that lasts a few hours.

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Juanmorebeer · 17/05/2020 16:39

Yes. I am so with you. I work with the public all day and night. Then come home and family always here. Even the dog is flipping ON me. Usually they are at work or school so I can recover from a night shift in peace. It's awful.

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Theonewiththecat · 17/05/2020 16:39

I was feeling like this a few weeks ago. There was always someone in the room I needed to be in, there's only 3 of us in the house how is that possible.
I started taking myself out for early morning walks or asking DP to take dd out on their own so I could just enjoy some me time.

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TokyoSushi · 17/05/2020 16:40

We're not too bad at going off by ourselves to different areas of the house, but it's just the constant low level noise. Always somebody talking, the Xbox, the dog, the TV, the dishwasher - I just want silence!

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Jeezoh · 17/05/2020 16:40

I know what you mean, I miss being by myself. Can you carve out some time by yourself!

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duckme · 17/05/2020 16:41

Oh god yes, I understand.
I love my family dearly, but Christ alive! I work part time do normally have some time on my own in the house. I miss it.

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Bonkerz · 17/05/2020 16:41

I'm struggling too. Have missed 3 weekends away since being in lockdown. Kids haven't left my side. I dont have adult conversation daily just the kids (9+14) then the teen (19) comes home but he isolated away from us as is a key worker. I miss my free time. I miss my friends who really are my family. Despite all this I'm glad we are all safe so far although my best friend has been tested today for covid and she is a nurse. I'm praying she's ok.

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TheSheepofWallSt · 17/05/2020 16:41

Oh god same.
It’s just me and 3 yo DS. In 8 weeks I’ve had probably 4 meaningful “real life” interactions with another adult... you know chatting to a neighbour in the street at a distance etc.
DS is amazing. Brilliant. Fun. But I’m desperate for 24 hours “off duty”. Alone. Solo. I want to take a shit by myself. Read a chapter of a book without someone pulling up my top to blow raspberries on my belly. Just stare into space.

Don’t get the evenings to do these things as have to catch up on work and stupidly started renovating the house just before lockdown. Idiot.

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Oblomov20 · 17/05/2020 16:41

Who is in your household?How old are the children?

Because mine are teens, and are currently playing x box. I'm in the bath. Dh is down snoozing on the sofa, after we all spent all day cleaning, polishing, vacuuming and shampooing Dh's new (second hand car), bought, whilst still performing social distancing.

But even when they were babies, I've always had time on my own and space.

Can't you?

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PuppyMonkey · 17/05/2020 16:42

I’m always slightly disappointed when somebody wants to come with me to walk the dog these days.

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Sexnotgender · 17/05/2020 16:42

Can you not create a bit of space, me time for yourself each day?

I’m currently hiding in the kitchen 😂 I usually use the time when I’m cooking for me. I love cooking, tonight it’s aubergine parmigiana.

Thankfully my husband understands, he’s currently wrangling the toddler. It’s just hard.

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CandleNoBra · 17/05/2020 16:42

I hear you loud and clear OP.

DH and DD are just so “HERE” all the time.

I rely on solitude to recharge and I’m not getting nearly enough.

I love them both dearly but by Christ they are always just so “here”! Grin

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