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Would you be annoyed if someone did this?

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nightimebrowser Sat 16-May-20 14:38:23

Background:
Obviously been social distancing and taking all the necessary precautions (not seeing anyone outside household, staying in except for essential trips etc) for the past 9 weeks. My mental health has seriously declined due to this (already diagnosed with depression and anxiety) and the lockdown really has not helped plus being dropped by the adult mental health team as they don't have the resources right now.😣

My 2 friends have suggested meeting up for a walk tomorrow and having a picnic- we would obviously not touch each other and stay 2 meters apart at all times and we are going to a large, isolated open space. I know the rules are only 1:1 meetings though, would you be annoyed if you saw 3 people?

I really need this right now, I've been struggling so much. Obviously it's easier to meet as a 3 than do two separate meetings 1:1.

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TSSDNCOP Sat 16-May-20 14:48:25

Yes. We are all in this storm in different boats. I'm really sorry you're feeling this way. So am I. But if we all go out in our little groups of 3 x 2m apart there's not going to be room to slip a fag paper between them.

borntohula Sat 16-May-20 14:49:46

No, I doubt I'd even notice.

SockYarn Sat 16-May-20 14:52:31

Go and have a lovely time.

nightimebrowser Sat 16-May-20 14:52:52

@TSSDNCOP That's true, it's weighing on my mind I must admit. The place we are going is literally deserted as it's one of my friends parents land so we can guarantee we won't come across any walkers.

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nightimebrowser Sat 16-May-20 14:53:06

@SockYarn Thank you so much.

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Heatherjayne1972 Sat 16-May-20 14:54:31

Yes just go and do it
Your mental health is important too It’ll be fine outside and 2m apart

MuthaClucker Sat 16-May-20 14:54:50

Can I ask, if no one is going to see you, why are you asking what people would think if they saw you confused grin

hipposarerad Sat 16-May-20 14:55:35

I wouldn't be annoyed because I enjoy minding my own business. No doubt someone both here and in real life will call you a murderer at some point though.

Could you cope with being challenged by a stranger? Or would that have an impact on your mental health?

nightimebrowser Sat 16-May-20 14:57:40

@MuthaClucker We have to walk to the field along streets.

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nightimebrowser Sat 16-May-20 14:58:11

@hipposarerad We have planned to say we all live together if asked but I think I'd be okay with someone asking.

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FlaskMaster Sat 16-May-20 14:58:13

I wouldn't think anything of it. They could all be people from the same household as far as I'd know.

MuthaClucker Sat 16-May-20 14:59:28

In that case, I think go separately and meet up in the isolated field. Three of you walking along together is not a great idea if you're worried about people judging you.

maleficent53 Sat 16-May-20 15:01:59

You must go for your own mental health, this is all so cruel. Have a nice time with your friends in the sun

LadyMacbethWasMisunderstood Sat 16-May-20 15:03:49

You need to think this through better. I’m pretty sure you won’t be asked. But saying you all live in the same house doesn’t really make sense as if you did you wouldn’t need to be 2m apart. Are All 3 of you going to walk through the streets, each of you 2m apart? Or are you going to walk as a group and pretend to be part of the same household. I’m not suggesting you don’t meet up. But adding lies into the mix will add to your stress I’d think. Hope you feel better soon.

DrManhattan Sat 16-May-20 15:05:24

I wouldn't notice

Thurmanmurman Sat 16-May-20 15:07:49

No I wouldn't be annoyed

Sleepingboy Sat 16-May-20 15:08:58

Why can't you meet with one other person, as the rules allow? Otherwise jets all just ignore and break the rules. This is why corona is spreading....cos people keep breaking the rules

ParkheadParadise Sat 16-May-20 15:10:57

No it wouldn't bother me, I don't think I would even notice.

hipposarerad Sat 16-May-20 15:11:03

Ok. It's good that you feel you'd be ok with being challenged...but I agree with pp above (LadyMacbeth) that making up a lie could backfire.

Just a "thanks for your concern, we're fine and if you keep your distance then you'll be fine too."

Or if you're anything like me with a bit of a gob on you, be even more succinct with a "mind your own fucking business!!"

nightimebrowser Sat 16-May-20 15:11:23

@LadyMacbethWasMisunderstood ah good point, we better get our story straight!😅

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nightimebrowser Sat 16-May-20 15:11:38

@maleficent53 Thank you!

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nightimebrowser Sat 16-May-20 15:12:00

@hipposarerad 😂😂

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PurpleDaisies Sat 16-May-20 15:12:23

You must go for your own mental health, this is all so cruel

Surely meeting one friend would be just a beneficial as meeting two?

I wouldn’t be angry but I’m not sure why you can’t zoom as a three and meet up as twos.

Stinkycatbreath Sat 16-May-20 15:12:26

Nobody will care. You have no need to explain I hope you have a lovely time.

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