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millerjane Fri 15-May-20 15:00:05

So on my internal comms I noticed there was someone with the exact surname as me. My dad is Sri Lankan so our surname is very ...um...specific. I just messaged someone on IM saying "HI never knew I shared my surname with anyone else" (I was VERY bored)

It's really inappropriate/unecessary. How inappropriate was this?

QuestionableMouse Fri 15-May-20 15:02:29

Bit weird but it's not like you sent a dick pic or something.

GreenOliveTree Fri 15-May-20 15:03:19

Ha this made me smile! I have an unusual surname but there are 3 of us in the (large) organisation where I work, I'm often tempted to do the same. Not been brave (or bored!) Enough to do it though smile

zscaler Fri 15-May-20 15:03:20

I wouldn’t worry about it - I wouldn’t think twice if one of my colleagues messaged me something like this. I think you’re overthinking!

goodwinter Fri 15-May-20 15:03:56

It's not inappropriate at all! Slightly unnecessary, sure.. but not something to get worked up about.

Vampyress Fri 15-May-20 15:04:09

I agree that you are overthinking it smile nothing wrong with it at all imo!

Olabeaches Fri 15-May-20 15:05:48

Unless they took offence (which surely they wouldn't have?!) I'm sure they're not going to report you. Would you report someone if they did it to you?

lastqueenofscotland Fri 15-May-20 15:07:07

Bit weird but you’ve not fucked up.

lanthanum Fri 15-May-20 15:10:26

I was tempted to do it once when working in a very large organisation - there were three of us with the same surname - one was my DH's cousin, but we didn't know who the other was.

Happynow001 Fri 15-May-20 15:10:33

Was it to the CEO? 🤭

JunoJigglewick Fri 15-May-20 15:22:15

I did that before. Wasn't a problem.

BusterTheBulldog Fri 15-May-20 15:24:56

Also used to have an unusual surname and totally get this, sure the person does too!

mynameiscalypso Fri 15-May-20 15:26:35

It's fine! It's a Friday afternoon during lockdown; most people are bored out of their minds!

GrumpyHoonMain Fri 15-May-20 15:28:36

I get this a lot at work - they’ll be flattered and you may make a workplace friend!

HopeYouStepOnALego Fri 15-May-20 15:29:57

One of your peers - don't give it another thought.

The CEO? Best start looking for another job now grin

Sciurus83 Fri 15-May-20 15:30:47

I would think this utterly charming, I hope when I go back to my computer it's me and you have messaged me. Except I'm not Sri Lankan so it's unlikely, still the point stands

HollowTalk Fri 15-May-20 15:31:28

I would definitely do this!

Cattermole Fri 15-May-20 15:32:11

I used to use a very specific historical quote in my email signature. (from the Putney Debates, on universal suffrage) and someone complained to my manager. Neither he nor I never did get to the bottom of what was so appalling about universal suffrage. I also once ended up having a properly weird conversation with a senior civil servant about whether I was the Cattermole who did a particular unrelated to work thing. Yes, I said warily, that's me. Oh said blokey I LOVE that thing! and had my passwords to the reporting system we were taking about, reset to reflect the thing.
Everybody else's are things like moonlight and unicorns, mine is related to Oliver bloody Cromwell. Humph.

Want2beme Fri 15-May-20 15:33:38

I've got a very unusual surname, and I'd be delighted if someone with the same surname contacted me to comment on it, either at work or SM. You never know, you might turn out to be related.

StuckInnTheMiddle Fri 15-May-20 15:34:49

I did this once years ago (my Dads Indian with an unusual surname) and it turned out he was a distant cousin. Me and dh are now really good friends with him and his dw and our kids go to the same school. We hang out together all the time!

KobeWan Fri 15-May-20 15:36:28

A lady with the same first and last name as me started a Facebook group for anyone who had the same name. There were only three or four of us in it. It died a death when people got married and changed their surnames.

amusedbush Fri 15-May-20 15:39:23

When I was 18 I worked at a large company's HQ and I had an unusual surname. Nothing too out there, but it wasn't everyday.

A middle aged man I didn't know saw my name on the directory and actually went to the trouble of coming up to my team's floor and asking people who I was, just to tell me to my face that my name "sounds like a porn star name".

THAT was inappropriate for work.

burnoutbabe Fri 15-May-20 15:41:51

i'd think it was fine

and you are bound to get emails for one another over the time anyway!

AlexisCarringtonColbyDexter Fri 15-May-20 15:42:24

Its absolutely fine.

You are way overthinking this- as PP have said, its not like you sent a naked photo! dont worry!

feebeecat Fri 15-May-20 15:42:37

I apparently have a very common name (thanks dh) there are seven of us within the organisation. Often get each other’s emails, so have got to know each other over the years. No idea about grades, never looked, we all just think it’s quite funny 🤷‍♀️

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