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AIBU?

To not cut grapes

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FreedomBird · 14/05/2020 07:39

I have a 3 and a 7 year old. And I no longer cut their grapes.

Me and DP had a massive barney about it last night and I’d like to know if I’m BU.

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AndMyHairWillShineLikeTheSea · 14/05/2020 07:40

Yes YABU !

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bluestarsatnightfall · 14/05/2020 07:40

Not for the 7 year old but definitely for the 3 year old. It won't even take a minute so why risk a child choking?

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Themostwonderfultimeoftheyear · 14/05/2020 07:40

The 7 year old should be fine but I would definitely still be cutting them for the 3 year old.

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DonLewis · 14/05/2020 07:40

The 3 yo still needs grapes cut. Their windpipes are smaller than grapes at that age.

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TwistyHair · 14/05/2020 07:41

I’d still cut them

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BrokenBrit · 14/05/2020 07:41

Yes! Cut them. Children die from whole grapes, plus it only takes a minute. No brainer really, 3 is still tiny.

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Rubyroses3 · 14/05/2020 07:41

Why put your 3 year old at risk for the sake of spending an extra 2 minutes to cut them?

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Butterflyonmyshoulder · 14/05/2020 07:42

Why wouldnt you?

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FudgeBrownie2019 · 14/05/2020 07:42

YABU - I would at their ages.

I know humans have been eating grapes for thousands of years but grapes are tricky little fuckers and the exact right shape and size to get lodged in a childs throat. For the sake of a couple of extra minutes cutting I'd just do it, particularly for your 3 year old.

I never let mine eat grapes anywhere but at home at the table - no wandering about the house with a bunch the way I did as a child.

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Lemondropsandgumdrops · 14/05/2020 07:42

I’m not sure why you wouldn’t really. For the time it takes to cut them, compared to the problems that could arise if you didn’t, surely just cut them?

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ScubaSteven · 14/05/2020 07:42

YABU - why wouldn’t you? Since there’s even an issue about which way they should be cut it’s pretty clear there’s a risk.

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Plsnomorepeppapig · 14/05/2020 07:43

YABVU

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BlackAndWhiteCat01 · 14/05/2020 07:43

Why wouldn’t you? Laziness? Why risk it ?

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Jeezoh · 14/05/2020 07:44

You absolutely should be, baffled you need to ask!

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theseriousmoonlight · 14/05/2020 07:44

I would for the 3 year old, certainly. It only takes a few seconds (as pp have pointed out). Better to be safe than sorry.

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KuckFnows · 14/05/2020 07:45

YABVU

Uncut grapes have killed children due to choking.


Why on earth would you risk it????

I don't understand your reason for not doing so.

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CaptainBlunderpants · 14/05/2020 07:45

Yes for the 3 year old. They can completely obstruct their windpipe. And cut them length ways, not across.

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Flamingolingo · 14/05/2020 07:45

A doctor friend has unfortunately first hand experience of trying to save several children with grapes lodged into their windpipe, or certifying death. He said that the overwhelming majority were older than you would expect, at 4-6 years old. If they will eat cut grapes I’d cut them up!

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Wigglegiggle0520 · 14/05/2020 07:45

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/girl-6-chokes-death-grape-7122409.amp

Why would you risk it? Like a PP said it literally takes a minute to cut them.

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icelollycraving · 14/05/2020 07:46

Yabvu. Of course you should Shock particularly the younger one.

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TypicalMeBreakMyTypicalRules · 14/05/2020 07:47

Yes! Because the skin is tough to break, the grape is moved to the back of the mouth, to be crushed by the molars. When the skin breaks, juice can shoot out and this can trigger the gag reflex. And as pp have said, grape is right size&shape to block.

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BeingATwatItsABingThing · 14/05/2020 07:47

I’ve only just stopped cutting them for my 6yo and now I hover over her while she eats them to make sure she chews each one. I’m also paranoid about apples after a family friend’s daughter started choking on a piece of apple at 7. Her dad was there and was able to dislodge it but it could have been so much worse!

YABU!!

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Ohtherewearethen · 14/05/2020 07:49

Could you live with yourself if your child choked on a grape you couldn't be bothered to cut?

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BeingATwatItsABingThing · 14/05/2020 07:49

I’ll add that when I cut grapes, I cut them into quarters lengthways so they can’t get stuck.

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TheRealMrsKeanuReeves · 14/05/2020 07:51

Cut the grapes.

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