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To be really sad that Amanda Palmer and Neil Gaiman have separated.

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blueglassandfreesias Mon 04-May-20 16:42:57

Officially cabin fevered now but I have followed both of their careers and always felt slightly that Neil Gaiman held all the power since AP had their child 4 years ago. She posts often about how much she loves him, he never does this.
They were in lockdown in New Zealand together then suddenly he left to hid house in Scotland.
I feel really sorry for her stuck in a country with their child, heartbroken and unable to face to face sort it all out with her husband.

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SunshineDays2019 Mon 04-May-20 16:44:08

Who are they? I'm ignorant curious

NotEverythingIsBlackandWhite Mon 04-May-20 16:45:22


LongPauseNoReply Mon 04-May-20 16:46:03

I have no idea who those people are. Am I officially old?

cardibach Mon 04-May-20 16:46:21

How has he managed to move to Scotland? I thought better of him than that, whatever may or may not be going on in his relationship (because we have no idea) aside.

blueglassandfreesias Mon 04-May-20 16:46:29

Neil Gaiman is a famous author- Good Omens etc AP is a singer songwriter, great Ted Talk.

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Bluntness100 Mon 04-May-20 16:46:48

Never heard of them sorry op.

purpleheathers Mon 04-May-20 16:47:05

You sound very over-invested in all of this when it's two people who presumably you are not friends with. Either way it is not very nice to start a gossip thread about people having a difficult time.

blueglassandfreesias Mon 04-May-20 16:47:08

I think he has a house in Scotland. God knows how he managed to leave NZ during lockdown.

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bridgetreilly Mon 04-May-20 16:47:10

She's a pretty awful person, though. I'm not surprised he didn't want to stay in lockdown with her.

PenCreed Mon 04-May-20 16:47:33

I assumed that she posted like that because she's all about the open emotions, rather than that he didn't feel the same way. He has by far the bigger career, which must be tough when both of them need to be able to move around. Interesting that he's gone to his house in Scotland though - she doesn't like it, apparently. Although given it's in Skye, he's a dickhead for going there at the moment when people are being discouraged from travelling to the islands.

blueglassandfreesias Mon 04-May-20 16:47:38

I just feel sad about it.

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SoupDragon Mon 04-May-20 16:47:54

I always wonder why people who don't know who a thread refers to post a "who are they?" type post. It would take the same amount of time to google and even less to ignore it.

DressingGownofDoom Mon 04-May-20 16:48:27


blueglassandfreesias Mon 04-May-20 16:49:11

Yes, I wondered whether he was one of those older dads who wasn’t as invested in having the whole family things as perhaps she was.

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WiddlinDiddlin Mon 04-May-20 16:49:26

I really can't get aeriated over this...

They are both very strong personalities, verging on arrogant in his case, they have never lived together full time anyway, or even anywhere near approaching that.

I've always understood their relationship to be mostly long distance and surviving only on the basis that they DO have seperate lives and live mainly apart - I am not at all surprised to discover enforced time together has caused a split.

purpleheathers Mon 04-May-20 16:50:31

He has by far the bigger career, which must be tough when both of them need to be able to move around.

NZ is an odd place to choose to live if you have a career where you need to be able move around easily.

KilljoysDutch Mon 04-May-20 16:50:33

People trying to be clever by saying they don't know who a very very famous and celebrated author is and proving their own ignorance instead is very amusing.

I follow him on Facebook and he's often posted in complete support of everything she does. Their business is their own though and we don't know and have no right to know what caused the breakdown of their marriage.

ilikebooksandplants Mon 04-May-20 16:51:48

I’m surprised at how many people don’t know who Neil Gaiman is. Do people not read?

I dislike Amanda Palmer (not a fan of her work and her social media presence is incredibly annoying!) so it always made me suspicious that there might be something wrong with him- he married her after all!
They have an incredibly beautiful child though, and I guess it’s always sad when people can’t make things work - I hope they are both happier without each other.

Helmetbymidnight Mon 04-May-20 16:52:08

i didnt know they were together!

im surprised!

sleepyhead Mon 04-May-20 16:52:51

I think his whole career he's buggered off to write somewhere isolated. I do t think not being able to do exactly as he likes would work well for him for an extended period of time.

She is very talented but sounds extremely hard work with everything out there always. Ditto not coping well with externally imposed boundaries.

Maybe they just need some space.

SunshineDays2019 Mon 04-May-20 16:53:08

Snapdragon, odd of you to jump in with that. It would have been preferable for you not to post too!

ImNotShpanishImEgyptshun Mon 04-May-20 16:53:10

I think he did post a lot about how much he loved her, and how great her work was. I was very surprised to see this but I'll be honest I have no info or opinions on the prior state of their relationship.

I'm assuming he's possibly gone to be with his UK based family.

PenCreed Mon 04-May-20 16:54:00

NZ is an odd place to choose to live if you have a career where you need to be able move around easily.

Pretty sure they don't live in NZ, they just happened to be there when lockdown happened. I think they have various houses in the US and the UK (based on following them both on Twitter).

sleepyhead Mon 04-May-20 16:54:00

I don't think they've ever lived together all that much have they?

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