To think I shouldn't be named and shamed for not clapping

(374 Posts)
Aberforthsgoat Wed 22-Apr-20 22:17:02

I clapped originally and it was lovely and everyone turned out for it here
Last week, after a rough night with DS I fell asleep after he went down and missed the clapping
A post went on our community Facebook group actually naming and shaming me.
I was mortified. The post said everyone else turned out and I showed the street up and if I can't spend a minute showing my appreciation I don't deserve to use the NHS if I or my family get ill
I ignored it at the time but I can't get it out of my head it's really upset me.

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ABagOfPopcorn Sun 10-May-20 17:22:50

I think you should absolutely send this clip if you ever go back to the group again Will Hislop (*@WillDHislop*) Tweeted: your aunt at the NHS clap #nhsclap

zingally Tue 28-Apr-20 20:23:03

If it turns up again, tell them to F off!

It says more about the person who wrote it than it does you.

If it were me, I wouldn't take part again!

Personally, we live in a flat and I haven't done any of the "claps". It seems like virtue signalling in the highest order. Each to their own, but it's a meaningless exercise. I'd rather just make sure I'm following the rules in terms of going out etc, than signalling what a lovely caring person I am, so all my neighbours will know how lovely and caring I am.

The whole exercise seems to be dying out around me. Looking out of the window last week, could only see one solitary kid banging a pan, and one other kid clapping while her mum took photos of her.

80sMum Tue 28-Apr-20 20:04:45

Doesn't the pot bashing and music blasting wake up NHS shift workers trying to sleep around their shift pattern?

Yes, it does and someone on my local Facebook page was told she was being a killjoy for commenting that she would prefer the noisy pot-banging and car horn blasting not to happen in her street, as she was trying to sleep after an exhausting shift!

I could not believe what I was reading! People were actually slagging off one of the very people who they purport to be supporting! You couldn't make it up!

Jojofjo44 Mon 27-Apr-20 17:00:27

I would be sarcastic and post about the massive shit i was depositing ad ask whether they would prefer i did it in the street. Arsewipes.

BlancheDuBlah Mon 27-Apr-20 14:51:53

That's right, they all look around. Why's that? Making sure they see who's clapping or that they've been seen? Or both? It's bringing out the inner nazi in so many.

tainot Mon 27-Apr-20 14:43:02

Oh and last week from what I could tell it was only one house doing it, the guy was stood at the end of his drive clapping his hands in air and turning around looking at every house. The cynic in me thought he was doing just for the attention but I don't know him so 'might' be a nice guy...that goes for regular walks with another guy who lives down the street.


tainot Mon 27-Apr-20 14:39:39

Please don't let this idiots get to you, the other people probably feel the same way as you. Someone posted a note through my door after the second week and it totally pissed me off and I asked on here if I was right to be annoyed! I couldn't tell at the time because the note had made me feel guilty for not doing it and I was in a foul mood to begin with.
It's such a weird time and bringing out the best and worst of people.

peoplewhoannoyyou Mon 27-Apr-20 14:24:57

I had to laugh at my neighbours yesterday, loudly berating the street because they were the only ones who had been clapping the NHS, to everyone in earshot of the extended family gathering they were having in their garden. It was even more amusing later on when one of them drunkenly fell over in the street later on and an ambulance had to come out! Yup, they're real supporters of the NHS, unlike everyone else in the street who is quietly self-isolating.

HPandTheNeverEndingBedtime Mon 27-Apr-20 14:19:52

I've found the whole human behaviour aspect of lockdown interesting. I always wondered how neighbours and family could turn on each other throughout different times throughout history, East German, Witch trials etc but we are not so different in modern times either, possibly worse with the use of social media

NoMorePoliticsPlease Mon 27-Apr-20 14:18:03

The Happy Clappers should be named and shamed as the idiots they are, especially on Westminster bridge. They feel entitled to disturb small children and animals with their superficial rubbish "Look at Mee arent I a good person" Enough is enough. Once was a gesture, now its hypocritical

copycopypaste Mon 27-Apr-20 14:11:53

I just think people are using this to bully others, hiding behind a good cause so not to look like a bully. Pisses me right off.

BlancheDuBlah Mon 27-Apr-20 10:05:47

Oops got you confused with the OP sorry, but the point stands.

BlancheDuBlah Mon 27-Apr-20 10:04:29

OP you absolutely shouldn't have to explain yourself!

They on the other hand...

PhilSwagielka Mon 27-Apr-20 10:01:08

I live in south Manchester myself, just outside the studenty bit.

I was always fascinated by East Germany. Whole families were regularly informing on each other. I wonder if people who grew up under the regime have trust issues as a result.

Daisylily656 Mon 27-Apr-20 09:59:43

Thank you.
I'm not sure if it goes against mumsnet rules but a little town in Oxfordshire. I am furious but as we my do and one did has health issues we are sheilding. So I don't want to be posting notes back or knocking on doors explaining myself.

BlancheDuBlah Mon 27-Apr-20 09:58:55

I wonder how many of them realise how fascist-like they're being.

I'm guessing they're not keen readers. Let alone history.

Piglet89 Mon 27-Apr-20 09:55:17

Reply, asking whether their friend Erich Mielke had ordered them to post such a thing.

PhilSwagielka Mon 27-Apr-20 09:43:53

Jesus @Daisylily656, where the hell do you live that people do that? If someone did that to me I'd be furious.

PhilSwagielka Mon 27-Apr-20 09:37:18

@LadyB49 I agree with you, it was a nice gesture at first but making it a regular thing cheapens it and people start missing the point.

Nombie Mon 27-Apr-20 09:13:25

I don't do the clapping. I appreciate the NHS every day of the year. They saved my partners life when he got sepsis, looked after my grandparents, father and in laws during their various ailments and I am doing my bit to stay inside. If I went outside my front door is within two meters of my neighbours so if they're out, family of 5 and I'm out not following guidelines and I know they've not been social distancing so not risking that.

I've also seen many posts where NHS staff have said please stop, it's Interrupting their sleep, startling animals and children with issues and I don't want to cause anyone stress due to noise which I don't need to make.

It was nice to start with but the NHS look after us everyday regardless of if there is a pandemic or not. They're grossly underfunded and they need people to rally for practice overhaul and more money not bang pots and pans.

I'd have replied to their post and said something like, I'm sorry looking after my child took priority on this occasion but thank you for naming and shaming me in an aim to make me and my family feel bad. make them realise they are the asshole. No one should be taking attendance.

BlancheDuBlah Mon 27-Apr-20 09:08:07

I'm sorry you're surrounded by thick people *DaisyLily.

Daisylily656 Mon 27-Apr-20 08:57:44

Ive been shamed in our street for not clapping. I'm either cleaning, gardening , putting the children to bed, or yeah having a nice hot bubble bath for me time. I've had notes posted through the door.

GalactiCat Mon 27-Apr-20 08:36:26

See the lazy journalists have poached this for the news.

BlancheDuBlah Mon 27-Apr-20 08:31:50

One of my neighbours has been volunteering with the NHS, dropping off meds to those who can't get to our local chemist.

I haven't seen her clapping yet but yeah let's judge her because she's not parading herself on FB, am I right?


LadyB49 Mon 27-Apr-20 08:06:03

I've clapped with everyone else.
However - I'm prepared to be flamed here. I think keeping on with it cheapens it. Certainly in my street it is dropping off which suggests it could gradually fade off.
If that's the case I'd rather there had been the one clapping event and the knowledge that we all support our wonderful key workers.

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