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AIBU?

“Ughhh stop walking around”

97 replies

Coronashe · 08/04/2020 19:31

Went to the supermarket today to pick up something click and collect. Went into the store and headed to the cashiers and saw there was a queue and walked past 2 people who were waiting to get to the back. Id probably been in the store all of 15seconds. As I passed one them loudly said ughhh stop walking around.

I can only assume she thought i should have not walked past them and gone all the way round another aisle to stand behind them. Fair enough, maybe, but I didn’t think and I probably walked past her in 0.5seconds, not closely and certainly didn’t linger.

I couldn’t be bothered saying anything but I did think what a prat especially since all she was buying was a bottle of wine (not essential) and then paid in cash (told to pay by card to minimise risk). I did think if you’re going to criticise people then at least make sure you’re adhering to the rules too.

Saying that she did thank the cashier for his job so probably not all bad. But I’ve got home and I feel really irritated by it now.

I usually avoid the shops so when I see these threads I normally think the people they’re complaining about are in the minority and a few bunch of idiots looking cause a fight when there really is none. But maybe it’s more widespread.

Or maybe I’m the unreasonable one and I should have apologised. AIBU?

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Am I being unreasonable?

271 votes. Final results.

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You are being unreasonable
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You are NOT being unreasonable
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IDoAllMyOwnStunts · 08/04/2020 19:35

Did you keep your 2 m distance from them?

Coronashe · 08/04/2020 19:37

Nope I didn’t. I just walked past. But neither was she keeping 2m from the person behind her.

Happy to be told I’m being unreasonable on this occasion.

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DollyDoneMore · 08/04/2020 19:38

You are being unreasonable. Keep your distance.

bluebeck · 08/04/2020 19:38

If you deliberately walked closer than 2 metres from them then you are definitely BVVU

Dreamersandwishers · 08/04/2020 19:38

Wine is essential.

newmumagainn · 08/04/2020 19:39

YABVU- doesn't matter what anyone else is doing that's not a justification for not keeping your distance

Coronashe · 08/04/2020 19:42

I didn’t deliberately walk closer. It was unthinking yes though.

I was probably a metre away from her as was she to the person in the queue as well.

Is wine an essential item to go to the supermarket for when it’s the only thing you’re buying? I’ve seen people on here say milk is not essential which id disagree with but blimey wine.

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DysonFury · 08/04/2020 19:42

What is more essential than wine?

Coronashe · 08/04/2020 19:44

Haha fair enough. To each their own!

Im not bothered if people want to go out and buy wine. But then again I’m not bothered if people walk past me, clearly don’t linger and are just getting on with their day. We’re all just trying to do our best. Making loud passive aggressive comments into the ether just seems so unnecessary.

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Cheerbear23 · 08/04/2020 19:48

You should have been more aware and kept 2m away.
I’ve had to tell people to stay back from me when they’re edging closer in queues, I wish everyone would realise how close they are and stick to the rules.

Coronashe · 08/04/2020 19:57

Ha. Fair enough.

If I wanted to be an arse though wine definitely does not come under essential travel to the supermarket when the government issued their guidelines. So it can’t be follow one rule and not another.

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WaterOffADucksCrack · 08/04/2020 20:12

Yabu for not keeping your distance. I noticed some people seem to think the 2m rule is only when people are in front of or behind you but not walking past people.

You have no idea why she was in the shop, maybe they didn't have the things she needed and she thought since she was already there she would buy the wine. She also could have gone to use another service in store such as a pharmacy.

StealthPolarBear · 08/04/2020 20:16

But surely if the op should keep her distance, so should she?

Coronashe · 08/04/2020 20:16

There is no pharmacy or other service there. And if the shop doesn’t have what you need maybe you should go home or go to another store rather than hang around in the queue buying non essential items, thereby increasing the amount of time you’re in contact with people and potentially spreading and/or contracting the virus?

Might seem a bit extreme BUT THE RULES ARE THE RULES! And if we’re going to enforce one, let’s enforce them all!

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BelfryBat · 08/04/2020 20:19

Someone walked near to me in supermarket yesterday to get to the till and I stopped them. They literally whined at me 'I need to go the till' and I just said 'walk round the other way!' It took about 10 seconds, max for them to do this. There was one-way signage on the floor and everything. Shops are making social distancing very easy, there's no excuse for getting too close to other customers.

BelfryBat · 08/04/2020 20:20

@Cheerbear You need to cultivate a Hard Stare, like Paddington's. I'm an expert on this.

Coronashe · 08/04/2020 20:22

I’m all for social distancing - I admit it was thoughtless rather than deliberate. I don’t however like rude passive aggressive behaviour. And there’s no point following social distancing when people insist on leaving their homes and waiting in queues to buy non essential items. That’s exactly what we’re being told not to do as per government guidelines.

I think if one wants to go about loudly extorting the rules one should really make sure they’re following it themselves. People in glass houses and all that.

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SharonasCorona · 08/04/2020 20:22

YANBU, she was a hypocrite OP. Probably one of the ‘FFS stay at home’ brigade’!

This is why I answer back then and there, so I’m not stewing on it later. Much cheaper than therapy Grin

Coronashe · 08/04/2020 20:24

Yup. I’m not normally quite calm and unruffled by these sorts of things and apart from an internal WTF as I then proceeded to watch her go to a cashier to pay for a wine using a cash note which she handed over then asked for it back and handed over another note I thought I was unbothered. Until I came home and realised I was really quite annoyed!

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Croprotationinthe14thcentury · 08/04/2020 20:25

2 wrongs don't make a right. You should have stayed 2 metres away, end of. Although I understand why you feel she was being a bit of tit.

EveryDayIsADuvetDay · 08/04/2020 20:26

Off licences have been deemed essential services, so there can't be a "law" against buying wine.
Yes it can be annoying when people loiter - I normally just say "excuse me" loudly, then walk past if they don't shift like I did with the irritating family of two parents and maybe 6-7 year old child that kept picking everything up and wiping her mitts all over it in Tesco this afternoon - but at the end of the day there's a lot less risk walking past someone at dare i say it - less than 2 metres, than sitting next to them for half an hour and having a picnic.

goldenorbspider · 08/04/2020 20:28

People are very highly strung and stresses out at the minute op. You meant no harm don't take it to heart

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GabsAlot · 08/04/2020 20:29

Prob both BU here i dont think just a bottle is essential also dont think yu should have walked past her

Our tesco has one way aisles now but bugger if anyone is taking any notice of them

iheartislesofwight · 08/04/2020 20:41

it can still be difficult to keep 2m distance in our local supermarket the aisles are narrow and some people um and er about what to purchase, if you go the other way round to avoid them there is always someone else to avoid.
if it's not possible to keep 2m rule i turn my back to them whilst they go past.

canyon2000 · 08/04/2020 20:46

If there was less than 2m between her and the person behind her then that isn't her fault, the person behind should be making sure they are further away.

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