Context: DP and I have 2 DC- DD5 and DS2.
Our normal evening routine after tea involves me bathing both DC, putting them to bed and doing stories while DP washes up and tidies up downstairs.
Tonight, after tea DD discovers a DVD of an old children’s’ TV programme I used to love and asked if she could watch it.
I said yes and also said I would put DS to bed, which I did.
I put DS to bed and sat with him a while. I could hear downstairs that DD and DP were watching the DVD together. I also heard DP suggest that it was time for bed after an episode ended but DD really wanted to see it and DP relented.
As such, I stayed upstairs, had a read and spoke to my parents on the phone when they called.
Eventually, while I was still up there, DP brought a very tired, cranky and whingy DD to bed.
DP then complained about having had no time to do anything that evening and it was all my fault because I hadn’t come down to collect DD for bed and stories!
I said that DP is a parent too and could have called time on the DVD while I was upstairs but chose not to.
I was told that it was my responsibility because I “always” do stories and DP was just “waiting” for me but I never came.
In fact DP usually does stories about once a week on average, but this somehow means that bedtime is always my responsibility.
I thought that they were enjoying a DVD together (which is why I stayed upstairs reading) and the fact that DP let DD have extra episodes after initially suggesting it was bedtime meant I thought DP had made a judgement call, and I didn’t intervene.
I offered to help with DPs undone chores (which could have been done while DD was watching the DVD, frankly), and DP has now stomped off to bed leaving me to do them all.
Can someone explain how I’m in the wrong here? I’m usually the first to apologise if I’m even partly to blame but I can’t see what I have done wrong here.
Yes = I am in the wrong.
No = I am not in the wrong.
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TheMogster · 28/03/2020 23:06
OP posts:
Am I being unreasonable?
513 votes. Final results.
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You are being unreasonable
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You are NOT being unreasonable
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Ck817 ·
28/03/2020 23:59
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