To think I can still get away with wearing short shorts?

[Ellaandtoddler]

I’m 23 and a UK size 10 with an 18 month old dd. My legs aren’t particularly toned but I don’t think they’re completely awful! I was looking at clothes for the summer earlier (when we can finally go out!) and I came across a pair of pink shorts that I really liked the look of. I asked my dp what he thought and he said perhaps it would be best to wear trousers or 3/4 lengths now that I am a mum and that my legs aren’t completely toned! I was really annoyed! I had suggested wearing them with a white jumper/ long sleeved t-shirt so it’s not like I would be showing my stomach. When I asked him why he said that he said that whilst I am still youngish I need to dress appropriately now that I have a child. It’s taken me ages after having my dd to feel comfortable within myself and I just feel upset now. Aibu to think that I can still wear shorts?

[chardonm]

Wear the shorts and don't ask him again what he thinks. You're 23 figs!!!

[lottieleo]

Yes you can wear what ever you like!
Child no child, 23 or 83!!
I'd buy multiple pairs now and wear them all summer.
I'm guessing he has the body of a greek god pft

[Thehop]

You were very unreasonable to ask this adobos what his opinion was. Your legs, your choice!

[crosspelican]

God is he always this Victorian? Of course you can wear shorts!!

Tell him to get you some of these for your next birthday:

[Moomin8]

He sounds awful.

[Thymelord]

My god he sounds hideous. I cannot abide men with that "now you're a mum" opinion. Wear the shorts, ditch the bell end.

[PianoTuner567]

He’s ridiculous. I wore short shorts last summer and I’m 42.

[MomOfTwoGirls2]

Ha! I am 54, mother of two older teenagers, size 14 and not at all toned. I still wear shorts when we have the weather for it.
At 23 (and a size 10!) you can wear anything you want!
Your DH sounds quite uptight.

[pippishortsocks]

You have a pair of shorts and you have a pair of legs. Therefore you can get away with wearing the shorts, if you were a mermaid then that might make it tricky but other than that it's not a problem.

[InkieNecro]

Ah, so nothing that might be attractive anymore?

Don't ask him, he doesn't have to wear them so he doesn't get an opinion.

[DontStandSoCloseToMe]

Shorts fine, you say short shorts, if they're the ones that show your backside I'm not a fan of those on anyone, but your choice what you wear

[Ellaandtoddler]

Thanks everyone! He’s very uptight about what I wear, but not as much about anything else! He’s driving me mad at the moment as he comments on everything I wear/how I look!

[BogRollBOGOF]

Has he taken up wearing dad denim???

Wear the shorts with confidence, whatever your age and size.

[Pinkflipflop85]

He sounds like a prize wanker

[cakeandchampagne]

Wear the shorts, but not with the jumper- you’re going to get sweaty packing all his stuff in boxes. :)

[kingkuta]

He sounds awful. Believe me the shorts won't be the last of things he says you can't do now you're a mum unless you put him very firmly in his place now.

[Ellaandtoddler]

@DontStandSoCloseToMe no not that short, just ones above mid thigh length

[runningtogetskinny]

I'm 52, I wear shorts if it's hot. When I was younger I was so self conscious I never wore anything short, I encourage my daughter to wear anything she feels like wearing. I wish I'd cared less what others thought when I was young - wear the shorts and ignore your arsey DH

[raspberryk]

Ffs I'm 10 years older than you, definitely not toned I'm a 14/16 2 kids and I wear short shorts in the summer. My dp likes them and if he didn't I'd tell him to get fucked.

[PianoTuner567]

He doesn’t sound great to be honest, OP. What sort of things does he like you to wear/not wear?

[NamedyChangedy]

You asked for his opinion though. Probably best not to do that in future, and wear whatever you want.

[kingkuta]

Don't get upset, get angry. He's being a complete and utter twat to you. He's deliberately trying to knock your confidence and keep you feeling down. Not the behaviour of someone who loves you.

[AsCoolAsLangCleg]

"Still youngish"? You're 23! Wear the shorts.

[JoyceDivision]

I'm.late 40s, ample sized and wear short shorts when it's hot. I gave up giving a fuck a long time ago. Still a long way to go for women to not fret about how others judge how they look.

Your DH sounds like knob.

[DontStandSoCloseToMe]

Even if they were the bum flashers OP he shouldn't be telling you what to wear