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Is DS being a CF?

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MirandaGoshawk Wed 26-Feb-20 13:58:11

DS is 26 and lives at home. He works long hours, so I do his washing. His GF is also 26 and lives with her parents. She stays over with DS two or three nights a week. Her socks & undies have appeared in our washing basket a couple of times and I've done them without comment. Now a pair of her trousers have appeared. I mentioned them to DS and said I wasn't happy with extra work drying clothes in this weather. He said to shove them in with his and tumble dry (which I tend to avoid). But the label says no. Anyway today is blowy so I have washed them. AIBU to ask him to get her to take her washing home in future? What if I shrink something?

SpongeBobJudgeyPants Wed 26-Feb-20 14:00:21

Bit CF yes. Maybe you can say knicks yes, anything bigger with a more complicated wash care no?

Feelingpoorlysick Wed 26-Feb-20 14:01:48

It's only one pair of trousers, I think you're being a little mean.

However, I do think it's ridiculous that your son still lives at home at 26.

MiddleClassProblem Wed 26-Feb-20 14:02:03

It’s weird that’s she’s fine with you washing her underwear tbh

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy Wed 26-Feb-20 14:02:15

I think your DS's GF is the one being a CF. Ask her to take her dirty knickers home with her! Yuk.

SewItGoes Wed 26-Feb-20 14:05:32

The whole thing feels a bit immature, tbh. In her place, I'd be mortified to have you doing my laundry and would much rather just take them home.

I'd either put her things in a bag to go home (where her mother can do them for her, most likely), or I'd take him at his word and toss it all in the tumble drier (if you're doing your son's that way, anyway). If something's ruined, it's your son's fault (and hers, but that's besides the point).

P1nkHeartLovesCake Wed 26-Feb-20 14:06:52

Honestly if I was putting the wash on anyway, I really couldn’t get worked up about this 🤷🏻‍♀️ It’s not like your putting the machine on for her it’s going on anyway

IceColdCat Wed 26-Feb-20 14:07:10

I'd ask DS to start doing his own laundry (and hers) rather than ask her to stop putting clothes in.

Flutteringsatlast Wed 26-Feb-20 14:08:26

Buy ds a washing basket and make him man the fuck up and wash their stuff!!

SewItGoes Wed 26-Feb-20 14:09:08

Actually, yes. Your son may work long hours, but when he eventually moves out, he'll need to know how to do his own laundry. Now is as good a time as any to learn.

FlaskMaster Wed 26-Feb-20 14:10:03

Tell him to do his own fucking washing, and hers! He's 26 for goodness sake, unless he's working 24 hours a day this is fucking ridiculous and you are enabling him to be a complete fucking loser. Who the fuck would still have their mum do their washing at 26?!

Kimbaland Wed 26-Feb-20 14:10:20

Christ I couldn't think of anything worse than OH's mum handling my dirty knickers. Have a word, just say bits and bobs is understandable but you don't live here

TooMuchBloodyChoice Wed 26-Feb-20 14:10:45

If they belong to his girlfriend then he should wash them or tell her to take them home.

Lots of people work long hours and still manage to do their own laundry.

Serenschintte Wed 26-Feb-20 14:13:02

He should be doing his own washing. He’s 26. I’m a SAHM. DH works long hours, stressful etc etc. He still irons his own shirts, puts a wash on 2/3 morning a weeks, cooks couple times a week and few other things.
If he washes them and you dry them at least he is taking responsibility a bit. as for GF clothes I think that’s a bit CF.

MrsCasares Wed 26-Feb-20 14:13:18

YABU for living somewhere that’s had enough dry weather to dry something outside today.

Regards, a very soggy dog walking munsnetter.

OhLook Wed 26-Feb-20 14:13:33

He should be doing his own laundry.

It's one thing to do your son's, but if she is actually putting her clothes in for you to wash on purpose that is very odd. Who is she, the queen? Why should she come to your house and expect you to wash and dry her clothes?!

ShesGotBetteDavisEyes Wed 26-Feb-20 14:14:23

No way would I wash girlfriends/boyfriends dirty undies. Bloody cheek!

JasonBrun Wed 26-Feb-20 14:14:41

Your son needs to do his own washing. You are not helping him by letting him be a man child incapable of looking after himself.

northernlittledonkey Wed 26-Feb-20 14:15:05

Get him to do his own laundry.

slipperywhensparticus Wed 26-Feb-20 14:15:12

Well if you shrink something she wont leave them again will she

userxx Wed 26-Feb-20 14:16:04

However, I do think it's ridiculous that your son still lives at home at 26.

Probably due to ridiculous house prices/rent.

neverdoingthatagain100 Wed 26-Feb-20 14:16:18

Another one for son doing his own laundry, problem solved!!

TestingTestingWonTooFree Wed 26-Feb-20 14:17:55

I dare say there will be people working the same hours who run a whole household. He should do his own laundry (and hers) and be grateful not to have the hassle and expense of the house.

Feelingpoorlysick Wed 26-Feb-20 14:19:08

I'm 30, so not much older. I moved out at 19, was married at 24, had my son at 26.... I guess that's why it feels weird to me that someone aged 26 still lives with parents. If he works full time there is probably no reason to not be living on his own/ with gf and be doing his own washing.

VeganCow Wed 26-Feb-20 14:19:36

I also couldn't get this worked up about a bit of washing, she isn't leaving full wash loads is she? My daughters bf stays over and I wash his stuff, just shove it in with ours, its no hassle at all and it's nice to be nice.

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