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TryToBalance Mon 24-Feb-20 20:35:21

Hi all, just sanity checking something that happened.

Both Couple A & Couple B together for 20+ years, children etc. The couples have known each for a couple of years. Not particularly close but have always got on well in social situations. This particular night, everyone getting quite gingin but still lucid. Wife B is paying particular attention to Husband A. Husband B is elsewhere (at the party), Wife B is sitting at Husband A's shoulder. Wife B is talking directly to Wife A, says "My husband (Husband B) really does like you (Wife A), but not as much as I (Wife B) like Husband A."

This has caused some stress in Couple A, as Husband A cannot see any issue. Is Wife A being unreasonable to think Wife B has just signalled a very "special" or "creepy" interest in Husband A and that Wife B was being somewhat insulting towards Wife A by saying this so openly? smile.

WalkingDeadTrainee Mon 24-Feb-20 20:36:41

I would assume orgy invite

Bagofoldbones Mon 24-Feb-20 20:37:50


idontlike789 Mon 24-Feb-20 20:37:51

They are probably swingers grin

Stressedout10 Mon 24-Feb-20 20:39:02

You've been invited to a wife swap 🤢

ItStartedWithAKiss241 Mon 24-Feb-20 20:39:10

Yep this is a bit over-friendly and I would suggest it was a hint at a sexual thing x

Ponoka7 Mon 24-Feb-20 20:39:41

I'd say that was a swinging invite.

Justmuddlingalong Mon 24-Feb-20 20:40:14

Swingers. Husband A is flattered by the comment and doesn't see your issue with it because of that.

Divebar Mon 24-Feb-20 20:41:13

Ha ha. Defo swingers. What was she offended by? The fact the woman wanted to shag her husband or that the woman’s husband didn’t want to shag her so much?

Largeyellowdaffodil Mon 24-Feb-20 20:41:29

Wife swapping

My advice- make sure that you and your new partner get the best house and the least trouble children.

cochineal7 Mon 24-Feb-20 20:41:53

I am assuming you are Wife A. And I would assume it was a not so veiled invite for either partner exchange or group sex rather than an insult.

Ohyesiam Mon 24-Feb-20 20:42:15


loutypips Mon 24-Feb-20 20:44:20

Was there a bowl full of keys anywhere by chance?

PrincessHoneysuckle Mon 24-Feb-20 20:45:38

Are they called Donald and Jacqueline?

MrsGrindah Mon 24-Feb-20 20:45:51

Or pampas grass outside?

Chesntoots Mon 24-Feb-20 20:46:07

Pampas grass anywhere?

thepeopleversuswork Mon 24-Feb-20 20:47:06

Does sound like an invitation for swinging.

As to whether it crosses a line, depends very much on the nature of the friendships and the people involved. I can imagine this without comment among some people I know, in other circles would be a high crime. I assume you're Wife A?

IceColdCat Mon 24-Feb-20 20:47:48

Husband A really thinks that was a totally normal and acceptable thing to say??

TryToBalance Mon 24-Feb-20 20:51:41

@IceColdCat. Does not seem to see there might be an issue. Seems obvious though, surely? Will add that Wife B's tone/gist was that Husband B not interested in Wife A sexually.

Reginabambina Mon 24-Feb-20 20:54:03

I’m surprised by the responses, to me wife A sounds completely neurotic. It seems like just a bit of tipsy/drunk flirting.

BerylReader Mon 24-Feb-20 20:54:31

My mums neighbour asked her if she’d be into swapping husbands. She said ‘What for? A camel?’

TheGirlWithAPrince Mon 24-Feb-20 20:57:16

Yeah I say wife swap or 4some as well

managedmis Mon 24-Feb-20 20:57:31

Good one beryl grin

TryToBalance Mon 24-Feb-20 20:59:29

@Reginabambina. Wife B had about 15 minutes previous, asked Wife A to "go and fix us (Wife B & Husband A) a couple of gins".

dustibooks Mon 24-Feb-20 21:01:03

Oh God - they haven't got pampas grass in their front garden, have they?!

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