My in laws want to babysit our LO which I have no issue with if it was around 2 hours but they want her for an entire day (10.5 hours) whilst me and OH are at work 2 days a month.
My mum normally has my LO on that day each week but she is physically able to.
Unfortunately my in laws are not in good health at all both had had cancer which has returned in the past year but thankfully through treatment are on remission. One has chronic fatigue syndrome , is on remission from cancer which has involved radiotherapy causing lasting health issues, constantly falling over and unable to get up and down from the floor with ease. Other GP has arthritis where they have infusions to manage pain which also cause them to have a very low immune system, fibromyalgia, sciatica and high on high rate disability due to all of this. If this GP gets a cold it wipes them out for weeks. They avoid going to the shops often in case they pick up a cold.
Aibu for saying that as much as they want LO who is a very active 1.5 year old they just aren't fit enough. 2/3 hours are fair enough but not 10.5 hours. My LO is at nursery and brings back constant colds which she lovingly passes to us.
They've never had any babysitting duties as I've not been confident that they are well enough and after our 3-4 hours visits where I manage looking after my daughter they are exhausted to the point they go to bed. Go says They struggle to get out of bed before 10am at times
They also have had to cancel A lot as an appointment has come up for their health, or my LO has a cold.
I feel really bad but my OH wants to give them a chance this time but I am worried that they physically can't do it for that long and it will impact their health. The colds issue is also huge as if my LO has a cold they can't see her, as soon as GP white cells go up they can't have infusions so end up in awful pain.
The other issue is that they have a dog and are a bit lax in supervision at times. My LO has to be constantly monitored as she wants to give love but is always too rough so the dog runs away. We are trying to work on this. The dog is a lapdog so requires a lot of attention and has separation anxiety If one of them goes out of the room for more than a few mins.
I'm saying no to such a long day bit OH says we should give them a chance. I want to give them a real bond with my LO but their health and other commitments have limited it and they get upset that my LO is so bonded with my mum but it's not through not trying with them.
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Itssosunnyout · 20/02/2020 05:40
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