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Boyfriend got a Valentine’s card that wasn’t from me

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Aibuto Fri 14-Feb-20 17:58:53

Just as the title says.
My boyfriend got a card in the post this morning that wasn’t from me!
He thinks he knows who it’s from as he recognises the handwriting. He reckons an ex girlfriend of his who he split up with last January.
AIBU to message her to ask her what she’s playing at? She knows he’s with me now so why is she still bothering?

GreyishDays Fri 14-Feb-20 18:00:05

Just ask her when you see her at school on Monday.

PurpleDaisies Fri 14-Feb-20 18:00:28

Don’t give her the attention. That’s what she wants.

ilovedjerrymore Fri 14-Feb-20 18:00:36

I personally wouldn't message her have you asked your boyfriend what he plans to do and if he is going to message her and ask her what she is playing at?

Why did they split?

Lordfrontpaw Fri 14-Feb-20 18:00:56

I was going to ask who over the age of 12 sends anonymous valentines.

LovingLola Fri 14-Feb-20 18:01:53

who he split up with last January.

Do you mean January 2019? Or last month ?

headlicehelp Fri 14-Feb-20 18:03:41

Who cares? You'll look demented if you message her.
Do you live together? If not, Why did your bf even tell you about it?

katy1213 Fri 14-Feb-20 18:03:46

You don't own him! But you can scrap with her in the playground on Monday.

nocluewhattodoo Fri 14-Feb-20 18:03:55

Ignore it. Don't message her, acknowledging it and it causing issues is what she wants.

AnchorDownDeepBreath Fri 14-Feb-20 18:03:59

Well if you message her she’ll know it caused problems, so it’s mission accomplished for her...

U2HasTheEdge Fri 14-Feb-20 18:04:19

She is no threat to you is she? If not then I don't see what really matters.

You will look silly messaging her.

Aibuto Fri 14-Feb-20 18:04:44

Thanks for the responses so far.
He wants to forget about it and doesn’t want to message her.
It’s just really gotten to me that she thinks that’s ok
They split up last January because they had been ‘drifting apart’ for some time and not putting in the effort with each other. That’s what makes it bizarre to me..why is she making the effort now?

Aibuto Fri 14-Feb-20 18:05:15

@LovingLola 2019

Nanamilly Fri 14-Feb-20 18:05:48

It's probably from his mum.

My dad used to send me one when I was at primary school.

AuntieStella Fri 14-Feb-20 18:07:11

Week on Monday - next week's half term

(Or is it variable by region thus year?)

headlicehelp Fri 14-Feb-20 18:07:31

Also if she really did send it then it's likely he's still in contact with her.
Either way he's told you to make you jealous.

mumsie2019 Fri 14-Feb-20 18:10:40

He has a admirer, it valentines.. he's not your property but your partner end of.
Headlicehelos advice is leaning on daily soap opera get a life.

vodkaredbullgirl Fri 14-Feb-20 18:14:06

its only a card, shes's not after a shag from him

LeggyLinda Fri 14-Feb-20 18:14:11

Not a problem. Valentine’s Day is a bit of fun.
If she still has feelings then that’s her problem. He chose you over her. Unless he sent one back then you’re overreacting.

Nuttyfellalovesnutella Fri 14-Feb-20 18:17:20

If anyone is going to ask what she’s playing at, it should be him.

There’s no law in admiring someone, and he isn’t your property. You should be able to trust him.

ABlackRussian Fri 14-Feb-20 18:18:11

You sure he didn't send it?🙄

DressesWithPocketsRockMyWorld Fri 14-Feb-20 18:18:50

@GreyishDays giant LOL!

Ouchaheadinmybehind Fri 14-Feb-20 18:25:00

It’s just really gotten to me that she thinks that’s ok

She can send a card to anyone she likes really. Why does it bother you? I would just laugh.

He wants to forget about it and doesn’t want to message her

He’s right. If she thinks it’s affected either of you it would probably please her. He’s with you not her. Forget it.

BlokeTarget Fri 14-Feb-20 18:26:58

You sound incredibly jealous and controlling.

Your poor BF.

Like he’s the one who’s “done something wrong” hmm

Aquamarine1029 Fri 14-Feb-20 18:28:07

If you wish to look like an unhinged, utter fool, by all means, contact her.

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