I am a 38 year old mum of 2 young children. I work full time shifts which are opposite shifts to my husband so one of us is always at home with the kids.
My mum who is 71 lives 70 miles away from me and has been a widower for 4 years. My mum expects me to call her everyday. I have just come back from being away for 3 days so did not speak to her for the three days I was away. This has totally pissed her off I should have called her whilst I was away. I tried to call her yesterday and she would not answer the phone which had me worried (she has done this before and I had to call the police as thought she was ill or hurt)I finally spoke to her today and she ranted at me that she had not spoken to me for three days, I do not care about her etc etc. She has recently spent 2 weeks at our house and I saw her last weekend. She is also pissed off because it was my DS 6th birthday on weds and she did not see him on his birthday but had seen him 3 days before. She said I snubbed her on his birthday last year and this year!
I have 2 brothers who are a waste of space and she says I should do more as I am a girl!!!!
I quite often call her at 5 in the evening whilst preparing the kids tea and it is hard to talk as the kids are always on in the background. She says I should call her back later when the kids are in bed, but to be honest if I have been up since 5.30 am and have been at work and then had the kids all afternoon by the time the evening comes I am fit for slouching with a glass of wine infront of the tv.
She also expects us to take her on holiday and have her every christmas. Sometimes I want family time on our own.
The worst bit of all is that she is a hypochondriac and has every ailment under the sun and spends most of her time talking continually and complaining . Whatever I do never seems good enough. Today I totally lost it with her because she said I do not understand she is lonely and I do not care about her.
I have a family of my own, I work full time and get zero time for me.
She has no hobbies, cannot drive and does not really have any friends.
Am I being unreasonable to not expect to call her everyday especially when I am away. Sorry to rant but had enough and really cross
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mumof2monsters · 03/09/2007 12:27
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