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Not saying hello to dog walker

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liferr · 29/01/2020 14:28

My husband and I are both able to work from home a couple of times a week but we have a dog walker for consistency.

I mostly just shout hi to her or pretend I'm not in. Dh thinks I'm rude for not going up to dog walker and saying hello in person. Can't be arsed tbh. Especially if I haven't bothered to put my bra on!

Do you say hello every time?

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Bananacloud · 29/01/2020 14:29

“Haven’t bothered to put on my bra” 😂😂 classic!
Yanbu!

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liferr · 29/01/2020 14:31

I suspect she knows I'm in which makes it a bit weird eg she sometimes reminds my dog she won't be walking her tomorrow as she has a dentist appointment (in a loud voice)

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Nanny0gg · 29/01/2020 14:32

Bit rude really.

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NoMorePoliticsPlease · 29/01/2020 14:32

So rude!

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MummyFriend · 29/01/2020 14:34

It's fine OP. She's there for your dog anyway not to socialise with you. Not everyone likes chit chat anyway so she might appreciate not having to make the effort either! Grin

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Hahaha88 · 29/01/2020 14:34

Of course it's rude

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goodgodingovan · 29/01/2020 14:34

It's quite rude unless you're on a call.

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nornironrock · 29/01/2020 14:35

Are you the kind of person that just throws money on the bar, or carries on talking on their phone whilst the checkout person is helping you?

Sorry, but ignoring someone who is there to help you - and probably loves your dog as much as you do, is just plain rude. Actually, ignorant.

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MacAndDennisMoveToTheSuburbs · 29/01/2020 14:36

Yes, I think it’s rude of you not to go and say hello to her if you’re in.

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rainbowrainbows · 29/01/2020 14:37

I would feel so anti social doing that. I agree with your DH! I’m guessing you work from home because you don’t like people very much?

I love chatting to our dog walker, on the rare occasion I see her.

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liferr · 29/01/2020 14:40

If I'm presentable and not busy I always say hi...which isn't that often as I wear pjs when I work remotely.

I just thought shouting hi was ruder tbh.

Mortified that I'm being rude.

No I don't throw money on the counter/talk on mobile at checkout.

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AryaStarkWolf · 29/01/2020 14:40

It's pretty rude yeah

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Sonichu · 29/01/2020 14:41

Of course it's bloody rude!

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liferr · 29/01/2020 14:42

I like people but don't really like to be seen when scruffy.

I work remotely because it reduces the costs associated with commuting into London.

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DriveMeCrazy1974 · 29/01/2020 14:43

I think you're being incredibly rude. You sound as if you think the dog walker is just the 'hired help'. Not a very nice attitude at all, really.

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liferr · 29/01/2020 14:44

Tbh I'm not overly keen on small talk either.

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Strugglingtodomybest · 29/01/2020 14:44

Another vote for rude I'm afraid.

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GreyhoundzRool · 29/01/2020 14:45

Rude

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UpsyDaaaisy · 29/01/2020 14:45

It's rude but it's something I would do and then get told off for Smile I'm pretty socially awkward and I'm the kind of person that runs around hiding from the window cleaner. I'd at the very least though just shout down or pip your head round to say hi then just explain you can't chat because of work etc

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Mumdiva99 · 29/01/2020 14:45

Just pop out in your jammies and say hi.

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Walkacrossthesand · 29/01/2020 14:45

She might be glad that she can just come in, pick up/drop off dog, and be on her way, regardless of whether there's anyone in or not.

Maybe you could have a conversation with her on an occasion when you're dressed Grin - say that you're aware that you don't always call out when you're in & working upstairs, but if she ever wants to ask/say something, feel free to call up the stairs!

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GreytExpectations · 29/01/2020 14:46

Very rude, OP. You need to treat people you hire with a little respect and common decency.

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MummyDummyNow · 29/01/2020 14:48

It IS rude. You don't have to have a long chat or anything if you don't like small talk but at least say hello, it's common decency. I can't imagine someone coming to my house and not saying hello to them.

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liferr · 29/01/2020 14:48

No I absolutely do not view my dog walker as hired help at all. My dog has a lot of health problems and my dog walker is just amazingly accommodating and understanding. I buy gifts for my dog walker (and her kids) here and there to show my appreciation that my girl is in safe hands.

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liferr · 29/01/2020 14:49

If I do say hi I always offer her a coffee/hot choc to carry on the walk - told her to help herself if she fancies a brew. I'm really not a monster.

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