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AIBU?

To have blocked the CF?

326 replies

Sparklfairy · 25/01/2020 10:59

I've been seeing a guy for about 4 months. He works a 'normal' job and I work from home, freelance, long and anti social hours. It's not uncommon for me to work overnight, sleep pattern all over the place etc. I've had to put my foot down before with regards to him assuming that because I work for myself that I can have time off whenever I he want(s).

He was supposed to come over last night, but I cancelled due to running late on a work deadline. Said we could do something today in the day. It was left that he would call me in the morning and jokes were made about me likely being dead asleep if it was early and not hearing it etc.

At 6.30 this morning I woke to my phone buzzing. I saw it was him and ignored it, as had only got to bed a couple of hours before.

Then my doorbell buzzed.

I was annoyed that he just rocked up at my house (15 miles from his) at 6.30am with no prior warning. My phone kept ringing so I decided to ignore it. He continued to ring the doorbell, long sustained buzzing 10-12 seconds.

I keep my window which faces the road open most of the time (first floor flat). He shouted through the window "ALEXA! TURN BEDROOM LIGHT ON!" which of course she did. Okay, annoying but maybe, just maybe he was kidding around and didn't think it would work.

Then he shouts, "ALEXA! SET ALARM FOR FIVE MINUTES"

I lost it then. I went to the window, said, 'Well you can fuck off', slammed it shut and locked it.

He then continued to ring me and buzz my doorbell until I threatened to call the police. He then resorted to just yelling up at me from the street Confused

I'm so utterly bewildered that he thinks any of this is normal!? I've blocked him and very firmly told him to fuck off. He's texted saying that I said he could come round (not at 6.30 unannounced I fucking didn't) and if I was clearly asleep why did he think it was okay to force me to wake up? What the fuck.

I've blocked him and never want to speak to him again (but of course am still furious so don't know if it's that). Starting to think maybe I was too harsh...?

OP posts:

Am I being unreasonable?

1679 votes. Final results.

POLL
You are being unreasonable
6%
You are NOT being unreasonable
94%
thebluearsefly · 25/01/2020 11:01

No. That’s fucking nuts.

StreetwiseHercules · 25/01/2020 11:01

Absolute nutter. Well binned.

QueenofallIsee · 25/01/2020 11:01

You were very restrained, I might have smacked the cheeky fucker. How bloody dare he!

Bin him OP, what a massive bellend

WeirdPookah · 25/01/2020 11:04

That's absolutely idiotic behaviour. You are well shot of him. Stand your ground.

TheYearOfTheDog · 25/01/2020 11:04

Wow, that is VERY worrying OP. YOu did the right thing.

He felt he had the right to check up on you. Either he doubted you or felt he owned your time. He dismissed what you said about your deadline.

His anger/entitlement to own your time now clouds him to how crazy his behavior seems to you!

AriadnesFilament · 25/01/2020 11:06

He’s a lunatic and you’re well rid.

PGtipsplease · 25/01/2020 11:07

Grin that hilarious!

sonjadog · 25/01/2020 11:07

What a weird guy! You are well rid of him.

PrayingandHoping · 25/01/2020 11:09

6.30am???? He's got a screw loose! You're well rid!

BruceAndNosh · 25/01/2020 11:09

Bonkers.

But I admit I did laugh at Alexa turning your lights on

Cherrysoup · 25/01/2020 11:09

Wtaf? Who the hell comes round at 6.30am? Screaming up at you? Lunatic.

BackToBackTheyFaced · 25/01/2020 11:10

Anyone can make this mistake but after 1 or 2 doorbell rings and a missed call they’d go away. I don’t think you’ve been harsh.

CalmdownJanet · 25/01/2020 11:12

Nope that's not normal or stable you are well rid

bettyboo40 · 25/01/2020 11:12

I'm surprised one of your neighbours didn't tell him to fuck off too!

Sparklfairy · 25/01/2020 11:12

Yeah it is quite funny about Alexa but I'm still in shock so my face keeps alternating between ShockGrinConfused

Just... What was he thinking?! If I let him in he would then think that was acceptable behaviour. I'd never be able to relax in my own home thinking he could just turn up whenever. And if I had let him in, the 'day together' wasn't exactly going to be brilliant with me dragging myself out on 2 hours sleep was it?

Just.. what?!?

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pasturesgreen · 25/01/2020 11:12

Run for the hills!

BigBairyHollocks · 25/01/2020 11:13

Absolute freak!You’re well rid.

Merryoldgoat · 25/01/2020 11:13

I found this both hilarious and awful.

On the bright side you are well did and have a funny anecdote for the pub 👍🏽

AllergicToAMop · 25/01/2020 11:13

I am sorry, but I am really laughing at the Alexa thing😂

Bin him

BlueJava · 25/01/2020 11:15

6:30am? After you told him you''d be very busy for most of Friday evening/night? You are well rid. Block him and move on!

Whynosnowyet · 25/01/2020 11:15

Yabu to not have told Alexa also to tell him to fuck off!!

pasturesgreen · 25/01/2020 11:15

Also feeling sorry for your neighbours who were likely also woken up at 6.30 on a Saturday morning by a controlling lunatic who thought it was fun to come round shouting and ringing the doorbell

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PGtipsplease · 25/01/2020 11:15

Alexia get properly involved in your life Grin

Witchend · 25/01/2020 11:15

That's quite funny. Was he drunk?

Clymene · 25/01/2020 11:15

That's one for the weirdest men I've ever dated files!

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