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Sparklfairy Sat 25-Jan-20 10:59:24

I've been seeing a guy for about 4 months. He works a 'normal' job and I work from home, freelance, long and anti social hours. It's not uncommon for me to work overnight, sleep pattern all over the place etc. I've had to put my foot down before with regards to him assuming that because I work for myself that I can have time off whenever I he want(s).

He was supposed to come over last night, but I cancelled due to running late on a work deadline. Said we could do something today in the day. It was left that he would call me in the morning and jokes were made about me likely being dead asleep if it was early and not hearing it etc.

At 6.30 this morning I woke to my phone buzzing. I saw it was him and ignored it, as had only got to bed a couple of hours before.

Then my doorbell buzzed.

I was annoyed that he just rocked up at my house (15 miles from his) at 6.30am with no prior warning. My phone kept ringing so I decided to ignore it. He continued to ring the doorbell, long sustained buzzing 10-12 seconds.

I keep my window which faces the road open most of the time (first floor flat). He shouted through the window "ALEXA! TURN BEDROOM LIGHT ON!" which of course she did. Okay, annoying but maybe, just maybe he was kidding around and didn't think it would work.


I lost it then. I went to the window, said, 'Well you can fuck off', slammed it shut and locked it.

He then continued to ring me and buzz my doorbell until I threatened to call the police. He then resorted to just yelling up at me from the street confused

I'm so utterly bewildered that he thinks any of this is normal!? I've blocked him and very firmly told him to fuck off. He's texted saying that I said he could come round (not at 6.30 unannounced I fucking didn't) and if I was clearly asleep why did he think it was okay to force me to wake up? What the fuck.

I've blocked him and never want to speak to him again (but of course am still furious so don't know if it's that). Starting to think maybe I was too harsh...?

StreetwiseHercules Sat 25-Jan-20 11:01:14

Absolute nutter. Well binned.

thebluearsefly Sat 25-Jan-20 11:01:14

No. That’s fucking nuts.

QueenofallIsee Sat 25-Jan-20 11:01:38

You were very restrained, I might have smacked the cheeky fucker. How bloody dare he!

Bin him OP, what a massive bellend

WeirdPookah Sat 25-Jan-20 11:04:04

That's absolutely idiotic behaviour. You are well shot of him. Stand your ground.

TheYearOfTheDog Sat 25-Jan-20 11:04:28

Wow, that is VERY worrying OP. YOu did the right thing.

He felt he had the right to check up on you. Either he doubted you or felt he owned your time. He dismissed what you said about your deadline.

His anger/entitlement to own your time now clouds him to how crazy his behavior seems to you!

BiscuitBarrels Sat 25-Jan-20 11:06:29

He’s a lunatic and you’re well rid.

PGtipsplease Sat 25-Jan-20 11:07:18

grin that hilarious!

sonjadog Sat 25-Jan-20 11:07:34

What a weird guy! You are well rid of him.

PrayingandHoping Sat 25-Jan-20 11:09:26

6.30am???? He's got a screw loose! You're well rid!

BruceAndNosh Sat 25-Jan-20 11:09:41


But I admit I did laugh at Alexa turning your lights on

Cherrysoup Sat 25-Jan-20 11:09:44

Wtaf? Who the hell comes round at 6.30am? Screaming up at you? Lunatic.

BackToBackTheyFaced Sat 25-Jan-20 11:10:45

Anyone can make this mistake but after 1 or 2 doorbell rings and a missed call they’d go away. I don’t think you’ve been harsh.

CalmdownJanet Sat 25-Jan-20 11:12:11

Nope that's not normal or stable you are well rid

bettyboo40 Sat 25-Jan-20 11:12:36

I'm surprised one of your neighbours didn't tell him to fuck off too!

Sparklfairy Sat 25-Jan-20 11:12:50

Yeah it is quite funny about Alexa but I'm still in shock so my face keeps alternating between shockgrinconfused

Just... What was he thinking?! If I let him in he would then think that was acceptable behaviour. I'd never be able to relax in my own home thinking he could just turn up whenever. And if I had let him in, the 'day together' wasn't exactly going to be brilliant with me dragging myself out on 2 hours sleep was it?

Just.. what?!?

pasturesgreen Sat 25-Jan-20 11:12:55

Run for the hills!

BigBairyHollocks Sat 25-Jan-20 11:13:11

Absolute freak!You’re well rid.

Merryoldgoat Sat 25-Jan-20 11:13:19

I found this both hilarious and awful.

On the bright side you are well did and have a funny anecdote for the pub 👍🏽

AllergicToAMop Sat 25-Jan-20 11:13:46

I am sorry, but I am really laughing at the Alexa thing😂

Bin him

BlueJava Sat 25-Jan-20 11:15:07

6:30am? After you told him you''d be very busy for most of Friday evening/night? You are well rid. Block him and move on!

Whynosnowyet Sat 25-Jan-20 11:15:20

Yabu to not have told Alexa also to tell him to fuck off!!

pasturesgreen Sat 25-Jan-20 11:15:36

Also feeling sorry for your neighbours who were likely also woken up at 6.30 on a Saturday morning by a controlling lunatic who thought it was fun to come round shouting and ringing the doorbell

PGtipsplease Sat 25-Jan-20 11:15:40

Alexia get properly involved in your life grin

Witchend Sat 25-Jan-20 11:15:41

That's quite funny. Was he drunk?

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