My friend and I are both pregnant and due the same time in the next few months. She’s been engaged over a year but has now decided quite suddenly to book her wedding for September when previously she’d been talking about the end of next year. So all being well both our babies will be 6 months old at the time of the wedding.
I’m her only bridesmaid and its always been the plan that I would organise her hen party but I’m now thinking how on Earth is that going to work with such a young baby? I’ve just organised my sister’s which has been stressful enough trying to manage it whilst pregnant with the support of the other bridesmaid but to have to organise this one on my own with a newborn. Also, I recently turned down a September invite for a hen party because I just couldn’t commit to it financially and whether emotionally I’d be ready to be away from the baby by then but this hen of course would end up being even earlier than September so likely with a 4/5 month old at most. I’m hoping to exclusively breast feed but can’t exactly take a baby on the hen party but I don’t feel its fair on my friend to not organise her a good hen because she did such a good job planning mine and I’ve been really looking forward to planning hers but suddenly with the wedding now just around the corner, I’m finding I can’t be excited for her because I’m just stressed about how on Earth I can manage to plan it. Its not even as though I can realistically say to her that I can’t manage that because she has the entire wedding to plan with a young baby as well so don’t want to give her the stress of having to plan her own hen as well. I have suggested she reconsider the date; not for my benefit of course but I genuinely think she’s underestimating the amount of pressure she’s putting on herself to plan a wedding in such a short space of time whilst having a newborn as well but she’s quite adamant she wants to do that so I can only try and support her from here but I am feeling annoyed that this also places pressure on me to try and arrange her hen when I should be just focusing on my own baby. We’re both first time Mums so have no idea really what things will be like until after they’re here but I just don’t want to spend those precious first few months with my baby stressing over planning, managing and organising a hen do.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Toastytoes1 · 24/01/2020 05:45
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