I have yet another discussion with DH regarding his 'input' in family life and more specifically what happens at home. He seems to think that I am the one responsible and in charge of anything house related (children, DIY, cleaning etc...) and is refusing to take any responsibility.
Eg we are redoing ds bedroom. I asked DH to organise that. Cue for DH to have a chat with ds, agreed with ds on what he wanted and .... nothing. 6 months later, no bed or desk was ordered so I stepped in. Reviewed what ds wanted, found out the bed he choose is a day bed so not as wide (which ds didn't want). So I ended up doing the whole search again with ds, found a bed and ordered it. DH just ducked things out by being as invisible, unresponsive as possible.
Then we started to tackle the storage. Dh said him and ds had found some shelves. Great! Except the shelves were out of stock and DH 'didnt think' about the magazines on the floor, the school books underneath ds bed etc... Basically again this was a lip service effort.
The worse thing is that he is also trying to rope me in when he is actually doing something by 'asking me what I think' and then get annoyed when I ask if he thought about A or B. Apparently this is me being critical, not wanting to help etc... and I ought to actually give solutions rather than just 'critcizing'.
Even though the whole point was for me to NOT be involved and for him to take full responsibility of the project (I know by experience that he is then basically waiting for me to come up with the solution)
This was the ONE thing I asked him to take over about one year ago. ds still doesnt have a bedroom that looks like a bedroom. Some of his stuff is sat on the landing (which is a risk in itself). Its a mess and it has somehow become my responsibility and my fault if DH hasnt done it yet....
Arrrg and breathe...
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To think DH just doesn't want to take any responsibility
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NomDeDieu · 21/01/2020 20:02
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Am I being unreasonable?
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