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AIBU with DH?

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WeirdAndScary · 19/01/2020 20:35

DH has just informed me that he has won a van via a raffle done for a building charity group that he is affiliated with (self employed builder). But we don't need a van. He has a work van already and a weekend car for when I am working and he needs to transport DD somewhere. He is suggesting that we can use this van as a day van and go on long days out/take the bikes/sleep in it on occasion and basically live the idealised life of an active family in the countryside.

I have made it very clear that I do not want a bloody huge van sitting outside my house. We already have a trailer and a bike rack to transport the bikes and DD is 18 months old so far too young to camp in a bloody van overnight. We have a two car driveway that is taken up by his work van and my car, and this new van is not a small one. I have suggested he asks for the raffle to be redrawn.

Currently he is moping about the house switching between mentioning that 'he never wins anything of raffles', 'its the dream, I would convert it' and 'i will look like a twat if I turn it down'. I have informed him that it's his decision but I am not happy about the prospect to which he has responded that I am being unreasonable.

So, Mumsnet, am I being unreasonable?

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Am I being unreasonable?

381 votes. Final results.

POLL
You are being unreasonable
89%
You are NOT being unreasonable
11%
SeaToSki · 19/01/2020 20:37

Why cant he get it and sell it on?

Newname1978 · 19/01/2020 20:37

Why does he have to turn it down? That's crazy. Take it and sell it.

Fatted · 19/01/2020 20:38

Sell it surely? Trade it in for a nicer car?

rwalker · 19/01/2020 20:39

Why would you turn down a prize worth £1000's I'm with him sorry

BigBairyHollocks · 19/01/2020 20:41

Bloody hell its a good thing to win. Let him do what he wants with it.

dramaqueenforlife · 19/01/2020 20:41

Sell it.

NearlyGranny · 19/01/2020 20:41

Yes, sell it. You could have several nice holidays in greater comfort with the money! Or you could be boringly sensible and pay a chunk off your mortgage, if you have one.

skiptheskip · 19/01/2020 20:42

A brand new van?

Or a clapped out old banger?

Frenchw1fe · 19/01/2020 20:43

Let him keep it for a few months until it dawns on him he's never using it. Then sell it.

PootleandPosey · 19/01/2020 20:44

Massively unreasonable. Why wouldn’t you take it and use it or sell it. Plus it’s not yours to decide on.

BigSandyBalls2015 · 19/01/2020 20:44

Why is 18 months too young to sleep in a van?

ElderAve · 19/01/2020 20:45

Either sell it or sell his old van.

I'm with you that you don't need two, but why on earth give up the prize?

busybarbara · 19/01/2020 20:46

I have suggested he asks for the raffle to be redrawn.

Oh heaven help me sometimes. You're turning down free money. Sell the bloomin thing!!

Clangus00 · 19/01/2020 20:46

I think he has a great idea. Could he rent a garage for it? That way you all still get your “camper” (18 months is not too young btw) and it doesn’t live outside your house.

Elbeagle · 19/01/2020 20:46

Why on earth would you turn down something that you could sell on?

WeirdAndScary · 19/01/2020 20:47

Should have said. He won't sell it. Apparently it's taking the piss from the charity.

And is 18 months ok to sleep in a van? I just thought it was too young.

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Leeds2 · 19/01/2020 20:48

Could he use the prize van as his new work van, and sell his existing van?

DonnaDarko · 19/01/2020 20:49

YABU.

I don't even drive and I would take the van lol

WeirdAndScary · 19/01/2020 20:49

And by 'new' it's not anything to get excited about. I haven't explained this very well at all. The most it would be worth is between £500 to £1000

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Hirsutefirs · 19/01/2020 20:49

The only sensible thing to do is take it and sell it. Happens all the time: the charity won’t be offended for God’s sake!

CheddarGorgeous · 19/01/2020 20:50

Disclaimer: I have a camper van and I love it. DD first went camping in it at 4 months old and she loved it. Still does 12 years later. They are great family adventure holidays.

What kind of van did he win? If you get it converted and sell on you could make some decent money on it.

Hirsutefirs · 19/01/2020 20:50

They raffled a £500 van!

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saoirse31 · 19/01/2020 20:51

How would 18 mths be too young to sleep in a van? Really dont get that. Think you're being a bit miserable OP, sorry.

PPopsicle · 19/01/2020 20:51

18 months to young to camp?
My DS was camping at 5 months in winter.
If I were your DH I’d be kicking you out and making room for the van.

FineWordsForAPorcupine · 19/01/2020 20:52

Seriously, is this a reverse?? Why on earth would you turn it down?

He has won a van! A valuable prize, which he is really happy about, and excited about converting, spending time as a family, etc. And you want him to turn it down because you "don't want a big van outside the house".

Poor guy. Are you always this mean to him?

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