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AIBU with DH?

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WeirdAndScary Sun 19-Jan-20 20:35:31

DH has just informed me that he has won a van via a raffle done for a building charity group that he is affiliated with (self employed builder). But we don't need a van. He has a work van already and a weekend car for when I am working and he needs to transport DD somewhere. He is suggesting that we can use this van as a day van and go on long days out/take the bikes/sleep in it on occasion and basically live the idealised life of an active family in the countryside.

I have made it very clear that I do not want a bloody huge van sitting outside my house. We already have a trailer and a bike rack to transport the bikes and DD is 18 months old so far too young to camp in a bloody van overnight. We have a two car driveway that is taken up by his work van and my car, and this new van is not a small one. I have suggested he asks for the raffle to be redrawn.

Currently he is moping about the house switching between mentioning that 'he never wins anything of raffles', 'its the dream, I would convert it' and 'i will look like a twat if I turn it down'. I have informed him that it's his decision but I am not happy about the prospect to which he has responded that I am being unreasonable.

So, Mumsnet, am I being unreasonable?

SeaToSki Sun 19-Jan-20 20:37:09

Why cant he get it and sell it on?

Newname1978 Sun 19-Jan-20 20:37:48

Why does he have to turn it down? That's crazy. Take it and sell it.

Fatted Sun 19-Jan-20 20:38:33

Sell it surely? Trade it in for a nicer car?

rwalker Sun 19-Jan-20 20:39:58

Why would you turn down a prize worth £1000's I'm with him sorry

BigBairyHollocks Sun 19-Jan-20 20:41:11

Bloody hell its a good thing to win. Let him do what he wants with it.

dramaqueenforlife Sun 19-Jan-20 20:41:25

Sell it.

NearlyGranny Sun 19-Jan-20 20:41:38

Yes, sell it. You could have several nice holidays in greater comfort with the money! Or you could be boringly sensible and pay a chunk off your mortgage, if you have one.

skiptheskip Sun 19-Jan-20 20:42:13

A brand new van?

Or a clapped out old banger?

Frenchw1fe Sun 19-Jan-20 20:43:49

Let him keep it for a few months until it dawns on him he's never using it. Then sell it.

PootleandPosey Sun 19-Jan-20 20:44:04

Massively unreasonable. Why wouldn’t you take it and use it or sell it. Plus it’s not yours to decide on.

BigSandyBalls2015 Sun 19-Jan-20 20:44:13

Why is 18 months too young to sleep in a van?

ElderAve Sun 19-Jan-20 20:45:25

Either sell it or sell his old van.

I'm with you that you don't need two, but why on earth give up the prize?

busybarbara Sun 19-Jan-20 20:46:20

I have suggested he asks for the raffle to be redrawn.

Oh heaven help me sometimes. You're turning down free money. Sell the bloomin thing!!

Clangus00 Sun 19-Jan-20 20:46:52

I think he has a great idea. Could he rent a garage for it? That way you all still get your “camper” (18 months is not too young btw) and it doesn’t live outside your house.

Elbeagle Sun 19-Jan-20 20:46:58

Why on earth would you turn down something that you could sell on?

WeirdAndScary Sun 19-Jan-20 20:47:21

Should have said. He won't sell it. Apparently it's taking the piss from the charity.

And is 18 months ok to sleep in a van? I just thought it was too young.

Leeds2 Sun 19-Jan-20 20:48:03

Could he use the prize van as his new work van, and sell his existing van?

DonnaDarko Sun 19-Jan-20 20:49:12


I don't even drive and I would take the van lol

WeirdAndScary Sun 19-Jan-20 20:49:24

And by 'new' it's not anything to get excited about. I haven't explained this very well at all. The most it would be worth is between £500 to £1000

Hirsutefirs Sun 19-Jan-20 20:49:46

The only sensible thing to do is take it and sell it. Happens all the time: the charity won’t be offended for God’s sake!

CheddarGorgeous Sun 19-Jan-20 20:50:03

Disclaimer: I have a camper van and I love it. DD first went camping in it at 4 months old and she loved it. Still does 12 years later. They are great family adventure holidays.

What kind of van did he win? If you get it converted and sell on you could make some decent money on it.

Hirsutefirs Sun 19-Jan-20 20:50:43

They raffled a £500 van!

saoirse31 Sun 19-Jan-20 20:51:13

How would 18 mths be too young to sleep in a van? Really dont get that. Think you're being a bit miserable OP, sorry.

PPopsicle Sun 19-Jan-20 20:51:53

18 months to young to camp?
My DS was camping at 5 months in winter.
If I were your DH I’d be kicking you out and making room for the van.

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