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AIBU?

Birthday girl's mum sending me rude messages! AIBU?

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ReasonNorTreason · 18/01/2020 20:20

DS was invited to a party with a theme of 'ballerinas or pirates'.

I sent DS as a ballet dancer (as he does dancing), in his usual leotard, shorts, tights and ballet slippers. It's a very friendly community and no 'sissy' comments or opinions as far as I know. DS got nothing but compliments from other parents, children were just excited to see him and no child commented on his outfit.

Anyway, just received a message 10 minutes ago saying the following

"So! You really had to put Joseph in something else didn't you! Why couldn't you stick to the theme? I think it's just unfair, if I'm honest. Not impressed. You aren't fucking sane".

AIBU to 1. Have dressed DS the way I did, and 2., think she must be drinking right now? Confused

I'll be honest and say I'm annoyed at her text but really quite nervous to see her again at the nursery. What baffles me the most is we arrived with a friend who's DD wore a princess outfit and friend explained the situation that she just put on what she could grab - The woman who's text me just laughed and said not to worry at all! I assume she didn't say anything to me right then as DS still had his coat on when he arrived

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MrsSchadenfreude · 18/01/2020 20:22

“Are you on glue?”

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MyuMe · 18/01/2020 20:22

That is very unkind.

I wouldn't dignify it with an answer and just blank her from now on.

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MrsSchadenfreude · 18/01/2020 20:22

Sorry! That should be your response to her message.

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PooWillyBumBum · 18/01/2020 20:23

I wouldn’t reply and would avoid the woman completely. Sounds psychotic.

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Angie6868 · 18/01/2020 20:23

She sounds bonkers

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CharlotteUnaNatalieThompson · 18/01/2020 20:23

I'd reply "Sorry I don't know what you mean - he was a ballet dancer???"

But I like the are you on glue reply

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ReasonNorTreason · 18/01/2020 20:23

Maybe it's a cultural thing. I live in the US now but I'm English... Never have I met such openly 'tell it how it is' people in my life since moving here.

Which is mostly great, but sometimes difficult

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Tink2007 · 18/01/2020 20:23

I would ask her what bit of the ballet dancers and pirate theme you didn’t adhere to.

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Fannia · 18/01/2020 20:24

If you see her tell her you were disappointed to get her rude message as you always used to like her.

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TorysSuckRevokeArticle50 · 18/01/2020 20:24

It's impossible to reason with stupid people so I would just ignore the message.

She's clearly being an idiot here.

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mbosnz · 18/01/2020 20:24

'I'm going to assume you're drinking, and we won't discuss this again. Unless you contact me further you absolute fucking nutbar'

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2020BetterBeBetter · 18/01/2020 20:24

🙄

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GoldfishRampage · 18/01/2020 20:24

That sounds so unlikely I’d guess she was having a joke at your expense.

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littlecabbage · 18/01/2020 20:24

Wow, she is crazy. Retain your dignity and the moral high ground by not acknowledging her message, and being polite but distant in future. That will really piss her off!

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slipperywhensparticus · 18/01/2020 20:25

I would say,,"have you been fucking drinking? I sent him to a ballerina and pirate party dressed as a ballerina which part of this was not in the "theme"

Or maybe I would say themed parties are for wankers

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AngusDuck · 18/01/2020 20:25

“Are you on glue? Or just incredibly ignorant?”

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flounderfish · 18/01/2020 20:25

Wow, that's a spiteful message. How upsetting for you OP

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GreenTulips · 18/01/2020 20:25

I’d text back

‘Are you sure that message was for me??’

Play dumb and see if we get a more sexiest message!!

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RandomWok · 18/01/2020 20:25

She sounds unhinged.

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Tink2007 · 18/01/2020 20:25

Or just text her back with “ Rudolf Nureyev”.

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DowntonCrabby · 18/01/2020 20:26

Ignore her, I expect she’s had a few drinks.

What a stupid, ignorant bitch.

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Cremebrule · 18/01/2020 20:26

That sounds very unpleasant. I would genuinely worry about her mental health as that reaction is so disproportionate.

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Shahlalala · 18/01/2020 20:26

I can only assume she didn’t realise it’s what your son wears for ballet?! Confused

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Nesquickly · 18/01/2020 20:26

Yes, my first thought was she has had a few wines and decided it's a good idea to speak as she finds.

I'd ignore or be as Frank back with mbosnz suggestion.

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OnTheEdgeOfTheNight · 18/01/2020 20:26

Oh dear. Your son stole her daughter's compliments. Had he turned up as a pirate he'd have received far fewer compliments, and her daughter would have received more.

In her daft opinion.

Don't worry about seeing her at nursery. She is incredibly rude. Just say a quick hello or whatever and don't let her see that you care. She is an attention seeker. There's a local saying here that seems : "she could start an argument in an empty house".

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