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Not to give her ticket she paid for?

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whatdoidorr Wed 15-Jan-20 12:20:37

My "friend" last year caused a lot of trouble for me and refused to pay back a large sum of money.
We were meant to go on holiday but she stopped me from going (after I paid ) as she had the tickets.
Like the fool I am I forgave her.
Me ,her and another girl bought tickets to see a band in April.
I ordered the tickets on my card but she paid.
Anyway she's fell out with me again and has been telling lies about me to this other girl.
This other girl has told me I'm no longer welcome to go to this concert with them and will I post their two tickets.
Now il happily post this girls ticket but my "friend" owes me £400 and now she's made sure I can't go to this concert with them out of spite.
What do I do ?

SarahAndQuack Wed 15-Jan-20 12:22:22

Well, obviously don't give her the tickets, why would you? She didn't 'pay' if she already owes you money. And she sounds as if the only thing she likes about you is your wallet.

DesLynamsMoustache Wed 15-Jan-20 12:23:56

No way! She owes you £400! Keep the ticket and take someone else with you

IckyIsAFuckingStupidWord Wed 15-Jan-20 12:24:13

Agree with pp. Think I’d be inclined to flog it on to be honest too.

whatdoidorr Wed 15-Jan-20 12:24:56

If I do that will that not make me as bad as her?
I want to prove to this other girl I'm a nice person and she's a liar but on the other hand I'm sick of her taking the mick

DesLynamsMoustache Wed 15-Jan-20 12:26:02

Just say what you've said here. You're happy to post her ticket but CF owes you £400 and because it looks like she's not going to pay, you'll have to sell her ticket to try make the money back.

antisupermum Wed 15-Jan-20 12:26:41

If you give them both tickets you are being a complete mug!

I would give the other girl (Friend B) her ticket but tell her that unless Friend A gives you the £400 she owes you for her ticket, you will be going to the gig with another friend, and so Friend B can be the third wheel. Serves them both right!!

Lougle Wed 15-Jan-20 12:27:38

For £400 I wouldn't care what they thought of me! I'd rather be thought of badly than thought of as a mug.

misspiggy19 Wed 15-Jan-20 12:29:16

*This other girl has told me I'm no longer welcome to go to this concert with them and will I post their two tickets.*

^Your other friend is believing the lies and has also excluded you.

FreedomfromPE Wed 15-Jan-20 12:29:17

Tell other person she is misinformed, but consider both friends a lost cause. Send her her ticket if she paid. If not sell them to recoup your money.

FreedomfromPE Wed 15-Jan-20 12:31:15

You never have to prove yourself. State facts and detach. You can't control how others make their minds up. You owe it to none to be a mug

redzebra10 Wed 15-Jan-20 12:31:21

i would tell her the money she paid for the ticket is the money she owes you for the holiday , so the ticket is yours.

whatdoidorr Wed 15-Jan-20 12:33:17

I've been really upset about the whole thing.
I just wanted us to go to the concert
She deliberately wants to isolate me so I have nobody

ArseHair Wed 15-Jan-20 12:33:52

If the other girl has listened to the lies and not given you a chance to tell your side of the story, fuck 'em both. Take two other people, have a good time at the concert and don't waste your time worrying about them.

Sexnotgender Wed 15-Jan-20 12:34:14

I’d tell her she can have her ticket as soon as she pays you the £400 she owes you.

Also are you all 12? So much drama.

whatdoidorr Wed 15-Jan-20 12:35:25

She hated me and friend B becoming close.
She has manipulated her.
I wish friend b would meet up with me or even answer the phone but she refused.
If I could just explain.

DollyPomPoms Wed 15-Jan-20 12:35:56

If you send her the tickets not only do you lose the £400 she already owes you but you lose however much you paid for your own ticket as you now can’t go. Keep the tickets, sell them all and recoup the money to offset the money CF friend owes you.

DesLynamsMoustache Wed 15-Jan-20 12:37:10

Friend B has made her choice. You could just refund her money and sell all the tickets. But stop paying for things for friends!

nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut Wed 15-Jan-20 12:37:20

Lol! I'll take it off the £400 you owe me for the holiday.

Job done.

notacooldad Wed 15-Jan-20 12:38:36

She deliberately wants to isolate me so I have nobody
Well now you realise what her plan is you can do something about it. She is not your friend.
Personally I'd send one more message saying the tickets are yours in ieu of money owed. Give her one last chance to sort money out. Even if gets sorted I'd be getting new friends and blocking her.

TorkTorkBam Wed 15-Jan-20 12:38:53

You are best off without friend B, given she is so gullible and so willing to believe bad stuff about you.

Do not try to prove your worth to dickheads, especially when it leaves you out of pocket.

Straycatstrut Wed 15-Jan-20 12:41:04

Keep the money you're owed. Ditch the bitchy CF.

This sounds like how it was right the way through secondary school. A group of "3 best friends" just didn't work. One would always be getting left out and whispered and bitched about by the other two, and left by herself. Awful time. You're teenagers right?

whatdoidorr Wed 15-Jan-20 12:41:10

I have another friend (a actual friend ) who wants to go to the concert and would buy a ticket happily and we would go and have a good day.

whatdoidorr Wed 15-Jan-20 12:41:56

The thing is friend B is a nice person and we get on well.
I just want a chance to show her I'm a nice person.

mummykauli7 Wed 15-Jan-20 12:42:21

I'm not understanding why they get to decide whether or not you get to go to the concert, when you are the one with the tickets. This actually makes no sense. You paid for the tickets on your card, you have physical possession of the tickets and yet you're allowing this friend to make decisions for you and claim some sort of moral high ground when she already owes you money and has form for stopping you going to things before. This is no friend. This is a person using you when convenient and dropping you when convenient.

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