AIBU to be absolutely pissed off with my friend?
We've been friends for over 20 years and she's always been a bit flaky but it's never been that big of a deal to get into a row over. This one has really hurt me and I'm considering taking a step back from the relationship.
I planned a dinner party for me, DH, and two other couples (one being best friend and her DP). We were texting most of the day to make sure I was catering the menu to her (she can't handle spice and I was making a three course meal with a curry as the main). All was well. She said she was getting ready and she'd be here a little earlier than the other couple which was fine.
Cut to 5:30 and she said her DP had rang her to say the weather was bad. I asked if they were cancelling as I'd rather know then than later on. She said she thinks so as her DP doesn't want to drive the roads if it's very wet. This rang alarm bells immediately because he races cars and is a very good driver so a bit of rain would never dampen his plans usually. I then offered to pay for her taxi down (a 30 minute journey as she doesn't drive) and for her to stay overnight. DH said he wouldn't mind picking her up either so we offered. Text about 5 times, rang twice. All blanked.
I was pretty annoyed but I didn't let it ruin the night and we had a lovely time. However, today I was expecting something and she's ghosted me all day after having read the messages on WhatsApp. I then see she went driving a 5 hour journey with someone around 6am on her instagram stories.
I messaged her about 9pm and said "It's been over 24 hours and you've got nothing to say to me?" No response.
We're adults in our thirties. A simple message to say "Sorry, not up for it tonight. Double booked" wouldn't hurt, would it? Especially since she had been leading me to believe she was coming at 6:30 until 5:30 the same day. I'm really upset and considering taking a huge step back from the friendship due to this.
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TheOrangeFox · 15/01/2020 00:14
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