Partner deleted all search history

[lalalalala123456]

He deleted all search history , or attempted to On his phone , but he forgot to delete that he has searched for a specific porn model who is very specific in a particular industry . He searches her every day ..

I know people will say I should trust him. But he has done this before around 2 years ago and he got caught , now he is doing it again . What would your initial thoughts or reactions be ladies / men?

The only reason this has been brought up and why I checked was because he quickly put his phone away last night and he hasn’t done that since he last got caught.

[Nicknacky]

Why are you going through his search history?

I’m so, so glad my husband doesn’t check mine!

[TartanMarbled]

Leave him alone! Are you unhinged?

[lalalalala123456]

Because I told you in my previous post , the reason that made me check was the fact he was very eager and quick to put his phone away last night when I walked in and he has done this before

[Ariesscientist90]

Done what before??

[lalalalala123456]

Searched for this particular porn model and attempted to contact her on multiple occasions

[PawPawNoodle]

My initial thought is 'what does it have to do with you?'

He probably deletes his history because he knows that you will wrongfully snoop on his phone and then pull him up on it.

[Retroflex]

There's a difference between looking at someone online and finding them attractive, and actually going out and having an affair... I very much doubt your partner would be able to contact or have an affair with this person, so why are you so bothered by it?

[Nicknacky]

Even if he did put his phone away quickly, why does that give you the right to check his search history?

So he has googled someone. Who hasn’t?!

[GirlWithTheMarshmallowTattoo]

Are you worried that he's going to cheat on you with a 'hired lady' who specialises in whatever the porn situation is? Or is it the fact he's watching/searching for porn? Is it gay porn? Not really sure what your exact issues are 😔😔😔

[WorraLiberty]

I know people will say I should trust him. But he has done this before around 2 years ago and he got caught , now he is doing it again

I'm a bit confused.

What does him looking at porn have to do with you not trusting him?

Do you think it will cause him to have an affair or something?

[lalalalala123456]

Wow so it’s perfectly acceptable for a partner to attempt to contact a woman multiple times and search her multiples times per day . Cool ! Must be normal then. Guessing you guys would find that the norm ?!

[BlackBlueBell]

I don’t understand the issue? He’s watching porn? And by contact her do you mean like on a live cam where they can speak to them and request private shows etc? If so it’s a bit far but it’s still just porn. I doubt he’d have any real want to get with her and she definitely wouldn’t want to get with him.

[steff13]

Is a porn model different than a porn actress? What does the contact consist of? Is he trying to meet her?

[Nicknacky]

You never mentioned trying to contact her. I suspect that’s been added on to have us agree with you.

[Plumbus]

Contact her with what intentions? To meet up?

[WorraLiberty]

Wow so it’s perfectly acceptable for a partner to attempt to contact a woman multiple times and search her multiples times per day

How is she contactable?

Surely her agent or PA would be picking up any messages sent from fans?

[lalalalala123456]

Typing in stuff like :
How do I get email address / phone number
Ways to meet up with
Is it possible to meet up with

Not trying to create an argument here. Just slightly concerned .

[EdersonsSmileyTattoo]

I'm a bit confused.

What does him looking at porn have to do with you not trusting him?

Do you think it will cause him to have an affair or something?

This

[ByeMF]

I think you need to give more information about what he is actually doing. I'm assuming this woman doesn't live round the corner so he can't actually meet up with her.
Is he obsessed with porn or just this woman? How is your relationship otherwise?

[Nicknacky]

So why isn’t your title “AIBU that my partner is trying to contact a porn actress”.

That’s a totally different thread right there.

[KidCaneGoat]

Don’t know people are giving you a hard time. I’d be concerned too. I had a DP once who deleted all his history. Asked him if it was porn. He said yes. Relationship didn’t last much longer. You’re either ok with it or you’re not.

[WorraLiberty]

I agree with Nicky OP. Your thread is entirely different given the rest of the info you've added.

What has he said when you've asked him why he tries to contact her?

It sounds like a bit of an unhealthy obsession tbh.

[WarmSausageTea]

It sounds like your relationship is fucked, and neither of you are covering yourselves in glory. He’s being sneaky - but probably hasn’t acted on his infatuation - and so are you.

Have you spoken to him about this? If you and he can’t communicate openly and honestly, what’s the point?

[surlycurly]

Is she a domme? Because if she is then he wants a session, not just a meet and greet. I suspect he doesn't really expect to be able to have sex with a reasonably famous porn star otherwise, but it is a massive problem that he's trying to orchestrate a meet. And that he's done it before. At the very least he's obsessed. You have a problem here OP.

[MargotB7]

On Mumsnet it really depends who's on because last week there was a thread slating porn off and how disgusting it was. Then now you are being pulled apart for being paranoid for the same thing.