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Frouby Mon 13-Jan-20 21:27:55

Dds prom is this year. Shes a good kid, works hard and I want to reward her for the effort she will no doubt put in for GCSEs.

Her prom is in July and she has started talking about her prom this summer. Says girls are spending between £300-£500 on dresses, plus hair, make up, nails, shoes, limo etc etc etc.

I didn't spend that much on my fucking wedding dress.

She has also said that they are all shopping for and buying them now ready for July.

I was thinking April/May, mooch round the shopping centre, party frock from Topshop or New Look, some shoes and some new make up,hair put up by normal hair dresser. Drop her off and pick her up myself.

When did it turn into a big £1000 do for 16 year olds? She won't even actually even be quite 16! What if you can't afford it? We live in Yorkshire, in a town massively struggling as it is. How can working class people already struggling afford this? Especially if they have more than 1 dc? In particular dds?

Is dd having my pants down on this or do people really spend 1k on prom night?

MissConductUS Mon 13-Jan-20 21:29:50

I'm looking with my DD now. $200-$300 seems to be the range of acceptable choices.

MamToTeens Mon 13-Jan-20 21:30:04

Yes, they do. We won’t be, but a lot of stuff will be free as we already have them/know people that can help. If you don’t have that it does add up.

schoolcook Mon 13-Jan-20 21:30:02

I just bought my DD a dress it was £295 but we got it for £200 as we took it that day. The lady in the shop said most people are done by late January 😳
We then spent an extra £40 on shoes and a clutch bag to go with it.
She won't be getting a limo that's for sure but the dress was her absolute dream so I was happy to spend that much, but it was about my limit.

19lottie82 Mon 13-Jan-20 21:30:21

Look for a used dress on eBay, people buy them, wear them once and sell them for a small % of what they originally cost. No one but you and your DD will ever know!

kittykatkitty Mon 13-Jan-20 21:34:51

Mine are adults now.
Dd1s prom was full on.
Dress £400
Hair, makeup, spray tan nails £150
Limo£50 shared with others
Prom ticket £40
After prom outfit party £100 🙄

Dd2 far more relaxed
Dress £100
Hair , make up and tan she did herself
Limo £50
Prom ticket £30
She came home after prom.

Couldn't believe the difference in it.

ScribblyGum Mon 13-Jan-20 21:36:36

Bloody hell. Dd1’s prom this year too. She hasn’t started looking. She hasn’t even mentioned about starting to look yet.
Like hell I will be spending £1000.
Hair, nails, shoes, limos <snort>
World’s gone mad.

beautifulxdisasters Mon 13-Jan-20 21:37:08

I don't think that's out of range for our school but I'd try to get one on eBay or the internet.

I got mine from a website called sexy (or .com?) Awful name but good prom dresses for fussy girls that want a flouncy big dress etc for £80-£100 or so

Frouby Mon 13-Jan-20 21:37:58

@19lottie82 I said that but she pulled a massive face. I bought my wedding dress from a charity shop 18 months ago. No one knew unless I told them.

We are skint, so it definitely won't be this month. Christmas is always a killer as we are both self employed and don't work in December.

Have said I will put £150 towards it all, then lend her the rest and she can pay it back out of either her allowance (£10 a week) or a summer job. Am doubly annoyed as shes spent about £150 on stuff from the sales since Christmas she could have used towards it.

timetest Mon 13-Jan-20 21:38:21

I spent about £300 on DD2’s dress about 6 years ago. She borrowed a pair of my shoes and bought a bag on eBay. She had hair and make up done by a local salon. I drove her and her bf as limos were seen as a bit ott.

mum11970 Mon 13-Jan-20 21:39:20

My dd got a dresses from for her Year 11 Prom and 6th Form Prom dress was from a similar online retailer. Yr11 dress cost about £30, think 6th Form dress was a similar price, certainly not as much as £50. Her friends had dresses from all different price ranges, some did make my eyes water, one was even wearing a pair of Louboutins

millymoo1202 Mon 13-Jan-20 21:39:47

Dress from monsoon which we paid for £120 and she paid for her nails and make up, think we paid for her hair up. We are in Scotland and this was leavers prom so were all almost 18

jellybeanteaparty Mon 13-Jan-20 21:40:24

Outlet shops are your friend Perhaps pick one thing that feels all out ( shoes or nails or hair do ) but not everything

notquiteruralbliss Mon 13-Jan-20 21:41:10

Youngest DD spend £25 on a dress from ASOS plus £10 for shoes

ooooohbetty Mon 13-Jan-20 21:41:16

Just because she says that's what other girls say they are spending doesn't mean that's true OP.

TheWernethWife Mon 13-Jan-20 21:41:31

For my 16 year old - £80 grey dress from Debenhams bridesmaid range, tiara from the market, silver sandals and bag from New Look. Hair done by regular hairdresser and I did the make-up. Did use my Chanel not cheap stuff though.

It was enough to spend for one night in my opinion.

Frouby Mon 13-Jan-20 21:42:12

@ScribblyGum I feel the same as you.

Mine and dhs wedding outfits didn't come to that.

For the generation of environmental campaigners they certainly don't hold back on luxuries. I didn't even realise there was a ticket cost 🙈. I said jokingly she could ride dpony to the prom and she said I was a cheapskate and it was usually a limo.

Fuck sake. We had a leavers disco in the school hall.

bridgetreilly Mon 13-Jan-20 21:42:27

Chat with the parents of her friends and come up with a better plan. None of them will want to be spending $$$$ but it's hard to be the only one who isn't.

AuntieMarys Mon 13-Jan-20 21:44:40

I paid £55 on a dress for dd, sandals she had ready. She did her own hair and makeup.
Ridiculous the lengths parents go to. More fool them.

kittykatkitty Mon 13-Jan-20 21:44:58

A local school near me does a disco bus to prom for £10.
I thought it was a great idea.
All the kids get dropped off and picked up at the school.
Unfortunately it wasn't my kids school 🙄

123rd Mon 13-Jan-20 21:45:46

Just been having this convo with our dd. Like OP she works hard and I want to treat her ...but no way will it extend to £100s
We sort of agreed budget of £100 for the dress, is she can't find anything within budget she has to come up with difference!
She will want to do her own make up but kinda forgot about shoes, bag hair and tan!!!
Definitely no limo tho

123rd Mon 13-Jan-20 21:46:26

Just got to find a dress that fits her. She is teeny

ParkheadParadise Mon 13-Jan-20 21:47:29

When dd1 had her prom ( yrs ago now).
The school had an account esp for the prom. Paid into weekly.

My sister had 5 kids, they all had their proms year after year. She was skint for years.

Proms are fucking stupid. What do you do if you seriously can't afford it?

Frouby Mon 13-Jan-20 21:49:58

@ooooohbetty sadly I do believe her.

We are surrounded by 10 bob millionaires. I find it really vulgar and trashy personally. But she is friends with some girls whose families seem to have more money than sense.

I wish schools would be more proactive in not encouraging this. Venue is very posh which is nice, but it already sets expectations really high. Have only just realised it's not actually in the school hall.

Have looked online at the usual places but she is desperate to go properly shopping to a proper prom dress shop ( her words not mine) so suspect that online won't do.

Plus we tried that with her bridesmaid dress and ended up sending 5 back.

Oh, and wearing her bridesmaid dress that is beautiful and very similar to the style she is looking at is absolutely out of the question as well.

TabbyMumz Mon 13-Jan-20 21:50:21

Go to quiz, you can get a dress for about 80 quid. Only a few people spend more than 100. They dont look any better than the ones who spent much less and they are only in it for a few hours.

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