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AIBU?

to not allow my 16 yr old DD to have acrylic false nails??

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poppy90 · 29/08/2007 13:04

She is driving me insane, I think they'll ruin her nails & she'll have to have them done every few weeks and the cost!

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chopster · 29/08/2007 13:06

does she even have the money for the upkeep? They do cost a fortune. ANd my nails are still wrecked from having them removed back in March. A manicurist told me it takes about a year to recover them, and the damage is immediate.

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wheresthevalium · 29/08/2007 13:07

If you have them removed properly then the damage isn't too bad. The cost is high, would she be paying for it herself?

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fluffyanimal · 29/08/2007 13:08

Warn her that there will be damage if they are removed, and say if she wants them she can pay for them. She's 16 now after all.

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serenity · 29/08/2007 13:09

At 16 I'd say if she's got the money, well it's up to her. If you're having to pay for it and you don't want to, then don't That's why teens get part time jobs isn't it, to pay for daft things their parents won't buy?

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fedupwasherwoman · 29/08/2007 13:09

I think the cost might put her off.

She isn't assuming you'll be paying for such a luxury item is she?

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happystory · 29/08/2007 13:09

Well.....yes they do cost a lot to keep up to -have to have them filled every 2/3 weeks as your natural nails grow. But...if she had them on for a few weeks her natural nails would grow underneath and she could have the acrylic nails taken off..and voila nice REAL nails.

Just a thought

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PersonalClown · 29/08/2007 13:09

The cost will be the biggest issue. Not only for infills and/or colours and art but every 3-4 months she'll need the old set removed and a new set put on.
It's not cheap.

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binkleandflip · 29/08/2007 13:10

It is removing them that causes the damage - its applying them.

that said, if she pays the upkeep then I think she's old enough to have them

My friend has just let her 9 - yes 9!! yo dd have them - now that I cant believe.

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LaDiDaDi · 29/08/2007 13:11

If she's paying then yes, you are being unreasonable.

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morningpaper · 29/08/2007 13:12

yes I would let her as long as it is her money

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clarevoiant · 29/08/2007 13:12

YANBU dont do it!!! she will ruin her nails, its costs a fortune,and she will need infills every few weeks which costs more than a manicure. why not let her have her nails manicured and have a design hand painted on instead? Most nail bars only charge and extra fiver for this round our way. IMO this looks much nicer and natural.

Good luck!

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poppy90 · 29/08/2007 13:13

Yes she will be paying. Bugger

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poppy90 · 29/08/2007 13:15

9 NINE??????????

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clarevoiant · 29/08/2007 13:15

ohin that case I dont see there's much you can do. I assumes you'd be paying

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clarevoiant · 29/08/2007 13:16

...assummed...

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clarevoiant · 29/08/2007 13:16

or assumed even

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poppy90 · 29/08/2007 13:20

Oh I certainly wouldn't let her have them done if I was paying!! Another thing is the salon is a car ride away!! Do I take her as I'm anti??

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fluffyanimal · 29/08/2007 13:28

Can you strike a bargain so that she'll do you a favour in return for the car ride?

I would think that with a 16 yo it is better to be partially involved in these things in case outright refusal leads to going off to get a tattoo done in an unlicenced back alley place.

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happystory · 29/08/2007 13:34

She'll soon get fed up if it's car ride away. Let her have them done, she'll be bored with it in a couple of months

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zippitippitoes · 29/08/2007 13:36

if she's paying i'd let her..in fact i probably wouldn't have noticed

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poppy90 · 29/08/2007 13:38

Well she's a lazy so & so, maybe we can strike a deal!!

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Sherida · 29/08/2007 14:32

Speaking as a nail technician, I can assure you that acrylic nails do NOT damage natural nails IF DONE PROPERLY. Neither does removal, although they may feel extra sensitive after for a day or 2. If she really is determined to get them done, ask around and see where is reputable. At present there is no law that states you have to be qualified to be a nail technician so people have been buying the do it yourself sets off of QVC then trying to set up a business - and getting sued. Please go to a salon that has a good reputation and uses proper products. Without wishing to sound xenophobic, be sure the technician understands English, as we have in our area a lot of foreign techs who do not understand what the client needs.

2 last points before I give up my waffle (sorry), is 1) that if it hurts, it's wrong (you'd be surprised how many people will put up with pain for pretty nails!) and 2) due to her age her skin may well still be fairly oily and the extensions may not stay on that well.

If anyone has any questions, please CAT me as I'm only trying to help .

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lucyellensmum · 29/08/2007 15:10

I must be a really bad mother - my 17 year old DD is currently on holiday, with her boyfriend! She has just had a tattoo that nearly covers the top of her back, with my consent but she had to pay for it, although thankfully she has never wanted false nails. I can't understand the attraction myself but hey, im a bit of a geezer bird.

On a serious note, is there a compromise - the upkeep sounds like a nightmare and i have no idea of the cost. Does she have the money to pay for it, because this could be a "i really really really want a hamster mummy and yes of course i'll look after it" syndrome. First time she will think it great then when she has to pay for it a second third time etc she wont be so keen. Personally, i would say if that is what she wants then advise and support, make her pay for them herself, or maybe a birthday present, yes, offer them as a xmas present and then she is bound to change her mind and want a nintendo wii or something like that later on.

Just a note though - the more you say no - the more she is going to want them. I was hoping that approach was going to work with the tattoos and numerous peircings it didnt but anyway.

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lucyellensmum · 29/08/2007 15:12

FWIW i think nine years old is waaaaay to young as i dont think that children should be encouraged so dress in a "sexy" way.

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3madboys · 29/08/2007 15:27

i had mine done at 16, jsut after my gcse's etc for parties etc, then i continued to have them done when i was doing my a levels, tho i got in a bit of trouble at my grammar school because of the funky colours etc

i paid for them myself and they were much better than those flase nails that you can put on and off yourself, i would have them done now only i am paranoid of scratching ds3 when changing his nappy etc.

so yes i think you are a bit unreasonable, let her do it, but i would encourage her to get a part time job etc or use pocket money to pay for the upkeep.

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