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Boys in ballet - really fucking annoyed

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Boyscandoballettoo Thu 09-Jan-20 07:33:19

Please excuse the ranty tone of this thread - I have just had enough! Took my male toddler to a ballet class, and the number of negative comments or comments laughing about it from so-called family and friends has been overwhelming.

Please can people tell me AIBU to think it’s a bloody unisex sport?!? There have always been male ballet dancers! I do NOT understand the ignorance over it and even if it were a female sport traditionally, how dare people be so bloody sexist and make fun of a boy for joining in.

I don’t know why but it’s really pushing my buttons!

Cantdoleft Thu 09-Jan-20 07:35:26

Yes boys/men can do ballet.

No people shouldn’t pass comment.

Bit bonkers to be surprised people do though.

It’s not a sport

Lordfrontpaw Thu 09-Jan-20 07:35:34

If it’s good enough for Prince George!

Sparklybaublefest Thu 09-Jan-20 07:36:49

You need to lighten up,
People will comment, just say the Next Billy Elliot to them

Welshmaenad Thu 09-Jan-20 07:36:57

That would drive me insane. My son has taken part in dance since he was small and now at 9 does musical theatre - he's getting really good and has done numerous productions. He's also done some TV work as a result of his connections.

Nobody has, to my knowledge, said a Dann thing about it not being for boys, but if they did they'd get pretty bloody short shrift from me.

Watermelontea Thu 09-Jan-20 07:37:00

If men didn’t do ballet most ballets I’ve seen couldn’t be performed. What a load of crap, next time tell them to keep it zipped.

FreedomfromPE Thu 09-Jan-20 07:37:06

Don't hold back with these idiots. No matter who they are. They've turned an opportunity into being supportive of your son into a chance to take the piss for cheap laughs.

stouffer Thu 09-Jan-20 07:37:27

As long as he chins a posh kid at the audition then it’s fine.

Boyscandoballettoo Thu 09-Jan-20 07:37:28

Bit bonkers to be surprised people do though

Why is it bonkers? Would you be surprised if a girl did football and received the same comments?

The sport vs art debate is long standing. if you don’t want to call it a sport, fine, but they are athletes and it’s an exceptionally physically demanding activity.

doublebarrellednurse Thu 09-Jan-20 07:37:39

You're surprised by this reaction? Really?

Yes boys can dance. Mine did for years. Don't expect the rest of the world to work to your standards though, not everyone is so enlightened.

AnneElliott Thu 09-Jan-20 07:37:55

Ignore them op. Loads of boys do ballet. My DS did it for several years.

TheGreyInThisCity Thu 09-Jan-20 07:38:37

Of course it’s a sport hmm

I can only assume your friends and relatives aren’t really familiar with ballet if they think boys can’t do it. Where else do all the male professional dancers suddenly appear from?!

Divebar Thu 09-Jan-20 07:38:41

You need to check out Bad Boys of Ballet on Instagram.to see what superb athletes they are... and get better quality friends.

Divebar Thu 09-Jan-20 07:39:20

It’s not a sport it’s an art.

doublebarrellednurse Thu 09-Jan-20 07:40:07

I think it's an art as it's not defined as competitive. Sport is.

Cantdoleft Thu 09-Jan-20 07:41:28

How is it a sport when you can’t compete and there aren’t fixed rules for how you score points and beat someone else?

icecreamsundae32 Thu 09-Jan-20 07:41:39

There are 2 boys in my daughters ballet class, I didn't bat an eyelid, one of them is really really good! Yes there needs to be male dancers to perform shows but I think there will always be some people who will think it's "for girls". If your son enjoys it then that's all that matters.

PityParty4one Thu 09-Jan-20 07:41:59

I play rugby and receive comments like this all the time because I am female.

I tend to ignore them as it seems like a reaction is exactly what they are after.

Also its not a sport. It is physically demanding and the dancers train as much as athletes however it is not competitive activity and there is no winning involved. It is an art.

bingbangbing Thu 09-Jan-20 07:42:25

Some people are wankers. Just ignore them

annualleavepurchase Thu 09-Jan-20 07:42:32

Well it's not a sport.

Yanbu though. It's physically very challenging, great for discipline and of course boys and men do it.

Waitingforadulthood Thu 09-Jan-20 07:42:57

Why is it bonkers to be surprised? - because we live in a very sexist society sadly. It's not right but easily predicted.

Another example My 12 daughter gets wolf whistled and lots of male attention. It's sickening and I'm fed up up it- but certainly not surprised

Ignore the sexist twats op. Ballet is a sport and an exceptionally challenging one.

namechange1041 Thu 09-Jan-20 07:43:12

I think it's narrow minded for people to make fun of him doing ballet because he is a boy.
Like you said, girls play football, is that weird? No.
I'd say that to people who make comments. "girls play football don't they?"

Trewser Thu 09-Jan-20 07:44:36

In the nicest way possible you need to lighten up. My dd played football from aged 5 and I had "she's basically a boy" "do you think she'll be a lesbian" and one charming bunch of parents complaining to the school that dd had taken "their sons" place on the team. She was the only girl for ages.

Dd2 did ballet and there was one boy in her group. He ended up dancing professionally and was basically feted every time he did anything so just smile and laugh and ignore.

FeedMeTikka Thu 09-Jan-20 07:44:48

* Would you be surprised if a girl did football and received the same comments?*

Unfortunately in my experience my girl does receive the same sort of comments - including giggling when she proudly told adults she got a toy garage for her cars one Christmas and full on belly laughter another Christmas when she was excitedly telling people of her new wrestling ring and figures. Also comments from the kids at school along the lines of your can’t play football with us at dinner cos you’re a girl’ etc.

Unfortunately that’s the way of the world, I just taught her from a young age to roll her eyes inwards at others ignorance and gave her some comebacks for when she felt she needed them.

TheGreyInThisCity Thu 09-Jan-20 07:47:59

It’s a sport in the way that most people use the word, to mean a physically demanding activity that requires strength and training to do well. That’s not the point of this thread though.

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