I cant moan about her to my partner so heres the next best thing.
Ive been with my partner for 9 months and we recently moved in together. I have children from a previous relationship and we waited until we were really sure about each other to introduce them which we did a few weeks ago and it seemed to go well.
Ive always caught the odd strange look from his mom and got the general impression that she would love to hate me but couldnt find anything to hate me for. Ive always been on my best behaviour when we've been there and never spoken up about the fact that i think she is controlling,manipulative and spiteful!
Yesterday it all hit the fan, she had been generally unhappy since we told her a few weeks ago that we were moving in together. She had problems in the beginning with our relationship because I have children but she seemed to get over it and accept us being together. We went round for sunday lunch last week and then went to a quiz with her as we do every week on monday night. Yesterday he got a text message from his mother saying that as he never goes round he can forget about coming for dinner today and that she may be a prat but shes not a stupid one. She then called him and told him that he wasnt the person he used to be and that he was never around anymore and didnt call her enough (she hasnt even been to see where we live and doesnt call him except to call him a fat slob, tell him his going to die of a heart attack and that hes useless!) He was in tears after the phone call and couldnt understand what he had done wrong.
It got worse yesterday night when we were out and one of our good friends came over to him and told him that his mom was very upset because his "manipulating, controlling girlfriend had taken him away" and that he was treating her "like a stupid prat" he said she was in tears about it.
Im so angry that shes hurting him like this. Hes 26, more than old enough to be starting his own life. I understand that hes still her baby etc but it seems that him being happy means nothing to her. Im hurt too that I could have sat there every sunday and made time for her and introduced my children to her when its all be fake and shes been slagging me off behind my back. I would love to say something to her but I cant for fear of causing problems between me and my partner. He feels torn and its almost li8ke she is trying to make him choose between her or me. I dont want him to choose I was and probably still will be when im less angry more than happy to do the whole family thing with her for his sake.
Sorry this is long but any advice greatfully recieved.
I rarely get internet access so please excuse me if my replies are few and far between. Alot of the time I can read but not post - using a mobile phone so realy will be appreciating your advice before i have to see her tomorrow!
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ShakeysGirl · 26/08/2007 17:41
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