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to fancy someone else even though i am married

(40 Posts)
NeedSomeExcitement Sat 25-Aug-07 16:01:20

i fancy another bloke and have even told my DH about him - he just laughed and said he wouldn't mind if i slept with this other bloke but i reckon he would.

would it be bad to sleep with someone else?

pipsqueeke Sat 25-Aug-07 16:02:32

er yes definatly. opens a can of worms.

magnolia1 Sat 25-Aug-07 16:03:03

No of course not, you have your dh's permission. Off you go......have fun hmm

NappiesGalore Sat 25-Aug-07 16:03:13

yeah right

MyTwopenceworth Sat 25-Aug-07 16:06:05

It's not illegal, if that's what you mean.

An open marriage works for some.

Sounds like your dh was JOKING when he gave you the go-ahead.

Or you are joking now. One of the two.

I don't care if you sleep with someone other than your dh or not. Unless the other bloke is MY dh.

Then I'd kill you and mount your head on my wall.

Next to my dh's testicles.

pointydog Sat 25-Aug-07 16:17:57

sounds like your marriage is shaky anyway so what the hell

LadyVictoriaOfCake Sat 25-Aug-07 16:19:12

i fancy george cloony/ not about to shag him though

allgonebellyup Sat 25-Aug-07 16:25:02

if an open relationship appeals to you then go for it!
i dont see why not! your dh seems fine about it so do it!

all the women on here today are bores.. yawn

pipsqueeke Sat 25-Aug-07 16:26:53

lol. ally - ah if it was david tennant and I had a free pass then that's another case! lol. for a reg joe off the street thou it's another case!

<obv DH would want a free pass with that woman from bones as well>

KerryMumbledore Sat 25-Aug-07 16:27:51

Um fancying someone else is fine...

ACTING on it a completely different ball of wax.

snowwonder Sat 25-Aug-07 16:28:21

life is to short to think about it
JUST DO IT!!!! [WINK]

lucyellensmum Sat 25-Aug-07 16:31:26

mytwopenceworth, i agree.

OP WHY would you want to sleep with another man, SERIOUSLY??? i am attracted to other men sometimes, i bet DP is attracted to other women. Then there is the saying, just because im on a diet............but you only get to look. If you act on your attraction then you would have to question your marriage if you ask me

2mum Sat 25-Aug-07 16:58:43

You mustnt think much of your marriage if you want to get your end away with some other man.angry

allgonebellyup Sat 25-Aug-07 17:07:29

everyone, the OP says her dh thinks its fine, and even if he doesnt, he shouldnt say it then and give her the wrong idea.

why shouldnt she do it??

NutterlyUts Sat 25-Aug-07 17:15:09

Er cause she's married? Go ahead or not it still makes a mockery of the marriage vows...

crokky Sat 25-Aug-07 17:19:32

Don't do it. The consequences are so far reaching and devastating. What starts off as a bit of fun will destroy the lives of numerous people.

DH sounds like he was joking.

BrownSuga Sat 25-Aug-07 17:19:42

hasn't she read of the results of affairs on MN?

crokky Sat 25-Aug-07 17:19:54

BTW alright for you to fancy him, but don't act on it!

allgonebellyup Sat 25-Aug-07 17:20:43

well marriage vows dont exactly mean a lot if you're not religious. so maybe the OP isnt very religious, like myself?

crokky Sat 25-Aug-07 17:23:37

I don't think the marriage vows are the pivotal factor. Presumably the OP lives with DH and has DC? The pivotal factor is the devastation of peoples lives, married or not.

Personally i'm married, but some mnetters choose not to be. Ask them how they would feel if it was their DP! I think they'd take the same attitude as a married person.

pipsqueeke Sat 25-Aug-07 17:31:50

er i'm not religious not in the church etc christian way - neither is DH, but we got married we're a team a partnership. you don't have to be relgious to think having an affair makes a mokery of your marriage vows - after all why bother doing them if you're going to have an affair?

Blandmum Sat 25-Aug-07 17:33:57

Why get married if you intend to shag other people? Why not stay single and be honest about it?

You can look, looking is a human response. But doing more means breaking your word and breaking up other people's lives, and would be a crass thig to do.

divastrop Sat 25-Aug-07 17:35:44

blimey,i would be questioning whether my relationship was over if i had even looked at another man in that wayshock

i know thats not the norm,though,and that alot of happily married/co-habiting women 'fancy' people off the telly etc,but if you are actually thinking of sleeping with somebody else then,unless you both agreed to an open relationship in the first place,you should really end your marriage before you go off with someone else.

btw whats this thing with marriage vows and religion?not everybody gets married in church.

MellowMa Sat 25-Aug-07 17:37:00

Message withdrawn

margosbeenplayingwithmynoonoo Sat 25-Aug-07 17:40:17

"all the women on here today are bores.. "

Pipsqueeke - I read bores as something completely different!

MTPW - shock but my reaction would be similarly violent if dh was ever to play away.

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