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OH and Christmas presents

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theworldhasgonecrazy1 Sat 14-Dec-19 22:56:02

I really enjoy Christmas and giving presents I think people will like and have put a lot of effort into finding thoughtful things for OH. This morning he came in and said that he'd logged into my amazon account and looked at my order history to see what I had got him. I'm really annoyed and have said that I'm returning his presents as he's ruined the surprise and taken the excitement away from Christmas. I know we're adults but I also know that he doesn't get presents from his family and hasn't for quite a few years. This is our first proper Christmas together with DD and I wanted to make it special. AIBU for not wanting to bother getting him anything?

BeanTownNancy Sat 14-Dec-19 22:59:04

I would do the same. I'm 100% a pretty bitch. If he doesn't want me to surprise him, he can buy his own presents.

Skrowten Sat 14-Dec-19 23:00:26

Oh my god. Grow up

Cherrysoup Sat 14-Dec-19 23:01:07

Massive invasion of privacy. Why on earth would he do that?

ErickBroch Sat 14-Dec-19 23:08:23

YANBU. If it was an accident, it's different. He looked intentionally. Return!

HanginWithMyGnomies Sat 14-Dec-19 23:10:36

@BeanTownNancy love that you’re a pretty bitch 😂 made me laugh sorry!

@theworldhasgonecrazy1 I wouldn’t like that one bit!

BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted Sat 14-Dec-19 23:11:54

Is your OH five years old? His behaviour is not a million miles away from me snooping around the top the wardrobe in Mum and Dad’s bedroom!

Return everything

Havaina Sat 14-Dec-19 23:11:55

It looks like he's sabotaging Christmas because you're looking forward it. What's he like day to day?

BeanTownNancy Sat 14-Dec-19 23:14:19

@HanginWithMyGnomies - oh autocorrect, you've fucked me again. grin

I'm a petty bitch!

BackforGood Sat 14-Dec-19 23:15:36

Sounds like you both need to grow up, tbh

steff13 Sat 14-Dec-19 23:17:36

I don't know if I'd return the presents, but I'd be annoyed. Why did he tell you he snooped? That was stupid.

elephantoverthehill Sat 14-Dec-19 23:18:28

He sounds like 'The Grinch' imo

elephantoverthehill Sat 14-Dec-19 23:20:33

Or doesn't really have an understanding of Christmas?

tillytrotter1 Sat 14-Dec-19 23:25:25

OH thought he was logged on to his amazon account, in fact it was mine, and part of my present is still sitting in my basket! I'm waiting for him to realise, maybe when he comes to wrap it up!

escape Sat 14-Dec-19 23:27:38

Just leave them somewhere for him - breakfast table, bedside, wherever - unwrapped & tell him he's taken any element of surprise away plus the joy of giving so he may as well have them now.

bridgetreilly Sat 14-Dec-19 23:29:37

YABU. Maybe you think the fun is in the surprise but not everyone does. How is returning the presents going to improve anyone's Christmas? This way, he'll get presents but no surprise, but you'll presumably still get the surprise you love. Not everyone is the same.

bridgetreilly Sat 14-Dec-19 23:30:20

Plus, if it's not really a thing in his family, why would you expect him to suddenly understand all your excitement around it?

morriseysquif Sat 14-Dec-19 23:31:57

Give him a piece of coal, bah humbug.

SexlessBoulderBelly Sat 14-Dec-19 23:32:49

Aw I’m undecided on this. I’m a massive grinch and hate surprises. I love giving surprises, gifts, cards ect at Christmas. But once someone’s mentioned they’ve got me something I just need to know what it is, I absolutely hate not knowing to the point it makes me feel quite irritable if they keep mentioning it without saying what it is.

But I would never intentionally ruin it for somebody else... I would however beg to know up until the day I unwrap it 🙈😫

PegasusReturns Sat 14-Dec-19 23:34:05

I’d be furious.

Is he trying to sabotage your efforts?!

fligglepige Sat 14-Dec-19 23:37:35

This is pretty low on the list of offences a partner can carry out tbh. He's spoiled his surprises, so don't get him anything else, but don't send back his presents. That's not a nice thing to do.

WhenISnappedAndFarted Sat 14-Dec-19 23:53:58

I think it would be a total overreaction to send the presents back

fedup21 Sat 14-Dec-19 23:58:02

Why would he do that-how odd?!

theworldhasgonecrazy1 Sun 15-Dec-19 00:13:06

I'm more annoyed that we don't have much money so the things I've bought are more small but thoughtful so wouldn't be very exciting if you were expecting them. Like small things he has mentioned he liked from months ago and chocolate he likes that he can't get from England. I do feel a bit like I'm overreacting but can't help but feel annoyed. He's also told me exactly what he's bought me and showed me a few things when they arrived fangry

theworldhasgonecrazy1 Sun 15-Dec-19 00:14:32

Also I don't mind that he logged into the account that's not the problem. He's not controlling and usually I wouldn't mind. It's the fact that he looked on purpose and then told me

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