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To think this is selfish (nativity)

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LolaDabestest Thu 12-Dec-19 19:19:23

My child's nativity today, 2 showings morning and afternoon. My daughter had a decent part with lines...not showing off they started school as a shy quiet child so massive step for her and I wanted to get her part on my phone. Anyway got there 15 minutes early I'm never one of the saddos that arrives early to hog the front row I always just slink to the back.
Bare in mind I was 15 minutes early front row was filled and ended up having to slink to the back.
I looked along the front row and there was literally about 4 parents the rest were obviously extended family bit peeved but hey they obviously got there mega early I don't got time for that shit.

I had to stand at the back zooming in to get a vid of my child which was annoying but hey ho. Anyway my aibu is I later found out that the parents at the front mum, dad, two sets of grandparents had been to both the showings (4 hours apart) and took up half the front row in both shows!! Their child didn't have a speaking part(), it's really pissed me off tbh as they should have at least let other parents have a chance at being at the front to get some decent pics etc. And the fact that it was half their family as well.

Anyway I know I sound precious but without going into things this was a massive moment for my child and it would have been nice to actually have had a decent view and come away with a nice vid of her part.

PristineCondition Thu 12-Dec-19 19:23:41

There was nothing stopping you getting there early too.
Your child's precious moment was no greater then their childs.

Bunnybigears Thu 12-Dec-19 19:25:28

1.Are you allowed to video it?
2.Why do you need a video when you saw it with your own eyes?
3.if it's that important to you then yes you should have got their earlier.

LolaDabestest Thu 12-Dec-19 19:26:19

I did get there as early as I could I had another child to collect first...I don't disagree their child's moment isn't aibu is did they really need to take the whole front row up for both showings?

Floralnomad Thu 12-Dec-19 19:26:53

You should have arrived earlier , that said they should ask which performance you are coming to and only allow people to come to one , can’t imagine why anybody would want to sit through it twice anyway .

LolaDabestest Thu 12-Dec-19 19:29:08

I wanted to video to show my other kids and as I said there were other reasons this was big for me, I didn't want to sit in the front row never have tbh it was just the principle as all of us that had come to the second show didn't even have the option they litrally must have got there half an hour early and as I said I had my younger child so couldn't stand outside waiting for all that time.

LIZS Thu 12-Dec-19 19:30:04

Usually there are limited spaces for each child and extras are allocated later as available. Your choice not to get there earlier, annoying though it may be.

scissy Thu 12-Dec-19 19:30:25

My DD's school only allows 2 people to 1 showing per child for this reason OP.

ohwheniknow Thu 12-Dec-19 19:30:52

So you talk about other people in this unpleasant way in front of your children?

LolaDabestest Thu 12-Dec-19 19:31:08

People had to nip from work, sort childcare, and as I said I had a 2 year old with me so not always possible to get there earlier, I was 15 minutes early. Yes you can video but I only had my daughter on the camera and I don't share on social media anyway just keep on my phone.

LolaDabestest Thu 12-Dec-19 19:33:24

ohwhen wtf are you talking about? What have I said apart from they were selfish why would I say anything in front of my kids? Do you think I sat there pissed off the whole play? I didn't care at the time it was only when I found out afterwards that 6 members of a family had sat in the front row for both showings.

Pud2 Thu 12-Dec-19 19:34:38

Their child didn't have a speaking part


BreatheAndFocus Thu 12-Dec-19 19:34:49

YANBU. It was selfish of them to hog the front row if they’d already seen it and sat there the first time.

Any normal person would sit further back for their second viewing IMO.

But don’t let it upset you. You were there and that’s the most important thing flowers

countdowntochristmas Thu 12-Dec-19 19:35:00

That would annoy me too , people are selfish. I was never able to get a seat at the front either they must get there really early .

LolaDabestest Thu 12-Dec-19 19:35:28

Again I'm not pissed off I wasn't at the front just that no one else that hadn't already seen their child perform was given a chance.

PixieDustt Thu 12-Dec-19 19:36:49

I don't think they should have been allowed to 2 showings imo. Selfish to hug the first row twice.

Love how a thread gets nasty real quick hmm

PixieDustt Thu 12-Dec-19 19:37:22


OhChristmasTreee Thu 12-Dec-19 19:37:25

I’m with you OP. People suck.

Janaih Thu 12-Dec-19 19:37:34

No school lets parents video in this day and age.

LolaDabestest Thu 12-Dec-19 19:37:33

Pud2 knew that would come up! My kids never have speaking parts as they have sen. So I'm quiet proud what I meant by that was there child wasn't a main part etc so they didn't need to seat in the front twice.

user1471549213 Thu 12-Dec-19 19:38:10

You say this was a big achievement for your child for whatever reason...Maybe the same but even more so applied to their child/grandchild. We don't know what is going on in other people's lives. Your got to see your dc's performance and that's the main thing.

10storeylovesong Thu 12-Dec-19 19:38:55

If the front row was taken, why did you have to slink to the back? Was there not a second, or even a third, row?

LolaDabestest Thu 12-Dec-19 19:39:26

As for the videoing it was actually encouraged by the head as long as it wasn't shared.. the school is on Twitter and they share videos on that all the time.

MyDcAreMarvel Thu 12-Dec-19 19:40:07

Our school lets us video.

livingthegoodlife Thu 12-Dec-19 19:40:19

I think your being reasonable at being frustrated. I think the problem with the other family is bringing extended family and going to both showings! So weird.

Last year a woman stood on her chair in front of me to view better. Not at the back but literally in the middle of the audience.

Slightly dreading my DD nativity tomorrow...

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