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AIBU?

To be annoyed with H..

21 replies

Birdgirl67 · 10/12/2019 13:44

H goes out once a week, I'm fine him going out.
However, I am not fine with what happens when he comes home drunk (on a school/work night) ...

He Forgets his key AGAIN and this time he has a long piece of wood and is using it to knock on my bedroom window to let him in at 1am (his phone dead so no option to ring me)

Hes tried to kick the front door in twice after he forgot key and I was asleep

Turns up at 4am - on a work day.

Forgot key when we stayed at his brothers once - at his mums - he woke the house up by knocking loudly at 1am

I had to collect him at 11.30pm in my pjs on one occasion after he had a meltdown in the pub

Fallen asleep drunk with the oven on and me and 3 kids in the house asleep, smoke alarm woke me up.

Fallen asleep drunk after ordering pizza at 3am - I had to see who was knocking on my door at 3am.

Pissed all over his own pile of clothes, while

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mbosnz · 10/12/2019 13:46

Um, I'rem a bit worried that you think there's any possibility that you're being unreasonable.

He's being anti-social, obnoxious, and actually life threatening (the stove) as a result of his drinking.

And I'm hoping you made him clean up the pissed over pile of clothes.

littlepaddypaws · 10/12/2019 13:49

how old is this child ? he wouldn't be living under the same roof as dc and me that's a dead cert. an immature knob and potentially dangerous with the stove.

Thestrangestthing · 10/12/2019 13:51

So he comes home pissed like that during the week, every week?
Does he drive to work the next day?
He's a k ob and I would be telling him if he doesn't stop he can leave because of his dangerous drinking habits.

ILearnedItFromABook · 10/12/2019 13:53

He has drinking problem and/or a maturity problem (if he could stop getting drunk but doesn't bother). This is obvious. The real question is what you'll do about it. As it stands, he's a liability.

SeditionSue · 10/12/2019 13:54

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MadeForThis · 10/12/2019 13:55

Annoyed? I'd be raging. He's acting like a drunk teenager.

littlepaddypaws · 10/12/2019 13:55

i bet his other mum was glad to see the back of him if he behaved like this.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 10/12/2019 13:59

He's be under the patio in my house.

Totally disrespectful of you and your sleep. What a man baby.

Turns up at 4am - on a work day.

I'm assuming that means he was still drunk if he made it to work then; a sackable offence in most places.

Have you tackled him about this? I'd be raging too.

Birdgirl67 · 10/12/2019 14:05

Just to add ..

He came home drunk and referred to me as 'what ever ur name is/want to be called'. We hadn't rowed.

Wakes me up EVERY time he comes in

Stinks of booze and is hungover the next day for work

Insists on groping me when drunk- its vile and makes me feel cheap, low and dirty

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GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 10/12/2019 14:28

Insists on groping me when drunk- its vile and makes me feel cheap, low and dirty

Yuck. He sounds quite disgusting to be honest.

What does he say when you point out how this makes you feel? Or does he not care?

JacquesHammer · 10/12/2019 14:30

He sounds a prize.

What are his redeeming features?

Seriously OP. Get rid.

GertrudeCB · 10/12/2019 14:31

Why on earth are you putting up with this crap?

Bluerussian · 10/12/2019 14:44

Get - rid - fast. He is so obnoxious there are no words to describe the man.

CocoLoco87 · 10/12/2019 14:45

I don't usually suggest LTB but your life sounds chaotic every time he is drunk. It shouldn't be like this, especially with children in the house. Do them and yourself a favour and kick him out.

MrsSiriusBlack1 · 10/12/2019 14:49

🤮🤮🤮get him to fuck, how fucking repulsive

GeorgiaGirl52 · 10/12/2019 14:50

Why are you still with this alcoholic? The next time he leaves his key and comes knocking, call a cab and send him to a mate, a hotel, a relative, the police station, or where ever they will take him.

tensmum1964 · 10/12/2019 23:56

He sounds disgusting.

katy1213 · 11/12/2019 00:07

Bolt the door on the inside, let him knock all he likes but don't let him in. If you're lucky, a neighbour will call the police.
Then insist he goes to AA or you're kicking him out. Now.

1Morewineplease · 11/12/2019 00:16

Never thought I’d say this but...LTB.
Why on Earth are you putting up with this?

In fact , scrub LTB... kick him out!

ChristaMSieland · 11/12/2019 00:47

That does not sound like an adult man who is fun to live with or parent with. He sounds hard work and potentially dangerous. When sober, does he accept he is overdoing it? Do his friends binge drink to the same extent?

MashedSpud · 11/12/2019 00:50

Urgh. Why are you with him?

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