Advanced search wish that the crying baby would stop coming to baby swimming classes...

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jamtomorrow1 Mon 09-Dec-19 09:45:43

My three month old son has always been very jolly in his baby swimming classes and smiles and gurgles his way through them. The sessions are a highlight of the week for me and my husband (how our lives have changed). A new baby has joined the class recently and unfortunately he cries the whole way through every session. I can see how upset and disappointed his parents are about this, and I can see why they want to keep trying... but once Crying Baby starts crying, my son and several of the other babies start crying too in sympathy, and the result is that a previously fun activity is just miserable for all involved. I have the utmost sympathy for mother of Crying Baby but I am concerned that my son is no longer enjoying swimming, and also frankly I am no longer enjoying swimming either! Is there anything I can do other than find another class?!

TowelStripes Mon 09-Dec-19 09:47:13

Hahaha, um, no, there isn't anything you can do confused what do you think we would say, that you ask them to find another class? Give your head a wobble.

thesparrowflieshigh Mon 09-Dec-19 09:47:19


ssd Mon 09-Dec-19 09:49:48

Sorry, but your thread title made me smile. And remember, one of these days your baby will be the crier, when they are teething or just want a cry.

T0tallyFuckedUpFamily Mon 09-Dec-19 09:50:17

You’re going to have great fun once your baby starts nursery or school, OP, if you find this upsetting. The baby may eventually settle, so just cool your jets for a bit. Put yourself in their shoes. Would you want your baby to be chucked out of a swimming class because they get upset. They won’t be the first or the last crying baby.

Kanga83 Mon 09-Dec-19 09:50:46

Yes, yes do suggest they find another solitary class on their own. God forbid a tiny baby cry. I look forward to part two, 'mother of crying baby told me to F off, AIBU?'

PenelopeFlintstone Mon 09-Dec-19 09:50:53

Have they had to pay for a block of lessons in advance? Is that why they keep coming?

ChristmasSpirtsOnTheRocksPleas Mon 09-Dec-19 09:51:03

Why are you making your baby cry? If your child is upset by the sound remove him and calm him down.

Lycidas Mon 09-Dec-19 09:51:06

I wouldn’t put my baby through endless sessions of crying so I don’t get their reasoning (especially since you’re all probably paying a lot of money for the privilege). But they’re probably miserable and fed up and this at least gives them the semblance of a family outing.

Find another class.

Honeybee85 Mon 09-Dec-19 09:52:03

I can see both sides here.
But there is really nothing you can do.

Rest assured that the parents of said baby feel most horrible of everyone attending the class.

IWorkAtTheCheesecakeFactory Mon 09-Dec-19 09:52:51

How would you feel if one day your baby was the first one to cry and the instructor asked you to leave?

nocluewhattodoo Mon 09-Dec-19 09:53:39

FFS you can't blame 'Crying Baby' for the other babies crying.

BlueJava Mon 09-Dec-19 09:55:59

Perhaps you need private lessons for your baby! You can't tell them not to come and everyone's baby cries!

Venger Mon 09-Dec-19 09:57:38

I had to smile at the PFB tone of it all. Heaven forbid the miserable baby should upset your jolly baby grin

They've paid for a block of lessons, of course they'll want to use them. Plus there is often the expectation that you must take your baby swimming, to baby sign, to sensory classes, to rhythm and rhyme, to ARTadventurers, etc or else they'll grow up stunted and antisocial so they'll be mindful of that especially if they're first timers. They probably also think that if they don't persist then the baby won't get used to it and once he's used to it he won't cry.

You're probably just going to have to suck this one up, OP. Move away from them and comfort your own baby if it's bothering him but you can't really do anything about another baby crying when babies often cry.

NotTheMrMenAgain Mon 09-Dec-19 09:58:50

Yes - you should definitely speak to the organiser of the class and ask to have them barred from the group, because they're knowingly upsetting other babies (especially yours) and unsettling the previously chilled dynamic of the whole group.

Say that OP, and come back and let us know how it goes.........FFS.

Have you considered starting a petition against Crying Baby, on the basis that crying babies and their parents shouldn't be allowed to leave the house or interact with society at all?

Pride comes before a fall OP.......

LeeMiller Mon 09-Dec-19 09:59:01

I'm not sure I would persist in bringing him, personally, but hopefully the baby will get used to it and stop crying (if it's crying because it doesn't like the class) Unfortunately babies crying is just something you have to get used to at baby classes/nursery/playgroup, better to focus on distracting your DC.

SlothMama Mon 09-Dec-19 10:03:35

My God babies cry! Go to another class if it bothers you that much....

christmassymcchristmas Mon 09-Dec-19 10:10:24

Definitely start a petition grin

Whattodoabout Mon 09-Dec-19 10:12:00

I suspect they paid for a block as is the norm with this sort of thing and they don’t want to lose the money. I don’t blame them, swimming lessons are expensive.

BeatriceTheBeast Mon 09-Dec-19 10:13:29

Swim classes for babies are more or less pointless in terms of actually teaching them to swim. Why the parents are persisting with classes is up to them, but since your baby is no longer enjoying them, the question is why are YOU still bringing yours? They are meant to be fun.

Venger Mon 09-Dec-19 10:13:35

I mean this kindly, OP but this is only the beginning. Wait until the age of softplay! In every softplay the world over there is always a shrieking child, a crying child, a child that hits, a child that roams around the tables instead of the play equipment, a gang if girls, a gang of boys, a big child in the small area and a small child in the big area.

Celebelly Mon 09-Dec-19 10:15:11

Am I the only one with a baby that doesn't give a shit if other babies are crying? She just carries on grinning and with whatever she's doing. Sometimes she gives a crying baby a hmm face grinMaybe she's a sociopath

User12879923378 Mon 09-Dec-19 10:15:38

You need to find one of those baby swim classes that are only for babies who never get upset fwink

ItWentInMyEye Mon 09-Dec-19 10:15:43


Bluerussian Mon 09-Dec-19 10:16:45

Nothing you can do. All the babies in the class will have a turn at being a 'cry baby', you just have to put up with it I'm afraid.

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