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When people use 'partner' to describe their 'OH'?

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ScreamingLadySutch Sun 08-Dec-19 13:54:41

IF HE IS YOUR DH, SAY SO IN THE FIRST PLACE!

People will twee-ly say 'partner' in describing a problem, then trickle truth much further down, that they are actually married.

or say 'other half' then trickle truth pages later, that they are unmarried.

It completely changes the situation advise wise, FFS!

AIBU

needsomehelptoday Sun 08-Dec-19 13:55:59

Do you think 'other half' means husband?
I think partner and other half are the same thing.
I can't say I've really seen anyone refer to their husband as anything other than DH tbh.

SarahAndQuack Sun 08-Dec-19 13:58:07

Why's it twee?

One reason for saying 'partner' is that, on this forum, if you refer to 'my wife' everyone assumes you're a man. Slightly (though only slightly) less likely if you say partner.

Areallthenamestaken Sun 08-Dec-19 13:58:11

Some people find OH/DH twee.

jaseyraex Sun 08-Dec-19 13:58:31

I've always taken OH to mean long term partner...

MrsMaiselsMuff Sun 08-Dec-19 13:59:16

If you're unsure why not ask? OH and partner are interchangeable, and do not indicate whether married or unmarried.

PremierNaps Sun 08-Dec-19 14:00:17

DH = partnership = Partner

Does it matter? Better than saying 'Hubby'

LoseLooseLucy Sun 08-Dec-19 14:00:27

OH doesn't necessarily mean husband.

snowball28 Sun 08-Dec-19 14:01:22

I say partner or OH. We aren’t married so what else is he? He’s not my DH is he.

SolitaryGrape Sun 08-Dec-19 14:01:35

Nothing ‘twee’ about the term ‘partner’. Quite the reverse, as a lot of people see it as an unromantic term from business or law. hmm

And frankly, unless the term specifically relates to law, finances, divorce, property, inheritance, or someone contemplating becoming aSAHM, it’s generally irrelevant whether the people are in a longterm committed cohabiting relationship or married.

EffYouSeeKaye Sun 08-Dec-19 14:02:16

OH = DP = partner.

DH = married.

That’s how I understand it, anyway.

FallenSky Sun 08-Dec-19 14:02:39

Apart from legal issues etc I'm not sure how being married makes much difference to the advice?

LivingDeadGirlUK Sun 08-Dec-19 14:02:56

The irony of saying 'partner' sounds twee, and that 'DH' is the way to go...

TheBigFatMermaid Sun 08-Dec-19 14:03:25

I don't get why it matters enough to you to even think about it for more than a second, let alone start a thread about it.

DP is my partner/OH/fiance! We've been together years but not got around to getting married!

GidgetGirl Sun 08-Dec-19 14:03:32

I hate using ‘DP’ partly because it’s so twee it’s makes my skin crawl, and partly because the first thing that springs to mind is Double Penetration. So, he’s my partner..

PhoneLock Sun 08-Dec-19 14:03:39

Advise wise?

Greenglassteacup Sun 08-Dec-19 14:05:05

‘Other half’ is utterly dire. I am a whole entire person, not half of a two headed creature

Hedgehogblues Sun 08-Dec-19 14:05:14

I use partner because I only got married for legal reasons. I don't think of myself as anybody's wife

CatintheFireplace Sun 08-Dec-19 14:05:50

Eh?

OrangeZog Sun 08-Dec-19 14:06:33

Perhaps sometimes people think their husband isn’t being a darling at all so would rather refer to him as their partner rather than DH. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Do you object to unmarried people calling their partner’s family their in-laws as well? For some completely irrational reason, that’s my pet hate.

Velveteenfruitbowl Sun 08-Dec-19 14:06:58

Other half doesn’t necessarily mean you’re married. Just that you are an established couple (hence two halves of a whole).

Fraggling Sun 08-Dec-19 14:07:31

Other half doesn't necessarily mean husband though.

Also don't understand why it would make difference to most conversations.

ShinyDolphin Sun 08-Dec-19 14:07:40

I've been with my now 'DH' for over a decade. It got to the point where he had been my boyfriend for many many years and it felt odd to call him my boyfriend as it was such a long term relationship. Over time I started using 'partner' in real life. When he became my fiance I still used 'partner' as what kind of knob goes round in real life saying 'my fiance'? Now that he's my 'DH' I interchangeably say 'partner' and 'husband'. This translates from real life onto MN. I dont think it's a big deal tbh.

Greenglassteacup Sun 08-Dec-19 14:09:03

People with others halves’ are probably the same people who ‘fall pregnant’. Awful terms

Nos123 Sun 08-Dec-19 14:10:26

I say “partner” to describe my boyfriend because we’re not married but we live together and have a child. I’m not tying to be ‘twee’. If I describe him as my boyfriend people assume he’s not the father of my child, probably because we’re in our early 20s- it’s annoying. If I say partner they assume we’re a more committed couple, which we are.

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