To think this is an odd Christmas present

[Moggymorn]

I met up with a friend yesterday for lunch and we usually exchange small gifts, nothing fancy, up to about £20. For reference I got her a nice candle, a mug and some chocs. Just general little goodies.

She gave me a necklace, which is lovely, but it has the name of her daughter engraved on it. It's a lovely necklace and her daughter is lovely, and I'm sure it would be a lovely present for her... but surely it would make more sense to get my own kids names engraved on it?

It was a lovely necklace but I just don't understand! I'm only really posting as dh thinks she might of ordered that one for her and one with my own kids name on for me and got them the wrong way round and said to ask her. Or is this not as weird as it seems in my head?

[abouttime2]

That's really odd. Is the engraving really noticeable ? Wondering if it is a regift and she didn't realise it was engraved?

[AnchorDownDeepBreath]

Oh. I think a mistake has happened... either what your husband said, or maybe she was gifted it and thought you'd love it more, and didn't notice the engraving?

It'd be a bit odd to give other people jewellery with your children's names on... I don't think that'd be deliberate.

[AtrociousCircumstance]

It’s reeeeeeeeeally weird. Really, really weird.

You could ask if there’s been a mix up but then, if she did mean to give it to you, she’ll know you think she’s cray!

[justcly]

I would ask. It is strange, and I can't think of any explanation for it (other than your dh's).

[BlueCornsihPixie]

That's really weird

I would assume a mix up tbh.

[Wantarefund]

You have to ask her and report back.

I think what your OH has said has major plausibility.

[georgialondon]

Sounds like she's regifted it to me.

[Chamomileteaplease]

Was the name not spoken about when you were sitting together?

[CodenameVillanelle]

Someone gave it to her and she never noticed the engraving

[christmassymcchristmas]

Did she mention the engraving? Did you?

Is her child a PFB?

[Moggymorn]

No I was too awkward to say anything to her as I didn't want to offend. It's her pfb and only 7 months old so just didn't want to upset her. Showed dh when I got home who thought it was weird I hadn't mentioned it and said to text her but I've been too worried about offending/looking ungrateful. I will try and word a message. Thanks

[Loveislandaddict]

I think she has got the gifts muddled.

Maybe send her a message along the lines of:
“.. thank you for my lovely gift. However, I noticed it had dc’s name engraved on it. Did you intend to give this one to me?”

[Wantarefund]

Are you going to be DDs godmother or something? I can imagine some parents thinking someone might want this in certain situations.

[Moggymorn]

@Wantarefund No not godmother, she will put "auntie moggy morn love DC name" on cards and stuff. Not actually an auntie but I guess an honorary one. This is my fear that she genuinely meant it and I message her and cause an issue

[Apolloanddaphne]

Message her and say that you noticed the necklace she gave you has her DDs name on it. Say it is really lovely but you just wanted to check that she hasn't mixed up necklaces given you one meant for a relative.

[Whereland]

I would just say nothing and wait, if she realises she'll message you and you can just explain you thought it was probably a mistake but didn't want to say just in case!

[doolaley12]

I wouldn’t message. It’s possibly a mistake and if it is surely she will realise when she opens the other one and contact you. If it is a regift it could be as she is low on funds if still on mat leave and it coming up to Xmas. If this is the case and you message her I’m sure it would cause an issue and is it really worth upsetting your friend over a token gift?

[turkeyontheplate]

It is possible it's not a mix-up and she genuninely thought you would want a necklace with the name of her wunderkind engraved on it. Like the parents who present teachers with a framed photograph of their child as a gift. Odd as fuck, but it happens!

[LemonPrism]

You cups ask what made her t

[Butchyrestingface]

It’s a mistake. Poor woman is probably tearing her home apart looking for bubs’ necklack right now.

[Mama1980]

I think your husband is probably right but maybe phrase the message something like
"I noticed that the necklace has your dds name on it....it's lovely I'm just worried you've mixed it up with a necklace made for family" that way if she says no it's for you, you could reply saying that really sweet or something...how like family you are etc.
But I do agree it's weird!

[Wantarefund]

Bless her, sounds like she does just have PFB syndrome and you’ll need to wear that necklace with pride every time you see her from now on

[Butchyrestingface]

Could you er, “comment” on the name in a way that would alert your friend to the fact the necklace has her baby’s name on it without revealing that you think it’s a strange gift?

Does the name have an unusual or usual spelling?

Ie.

“Oh, thank you so much for the gift, do you know, I always baby’s name was spelt AMY not AMIE. But now I know. ”

[burnoutbabe]

I'd have to ask if it was a mistake. If nothing else it will stop future gifts being engraved with her kids name.
Anyone else who sees it will think you are some weird over invested Aunty type. Or don't know your own name!
Very odd gift!

[diddl]

Who might buy a 7month old a necklace?

Sounds as if it could be a regift to me.

If it's lovely, just keep it & wear it!

If it's a mistake it'll be noticed at some point & can be sorted out then!