Friend not paid for hen party. Would I BU to...

I wouldn't invite her at all. Cut flakey people loose.

Okay I’m going to hate myself for saying this, as what you are suggesting is rude as fuck...

But no YWNBU

runs away and hides

I would ask her one final time and give a date to pay by. If she hasn’t paid I would not send an invite. It’s so rude.

Of course cancel her wedding invitation. I wouldn’t invite her to the evening do either.

Lumbering someone with £100 and having no problem with it morally? Not a friend you want to keep.

I guess it depends on whether you want to continue the friendship or not. If not, then uninvite her.

Evening invitation is a great idea.

You're not actually uninviting her as she hasn't received the invite so yanbu.

I wouldn't invite her to either. She's a complete twat for leaving you £100 short, I'd never dream of doing this to any of my mates.

What's rude AF is to flake out and cost someone 100 quid.

I wouldn’t invite her at all.

Agree, maybe one last reminder to pay by xxx then if she doesn't, don't invite her at all. Nobody needs friends like that.

Yes. I'd withdraw her day invitation. If she asks why then explain that her pulling out of the hen do cost you money and you don't want to have the same happen with the wedding.

Evening invitation sounds ideal.

I wouldn’t invite her to be fair but an evening invitation is a nice gesture if you’re wanting to keep the friendship

I'd send her one last message asking for the money, if she doesn't pay up, don't invite her at all. Not at all unreasonable.

Just the evening invite, she doesn't deserve that though tbh

If you had booked and paid for a place for me (with me having agreed plans) and I needed to drop out, I would ask if there was any way the venue would give you a refund on the unused space. If the answer was No, I would pay up.

Dont invite her to the wedding

I agree.. I would not be inviting her atall.

Did she actually actually say she was coming and was happy with the cost before you booked? And now it’s time to pay for what she agreed to, she’s cancelled and refusing to pay?! I’m astounded someone could be that rude! YWNBU to give her an evening invite but I’d probably go one step further and not invite her at all.

Of course YANBU

the only question is: do you want to invite her at all? If you want to still make an effort, evening is fine.

YADNBU!

Did she actually actually say she was coming and was happy with the cost before you booked?

It's in the OP.

Everyone confirmed they were happy with dates and costs.

YWDNBU

But IWBVU to not come back to the thread and tell us how it goes down

I can't fathom how someone would happily leave a friend £100 out of pocket like that. So selfish!