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Parking Permit Relationship Drama

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DustyVolunteer Tue 19-Nov-19 13:48:05

My boyfriend has been in his flat since January. He has never bothered to apply for a parking permit for the benefit of his family and other guests. So everyone pays, for a limit of 2 hours parking.

After spending a small fortune parking outside his flat, I persuaded him we should look into a permit. My dad is great with forms and paperwork and he took on what was a fairly complicated process as the BF refused to engage. He sat down with my boyfriend, made sure he had all the right supporting documents and correctly submitted the online application.

The application failed once, although the council didn't bother to contact us to explain why. My boyfriend was too lazy to chase up the silence, so dad did it. We tried again but it failed again and I talked the BF into going to the CAB, who made some calls and told us we had to submit again. Back to dad, who did it all again and paid the associated costs. (all boiled down to some tiny misplaced data on the form, that the council didn't have the common sense to correct)

Dad did all this for me, to make parking overnight at my BF's flat free and simple. For us, for the relationship.

Now my BF wants to hold on to the pass, requiring me to call when outside his flat for him to bring it out. And that will still leave me paying meter fees on the times I have to drop by when he's out (such as to collect the items he's often forgotten or needs for work).

I feel the pass should be in my car. He feels it should be in his flat.

Am I being unreasonable?

Celebelly Tue 19-Nov-19 13:49:47

He sounds like a useless ticket.

Shoxfordian Tue 19-Nov-19 13:50:21

Yabu for dating a 12 year old
What is attractive about an adult man who can't fill in a form on his own? Dump the loser

Howyiz Tue 19-Nov-19 13:50:28

You need to grow up and learn how to do 'complicated admin' on your own and you need to drop your equally useless boyfriend!

wendywoopywoo222 Tue 19-Nov-19 13:50:35

I would keep it in my car as you sorted and paid for it. however I would re-evaluate your relationship with him. LaZy and entitled don't make for happy future.

WaningGibbous Tue 19-Nov-19 13:51:45

Imagine living the rest of your life with this idiot. Every thing will be like this.

Do yourself a favour and look upon it as a life lesson - ditch him.

CalmFizz Tue 19-Nov-19 13:52:57

I’d leave the pass with him as you won’t be needing it anymore.

LittleLongDog Tue 19-Nov-19 13:53:22

1) Your BF sounds lazy and self centred.

2) ... a parking permit or the benefit of his family and other guests.
If this is the true reason it was obtained (and not just for your use) then it should remain with him. But as an easier solution for you: you could suggest that you keep it in your car but make sure that he has it when his family and friends are due to visit.

3) Is it possible to obtain more than one visitor permit?

edwinbear Tue 19-Nov-19 13:55:09

I can't get passed the fact you needed your dad to complete the forms for you.

Fairylea Tue 19-Nov-19 13:55:16


I’d leave the bf for this alone.

He doesn’t sound like he’s ever going to be old enough to look after himself let alone any potential kids at this rate!

Clangus00 Tue 19-Nov-19 13:56:16

Hope he paid your dad back?

KnifeAngel Tue 19-Nov-19 13:56:31

He sounds very lazy and childish. If he is being difficult over this then what will he be like over major issues.

DameFanny Tue 19-Nov-19 13:56:46

What other areas of the relationship are you bending over backwards - both financially and extra work-wise - so that he doesn't have to be inconvenienced?

What would happen if you just didn't go to his place, because it's not convenient for you and you don't want to spend the extra money?

Do you end up cooking or cleaning when you're at his place?

ChuckleBuckles Tue 19-Nov-19 13:56:49

I have to drop by when he's out (such as to collect the items he's often forgotten or needs for work)

Why is he not able to sort anything for himself? Why are you racing around to make sure he has the things he needs for work, if he had to go back himself, inconvenience himself and maybe miss out on wages he might buck up his ideas.

Celebelly Tue 19-Nov-19 13:58:12

Did your dad not wonder at why your bf was so uninterested in doing something that would help the person he supposedly loves out? I think I'd be pretty pissed off I was him too, doing all this work and spending money on behalf someone who clearly doesn't give a shit.

weirdsmell Tue 19-Nov-19 13:59:04

You have completely taken over, pushed him to do this and involved your bloody dad.

Maybe he wants to hang on to the permit because it is indicative of his loss of control.

LoyaltyBonus Tue 19-Nov-19 13:59:14

Wow, either your Dad is some sort of saint or he has very low expectations for his daughter.

What are you getting from this relationship?

Hoppinggreen Tue 19-Nov-19 14:00:48

He’s a useless man child isn’t he?
Why are you with him?

Alsohuman Tue 19-Nov-19 14:02:51

I assume he can lick his eyebrows because I can’t fathom any other reason why you’d give him the time of day.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy Tue 19-Nov-19 14:05:05

He couldn't be arsed to sort it out himself = he's a lazy twat or he's just not that bothered about you paying a small fortune to visit him.

Either way I'd be seriously questioning why you'd stay with someone who clearly has zero respect for you (and your Dad).

BunloafAndCrumpets Tue 19-Nov-19 14:10:37

Does he have additional needs OP?

If not, and he has no support other than your dad, I would think very hard about continuing the relationship. What happens if you ever want to live together, buy a house, have children - who will deal with the paperwork associated with those sorts of things?

Dollymixture22 Tue 19-Nov-19 14:12:22

Dump him. He is a lazy, selfish sod.

theemmadilemma Tue 19-Nov-19 14:13:10

Do you want to spend the rest of your life mothering a man?

Let him keep it because you won't need it anymore.

ukgift2016 Tue 19-Nov-19 14:14:24

You got yourself a star there. Damn why can't I find a boyfriend so considerate? You should thank your lucky stars you got a partner so kind and giving.

simplekindoflife Tue 19-Nov-19 14:18:13

I'd bin the BF off! And take the permit with me! Cheeky fucker...

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