She is saying she's not bothered but I can see she's hurt and so am I. We moved about a year ago (abusive relationship, needed to get away), it was quite sudden and she didn't tell anybody until we'd gone. Friends got upset and fell out with her over this, attempts have been made to rekindle contact but they don't seem bothered and it fizzled out. Couldn't get her into a school in the new area (she was Y11 at the time) at that point in the Year and so she wasn't socializing with anybody and I had to pay for her English and Maths GCSE.
She's now in college but she has only been allowed to do a Level 1 Btech due to only having 2 GCSE's, and most of the people in her class have learning disabilities, won't turn up half of the time or barely speak a word of English. DD hasn't been able to forge any friendships.
Her birthday was 2 days ago (am only making this post now as
I hoped something would come in the post a bit later but it didn't) and other than the stuff I got her (and the tenner bank transfer she got off her dad), she's got zilch. Fuck all. Not even a card. Didn't expect anything off friends but there's been nothing from my family or her dads family. Granted my parents are dead and my 2 sisters live 2 hours away and have a lot going on (grandchildren etc), but is it really hard to just write up a happy birthday message on Facebook? I did post something on my wall wishing my DD a happy birthday hoping to remind people and I know people read it but nobody sent her anything. It's Dsis's DIL's birthday next week and I was going to get her something but now I don't want to.
Nothing off her aunt and uncle on her dad's side either, she has a grandma alive through her dad but she has late stage dementia.
I know DD is upset because she said sarcastically to me before "I'll put a thank you message up for all of the good wishes.", and she was in bed all of her birthday checking her phone. In a way I want her to so everybody will see it.
I know this will be forgotten soon enough but I am so heartbroken for her. I know she's had a really hard time of it recently and I've booked 4 days in New York for us before Christmas with the last savings I had (her dream holiday) so at least she's got that to look forward to but I feel I've failed her.
AIBU?
DD got fuck all for her birthday from anyone
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