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To tell newly vegan guest to bring their own dish on Christmas Day?

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GunpowderGelatine Mon 18-Nov-19 13:09:06

I'm hosting Christmas day at my house this year, not something I've done in ages. There's ten of us, including the kids, which is a great number - my plan, like every year I cook, is to order M&S food and pick it up on Christmas Eve then just bung it all in the oven and make some homemade gravy. I usually get a pork joint as I'm not a turkey fan, but will also be getting a turkey joint for my guests. I'm not usually the type to stress about Christmas dinner (it's only a roast after all!) but I also want it to be as simple as possible. One of my guests has declared they are now vegan. Which is a bit of a PITA for dinner if I'm honest as I'll have to sort a vegan main, gravy, dessert etc. I also have a nut allergy sufferer in the group which excludes quite a lot of vegan options as mains.

WIBU to ask the newly vegan guest to bring their own dish on the day or is that really rude? I've kind of planned the food around the size of my oven/hob and could do without the added stuff having to go in it (don't mind warming something up though)?

MonstranceClock Mon 18-Nov-19 13:10:39

I would. It’s a pain. My daughter had allergies and I always just bring her own food.

cuddlymunchkin Mon 18-Nov-19 13:10:41

That's what I would do, I can't see what complaints they could have about that really.

Winterdaysarehere Mon 18-Nov-19 13:11:27

Yanbu to suggest they cater for themselves imo.
You have 9 others to organise.
If it's a fad they may be carnivorous by 25/12 anyway!!

dustyphoenix Mon 18-Nov-19 13:12:01

If you're buying pre--prepared anyway, I don't know why you can't just add that to your food shop - make it microwaveable if you're concerned about oven space. I understand not wanting to make something from scratch if that's what you're doing for everyone else, but if you're buying in anyway then it seems a bit churlish exclude just one guest, especially when there's no shortage of pre- prepared vegan options in the shops.

Lockheart Mon 18-Nov-19 13:13:04

If you're not going to have the space in your oven I think it's reasonable. Plus, depending on how strict a vegan they are, they might not want their food in the oven at the same time as non-vegan food.

pugparty Mon 18-Nov-19 13:13:57

You're already serving two kinds of meat for people's choices and avoiding nuts in order to be a good host, how can adding a vegan option be that much harder? Either cater to your guests needs or don't bother.

charm8ed Mon 18-Nov-19 13:14:02

YANBU

Alsohuman Mon 18-Nov-19 13:15:23

Welcome to my world - one vegan, one vegetarian, one gluten intolerant and neither the vegan nor vegetarian eat mushrooms! I’ve ordered a vegan main and veggie gravy from M&S and sourced a vegan Christmas pudding - a surprising number are.

It’s not buying the stuff that’s the faff, it’s all the extra cooking on a day when the oven’s too small anyway.

misspiggy19 Mon 18-Nov-19 13:15:52

YANBU- I would do the same

WorraLiberty Mon 18-Nov-19 13:16:14

You're not really cooking dinner anyway if you're just slamming pre-prepared stuff in the oven.

Why not buy something you can pop in the microwave?

Emeraldshamrock Mon 18-Nov-19 13:16:39

It seems cheeky. Though I would ask if your friend is a strict OTT vegan.
I have one friend who would need a breakdown of any possible cross contamination in the oven.
My Dsis is a vegan she would be happy to eat the potatoes and veg for dinner.

GunpowderGelatine Mon 18-Nov-19 13:16:56

@dustyphoenix I don't have a microwave and the problem is M&S vegan options seem to all consist of nuts, which is why I'd prefer to save the bother of finding something and just ask them to bring whatever they now eat as long as it's nut-free

Turniptracker Mon 18-Nov-19 13:18:08

Yabu, go to aldi and buy them something. It will make a world of difference if you make that small effort to make someone feel included. I'm not a vegan but I am gluten free and I got sick to death in the early days of people complaining about my diet needs and making me feel bad (wasn't a lifestyle choice it was a medical need!!) but wouldn't bat an eyelid if they needed to provide a vegetarian option. Just be nice, it's not that difficult to accommodate these days.

GunpowderGelatine Mon 18-Nov-19 13:18:23

My guest is vegan not because they object to animal cruelty but because they are on a bit of a detox and purging meat and dairy from their diet. So stuff in the same oven would be fine! I think

charm8ed Mon 18-Nov-19 13:19:24

Slightly different subject- Last year Asda’s mince pies were vegan and delicious so you could check those out.

WorraLiberty Mon 18-Nov-19 13:19:38

I don't have a microwave and the problem is M&S vegan options seem to all consist of nuts, which is why I'd prefer to save the bother of finding something and just ask them to bring whatever they now eat as long as it's nut-free

If they can find something nut-free then so can you.

Why not ask them what you can get for them?

CandlesAreHere Mon 18-Nov-19 13:20:04

YANBU. Pain in the arse.

Mooserp Mon 18-Nov-19 13:20:39

You could just get a vegan meat substitute - a Quorn escalope or the one of those really meaty looking ones. They can still have the veg and potatoes (assuming you don't use animal fat)

SmallPinkBear Mon 18-Nov-19 13:20:59

Whilst I would tell them to bring their own I don’t think this one has nuts in it and you could just collect it at the same time

Mrsjayy Mon 18-Nov-19 13:21:24

Ask your vegan guest what tgey would like and but it from M&S

getyourgrooveback Mon 18-Nov-19 13:22:03

As a Pp said, you're hardly cooking by just bunging it all in the oven so just get an extra vegan pre-prepared main and add it in there. It's nice if you're being hosted that the host actually makes an effort for you.
You could maybe ask if they bring their own dessert but please make a small effort for them at least.

Alsohuman Mon 18-Nov-19 13:22:05

A lot of mince pies are vegan. I’ve been searching out vegan options for ten years now and am finding it so much easier these days.

Emeraldshamrock Mon 18-Nov-19 13:24:37

My guest is vegan not because they object to animal cruelty but because they are on a bit of a detox and purging meat and dairy from their diet
Similar to my Dsis.
She has an autoimmune disease it is healthier.
In that case offer potatoes veg vegan gravy, pick up some quorn.
I don't think it is a huge deal if they are invited for Christmas dinner afterall.

Mrsjayy Mon 18-Nov-19 13:26:00

Excuse my typosblush

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